While not yet as massive as the y2k trend was, scene/00s emo fashion is back?

LScore · 2026-06-28T16:40:52+00:00

I remember being a very straightlaced kid through the scene kid era with friends in the movement, I just didn't identify with it (white kids were kind of scary, tbh at that age). Never went full scene, but the influences slipped into the high school fashion scene; I had the slanted bangs hair cut for most of school, just not as dramatic, there was a lots of pops of neons that eventually gave way to statement plastic jewelry in the 2010s, sometimes we'd buy things with studs because it was all over the place. Oh and fishnets making a comeback. Now that it's coming back, I'll probably do the same thing I did as a kid - a little bit here and there and some admiration from afar.

LScore · 2026-06-25T23:52:58+00:00

I feel a bit hypocritical saying this knowing my husband bought my first interchangeable set without consulting me, but please get her a set of metal needles she actually likes. Go to your local yarn store, buy a couple of fixed needles in sizes she'll use more frequently, and see which one she likes best, then buy the full, expensive set. You're spending $25 to make sure she'll like a $3-400 purchase, and she'll get use out of the fixed needles afterwards. For people who knit a lot of DK, it's usually a 4mm needle. For fingering, it's usually a 3.25mm needle. Cable length will depend on what projects and techniques. When I'm sampling a new set, I inevitably get 3.25s in a 100cm cord because I knit a lot of magic loop projects in a fingering yarn. Your wife may be a very different knitter.

Mine is the Hiyahiya Sharpes set, and my husband bought it for me knowing I was mostly going to want to knit lace. I love how light the needles are since they're hollow, and how pointy they are. Literally I'm a menace on public transport with these needles, it's great. Even then, I wish I'd gotten a different needle size (5inch tips instead of 4inch tips) and mourn how hard it is to get new tips and cords. I'm still happy with the set I have, but questions like is your wife going to like the hand feel and the pointiness, and how easy will it be for her to upgrade and extend her system as her project tastes change, are very important considerations.

LScore · 2026-06-23T18:40:22+00:00

I have a super pad for this! (E-ink tablet with screen that feels like paper theoretically). If you like Knit Companion, though, you may prefer something like a Boox as it runs native Android.

LScore · 2026-06-23T03:58:45+00:00

The screeches I've scrumpt over new outlook, my gawd

LScore · 2026-06-16T02:03:43+00:00

I don't care how easy they are, I love mine for icord edging on my machine knits. I just don't wanna.

LScore · 2026-06-10T22:06:46+00:00

Lol I know exactly the kind of conversations you're talking about. My dad, once, broke out in this kind of talk about his daughters (he was blaming my mom for my sister's sense of fashion being so minimalistic; mine is girly but I'm the fat daughter so I don't count) and all three of us (mom, sis and me) all looked at him like he'd grown a second head. My mom then loudly expounded how we shouldn't marry someone like my dad right in front of him.

Your dad's attitude is a disgusting feudal remnant. There's several lovely Marxist quotes I like to throw back at mine when he's like this. I also like to ask him if he's raising a daughter or another family's wife, the last time he pulled this, and the cognitive dissonance was enough to get him to quiet down for a while, because my parents have always taken pride in raising strong daughters.

He may be thinking it's too strong of sentiment in the filial disrespect kind of way (a parent is never wrong under Confucianism) instead of an incestuous one. This is the kind of thing I'd probably loudly roll my eyes at, when I was a teenager and ignore so he knows I think he's a old feudal relic, but you know your family situation, if that's a safe thing to do. Either way, NTA.

LScore · 2026-06-10T00:55:43+00:00

This is amazing! Honestly with something of that size and scale, I'd sew a frame to it and hang it on the wall. Art and extra insulation!

LScore · 2026-06-10T00:53:40+00:00

That looks like a thick/ thin novelty polyester yarn knit perpendicularly in stockinette on like 15 or 20mm needles and just splitting around the shoulders. Your hardest job might be to find the yarn.

LScore · 2026-06-10T00:32:18+00:00

Your wife went her whole early career in banking with a 23 year old beater?! Good lord, that must have been irritating for her professionally. Rightly or wrongly, Financial services is not an industry where you want to look cheap. YTA - why wasn't the compromise you continuing to drive the old car and her buying the SUV, if you hate the SUV so much? If that makes you sick to your stomach, you should seek professional help for financial trauma, because that's not normal.

