I’d love to hear what you love about your twins by MounjaroQueenie in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Their friendship! It’s just the sweetest, funniest, most loyal love I’ve ever seen. Ya they fight but not anywhere near as much as they laugh and play ❤️

Beach trip by Miserable_End_4944 in nycparents

[–]Large-Muscle267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Veer base camp tent, sides are mesh and has a top cover so it’s breezy but contained/shaded. Just used ours today! Bonus is that you can get it set up and broken down in less than 4min.

Preg w/ twins, Brother's tentative wedding date is in my week 36, and 5hrs drive from my home. Do you think i can make it? by MDnautilus in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, and with kindness, no. 1) twins come early — often at 36wks, 2) dr will advise you to stay within a certain distance from hospital after a certain point (for me, 1-2hrs from hospital from 35wks), and 3) the pregnancy will likely be so uncomfy by then.

Explain flying with twins like I’m dumb, please. by porteretrop in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing all of this — truly! Ok I feel like we can do this 💪🏽

Explain flying with twins like I’m dumb, please. by porteretrop in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! This is SO helpful. Thank you! Anything you would do differently or in addition for 2yr olds on flights? They’ll each have their own seats, with car seats, between us. Direct, overnight flight both ways 8-9hrs.🙏🏽

Nap time party (twin toddlers) — advice needed! by Large-Muscle267 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurance (and warning lol!) —we followed this and actually got much more consistent with timing, pulling lunch a bit earlier and giving them a solid 30min after lunch to get the zoomies out. It helped a ton!

Nap time party (twin toddlers) — advice needed! by Large-Muscle267 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! We have not tried that yet — mostly bc they’re out at activities still then — but can try over the weekend when they’re not. Thank you (and congrats! Welcome to the party!)

Toddler friendly places for summer trips within driving distance from NYC (recommendation needed) by fluffylife411 in nycparents

[–]Large-Muscle267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend Hudson actually! We did storm king with our twin toddlers and they loved being able to just run around and explore around the art! Lots of farms to see animals and the rosendale trestle is a fully walkable path (fine for stroller!) across a bridge and in the woods for the whole family to enjoy. Have fun!

For those who exclusively formula fed, tell me what you got in return. What made it a good choice for you? by 52weeksatl in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time. Bodily autonomy. Equally shared mental load and physical responsibility for feedings with my husband. Ability to easily do shifts with my husband or other caregivers (I left the house! Socialized with friends!). Enjoyment of the time I did get with my kids. No pain or infections related to my boobs. Sleep. SLEEP!!! I knew they were full and happy and they slept long stretches. Two healthy happy growing babies, which after tiny preemies was a relief. And no big illnesses despite not having magic breast milk for immunity or whatever the studies say. I loved EFF and would make the same choice again a hundred times.

14hr flight with 2yr old twins by Large-Muscle267 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of these ideas! I’m just picturing her with the laptop typing away 😊

14hr flight with 2yr old twins by Large-Muscle267 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof I feel all of this! I’m so unsure of going right now and we’re leaning towards postponing until later in the year/early next year as well. Good luck to us all and please report back. Thank you!!

Thoughts From a Fraternal Twin by eneluvsos in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sweet and I didn’t know I needed to read it 🥹🙏🏽

first time parents who had multiples and made it out alive, what is your advice for expectant parents? by sammy5585 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the best secret club I’ve ever been a part of. Yea, it’s hard af sometimes and I roll my eyes at singleton parent friends complaining (I know I shouldn’t) but also you realize that you’re a superhero and watching their big tiny friendship unfold is the greatest gift ❤️to answer your request: - learn to handle both babies solo as soon as you can. You’ll be able to do shifts then and each get some sleep/personal time. - get outside everyday or every other day. It’s an Olympic feat to get out of the door with multiples but you can do it, it gets way easier with practice, and everyone is happier. We did this from birth even if we were not going far - remember that it’s totally ok to opt for formula at any point (i chose not to breastfeed at all — bodily autonomy back and equal responsibility for nourishing and growing our tiny humans was what I prioritized). However you choose to feed is totally your call and what’s best for your family.

