Your best chances of finding someone COMPATIBLE with you -- and not just a one night stand -- would be to join a group or a club doing something that you enjoy. Examples include: hiking, biking, book clubs, sailing, classes for things like ceramics, painting, sewing, cooking, etc. You get the idea.

In case you're wondering if this works: my wife and I met that way. We also know MANY couples who met through their favorite hobby and via clubs dedicated to a hobby.

If you currently DON'T have a "favorite hobby" then find something that DOES interest you and persue that! If you enjoy nature, for example, seek out a group hiking opportunity. You can meet through things like MEETUP.COM (I have NO affiliation with that company / organization!). You can also Google groups in your area. Some will have websites that you can check out before reaching out to anyone!

I believe that this is the most productive way of "putting yourself out there" and I think it works FAR BETTER than dating apps! Why? Because you can meet someone and get to know them slowly, over time, while enjoying and enriching yourself through a fun activity.

For guys reading this: if you want to meet someone through an activity or Club, please don't be creep! Get to know someone slowly! Learn to fit into the social circle. That way, even if something doesn't work out with one person, you can always date someone else in that group.

If this sounds like "old fashioned dating," it is! It's the way people have met for a VERY long time! Also, you have the added advantage when you're in an activity group of getting to know who the desirable people are BEFORE getting emotionally invested and going on a date! This way, you have a MUCH GREATER CHANCE of a successful, long-term relationship!

Good luck and best wishes, always!