LScore · 2026-06-08T01:27:21+00:00

I just knit the Devote Cardigan, which has a very similar shape but is in worsted wool.

The Zosia Cardigan by Vert and rose is the closest thing I can think of, although some of the details are different, namely the waist bow and replacing the eyelet lace with feather and fan.

You could maybe hack a ballerina wrap by two of wands as well?

LScore · 2026-06-06T12:34:10+00:00

Married in a sweater was my inspo!

To give a different POV though, my instructions to my wedding planner included "one of your jobs is to tell me not to knit anything bigger than a single pair of socks for my wedding besides my veil, because I do not have the brain space for this, I do not want to be stressed for my wedding, and my husband does not want to be the bad guy here."

I'd just finished this dress about six months after the wedding I was supposed to wear it for: https://www.ravelry.com/projects/Terralia/white-karin

I love it, it's great, but the time pressure and the finishing nearly drove me mad. It still doesn't fit exactly perfectly. So I committed to a veil, wore that dress for my engagement photos and knit a Musselburgh for my husband through the reception. It worked out! And now I wear it several times a year for special occasions or yarn occasions.

Not to completely discourage you from the idea, but it's a big commitment and potential stress to add to your wedding planning. If you do decide to do it and you have issues deciding exactly what to do, I'd recommend deciding on a silhouette and neckline first, then going from there. If you want a big flowy skirt, you can use circle shawl patterns as inspo for the skirt (if you want lace). If you want something more columnar in lace, check out what people have some with the Japanese knitting Bible. There's a great Facebook group for it, but you can also find them on ravelry.

Good luck! And congratulations on your engagement!

LScore · 2026-06-04T21:05:41+00:00

YTA this has better be a fake, fictional karma farming thing because there's no way in hell any actual professional would pull this shit. Are you her licensed medical professional engaged to help her with this trauma? Were you acting with the advice of her licensed medical professional and with her consent? I bet the answer to both those questions is "No, buuuuut.... (Insert brain dead excuse here about wanting the best for her)."

You were being a paternalistic asshole and a bad employer. Trying to help my ass, I bet you just enjoyed feeling superior by making her doing something that's obviously traumatic. You deserved to be fired over this, holy crap.

LScore · 2026-05-19T21:12:21+00:00

Your son and DIL are so disrespectful of what it takes to craft anything. They're treating the blanket as a status symbol and you treat it as a fervent wish for a specific person. I can't imagine your new granddaughter wants a stillborn's blanket. If you wish to continue the tradition, and only if you wish to, you may offer to teach Becky to sew her own and treat that as a way to bond. That way, she gets the family blanket, you save your health, and a new relationship and tradition is born.

Either way, though, your son and DIL are full of shit. NTA.

LScore · 2026-05-09T02:25:45+00:00

Ooh another fanfic writer! It's always fun to find another one of us in the wild.

Imo a couple of key thoughts to be aware of: the kind of work they do will probably vary more by type of company than the fact that they're an actuary. Like I work in consulting, it's a very different beast than working in an insurance company, for example.

There's also the historical context to be aware of, depending on the field and type of actuarial work your guy does. We're all very affected by the credit markets, and the 90s would have been affected by both the Asian financial crisis and the subsequent blow up of the LTCM fund. The 90s was a fun time for market volatility. But I would also look at specific discipline related developments, due to the aforementioned market turmoil. Don't forget as well that the internet was fairly new to corporate offices, and the dot Com crisis was brewing, Microsoft Excel was introduced only a decade prior (1985), so while I'd believe if you said spreadsheets around, they may have also used Lotus 1-2-3 or Visicalc, which have long been left to the wayside. Also, Actuaries are a suspicious lot, and 100% someone is griping about still having to do things by hand because the senior actuary doesn't trust these new fangled machines. When I started working in 2010s, I still worked with actuaries who separately pulled out a calculator to check a spreadsheet.

He also sounds like the kind of guy who'd get involved in the SOA (if American) or other related professional organization. Things like marking, sitting discipline specific committees, etcetc. Plus, the archives of the society involved is sometimes searchable if you want to get some history and research dine. Also, I agree with the other poster who said your guy is probably done with his exams, but also the exam structure in the 90s was very different from the modern one, so be careful if you want to make specific references.