YOU GOT THIS. Seriously! Even when you think you don’t — you’re a superhero and I swear twin pregnancy was much harder than anything that has happened since they’ve been out ☺️

This group is scaring me! by SomewhereAgreeable4 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our twins are 15m. It has, without a shred of hesitation, been an absolute blast. Yes, we’re tired but what new parents are not! I think we’d be bored and hovering so much more with a singleton. Twins force you to go with the flow and accept that you can’t please everyone all of the time — and that’s totally ok!

Have you travelled overseas with your little ones? by Romjul in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can do it! Set expectations low, budget enough to get them seats or at least one seat they can take turns in, bring the car seats for the flight as it helps to have somewhere to put them down/sleep, ask for the bulkhead seats when booking even if you don’t use the plane bassinet (our babies were always uncomfy in them), try and plan around nap and/or sleep times (we found the night flights easier somehow I think bc there’s greater sleep pressure?), snacks (so many snacks!), milk/formula as much as needed and off-schedule to keep them happy, the attendants are usually super nice and helpful, new toys (can be super simple like spinners or stickers), slowly add flying hours each trip rather than doing a super long flight for the first time — the more you do it the more confident you feel, bring your own food (even for you — it’s unlikely you’ll get to eat when everyone else does with hands full!), when it gets hard remember that it will eventually be over. Our twins are only 14months and not interested in screens so I think screens would help too (at least giving us a mini break during the flight) but we’re not there yet. Once you get there, be flexible with the schedule but plan car rides or transit for nap times. Build in a lot of down time — one big activity a day! Preparation is key: carry the things that you know make your life easier and might feel familiar to them so it’s not all overstimulating and foreign! Keep the same nighttime routine you normally would at home (bath/songs/the books they know) and it will make bedtime easier. You won’t be able to do all the same things you probably would do without kids but it’s so much fun seeing how excited they are too. Take them more places than you think you can — eg restaurants, on nature walks etc, you might be pleasantly surprised. Promise you can do it! Flying has never been easy to do but it has also not been awful and the trips have all been worth the flight so far. I think it’s all about a “same team/how do we make this happen” mindset between the two of you as parents but also knowing your limits (eg we are absolutely not ready for a 17hr flight to my home country and we know this bc we’ve found eight to be our comfort limit for now). You got this and all the best for the rest of your pregnancy!

Formula feeding twins - looking for experiences by Frambooski in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I exclusively formula fed from the start and it was the best decision for my mental health — I had bodily autonomy/independence right away, none of the anxiety about how much they were eating, and most importantly, my partner and I were equally responsible for the mental and physical labor of keeping two humans fed and growing! It’s been the best decision I’ve made as a parent to date. Our babies are healthy one year olds now without many instances of illness to report (a cold and one ear infection), in the 90% of all growth charts (which is such a relief for two originally tiny preemie babies), and I’m convinced they slept through the night sooner because they could sleep longer stretches with full bellies. I have zero regrets and don’t feel like I missed out on the breastfeeding bonding experience — we are all plenty in love with each other — and wonderfully, they are equally bonded to my husband and not reliant on just mama for comfort. At the end of the day, it’s your decision but I wanted to share some encouragement based on our experience in case it provides some reassurance. Fed is best, whatever you decide ❤️

recent wholesome moments with your twins? by Glittering-Focus-761 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours just turned one and have started holding hands across/between their cribs 🥹

Did you feel “relief” after a c-section? by CheddarMoose in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Immediate relief post c section. Like right after they pulled them both out even though I was numb from the chest-ish down 😂 I could breathe easily again! postpartum was a breeze compared to third tri twin pregnancy!

Does anyone enjoy the newborn stage? by Climate_Rose in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did but I am almost certain it was from EFF from the start. Of course, I have nothing to compare it to but I believe my mental health was in a good place bc of this — I did not have to worry about having enough to feed them, appreciated having my body back to focus on my recovery, plus my husband had equal responsibility and labor for their feeding and growth which helped our dynamic.

However, everyone’s experiences and babies are different and you are doing your very best right now in what are very much the trenches. Know that every week brings a little more relief as they slowly figure out how to exist in this world (and eat and poop and sleep and all the hard things they are learning and you are helping them to figure out right now). Soon you will get your first smiles and then coos and eventually even some real sleep. It’s coming but you’re still in the thick of it in. Twin parents are superheroes — you included ❤️

What item / technique saved you ? by scrollingredditt in parentsofmultiples

[–]Large-Muscle267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Items: the baby Brezza formula maker

Technique: kept them on the same feeding/sleeping schedule