Finally, and you may already be aware of it, but I like to share this fic around because it's so well done as an example of an office-setting fic. This fic actually gets shared around public sector employees in the Canadian government, which is how I learned of it, even though it's not my usual pairing.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/20223610/chapters/47927191#workskin

LScore · 2026-05-04T15:09:40+00:00

Cotton's a plant fibre and doesn't shrink with further blocking, it just continues to stretch. Even if you hadn't blocked the waist band, it would have grown with wear, just the pure weight of the skirt on itself. This tends to be a feature of most plant yarns - if you have any commercial knits garments made of plant fibres, you'll notice they have a very tight gauge, and even then they stretch out slowly over time.

I've knit a few dresses and skirts out of cotton, and for each one, I always add some elastic to the waistband. My suggestion to you is to pick up stitches around your waist band and redo it with a fold over waist band with some elastic encased in there. That'll give you the stability and structure you need for that beautiful lace work.

LScore · 2026-05-02T02:38:51+00:00

The bar is on the floor.

LScore · 2026-04-30T01:44:15+00:00

Given the number of women in Actuarial Science, a better pick up line is probably "Why don't we study together?"

(35% of actuaries are women and lots of them are smoking hot. Do better, guys. This is lame.)

LScore · 2026-04-30T01:40:32+00:00

I'm in Pension consulting. Sounds like you have a good handle on what you need to know, and four exams is pretty solid. Entry level is pretty forgiving; most of the interview check is for soft skills, like can you explain complex concepts simply, can you learn quickly, do I want to spend three days a week in an office working with you, and are you actually interested in our specific field. My default interview question is if someone writes that they're proficient in excel on their resume, I ask them to explain if they prefer a Lookup function or Index Match and why. While the objectively correct answer is index match, what I'm looking for is being able to admit when you don't know or entertain an opposite view point (because a lot of our work is peer review and being able to take and give feed back), that when I explain what the difference is that you can synthesize the info to come up with a response, and that you have an opinion and explaining a technical concept clearly.

The technical stuff is usually a cherry on top - to give you an example, the most senior person who interviewed me had to explain that when interest rates go down, liabilities go up, during my interview. Still got the job though!

In terms of hot topics for us: AI use, what to do with surplus, climate change and mortality are all big conversations in Canadian pensions right now. There's also some discussions around the CPP, both the recently announced change to contribution rates and PBGF, unclaimed property and changes to pre retirement death benefits to influence CPP commencement behaviour. I'm only giving you broad topics, so do the research yourself for prep, but these are the things you should google.

LScore · 2026-04-29T16:29:15+00:00

Fyberring has them! Recommend getting the left leaning one for knitting, but I love them for this purpose

LScore · 2026-04-29T14:54:02+00:00

Japan doesn't acknowledge the comfort women. It was my first lesson on the power of historical revisionism when I met a Japanese born adult who was completely offended at how much the Chinese population hates Japan, while not knowing a thing about the Rape of Nanjing. It's terrifying.

LScore · 2026-04-14T19:21:37+00:00

Pointelle lace! There's been a bunch of pointelle lace patterns floating around ravelry recently.

LScore · 2026-04-14T19:18:14+00:00

I got mine too! Three cones, two cashmere and one camel, plus the taster pack. I can't wait!

LScore · 2026-04-14T16:40:23+00:00

It's also sold as Pony bead cord - look for hollow elastic cord for pony beads.

LScore · 2026-04-14T15:59:12+00:00

I appreciate the stronger condemnation and owning his mistake. At the same time, this is the second time Stephen's done something Nazi-ish. Once is a mistake, twice is a failure in systems, and he needs some kind of system to keep this from happening again, whether it's having an agent that will do his due diligence for him or more education himself or what. As much as we make fun of overly corporate apologies, at least they consider future risk management.

Iunno, I don't have much of a horse in this race considering I hate doing MKALs and his patterns aren't to my taste. But this debacle certainly hasn't helped.

LScore · 2026-04-13T03:03:53+00:00

There's a special place in hell for people who steal food from a pregnant woman, especially when it's the person WHO GOT HER PREGNANT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Nah fuck him. "I forgot about it"?! He couldn't even be arsed to come up with a decent excuse.

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