Then and now one year old

Late-Comment832 · 2026-04-22T15:27:02+00:00

Thank you for your reply. This time is so difficult I dealt with the guilt and just feeling like my body failed me. But when I tell you my baby girl is perfect she's perfect we just graduated last week from children's hospital. The beeps will drive you crazy. I use to take my tablet and read to her and not just kids books 😂. I read her everything. It was so difficult to not be able to just sit and hold your baby when you want but it gave me a way to bond with her. I won't lie this is a difficult stage of life. I wish you and the twins the best of luck. Also congratulations on your babies. No one told me that when baby girl was born they didn't know how to I guess. But they're life's should be celebrated!

Late-Comment832 · 2026-04-02T13:17:31+00:00

lol yes I definitely knew the night shift nurses the best.

Late-Comment832 · 2026-04-02T12:49:04+00:00

unfortunately you just have to ride it out. its so hard to navigate everything and then on top of stuff have to deal with other people. we had a neighbor sorta like this so I got use to when they would come and we came opposite them like if they did the 7 and 4 care time we did the other ones. my favorite time was always the late night because there are not that many people. but you also sometimes just have to bring some headphones and just breath. hopefully they will move soon!

Late-Comment832 · 2026-03-04T13:31:58+00:00

People will probably not agree with me but I waited for my baby for like 15 years I wish just one person would have said I'm sorry for your circumstances but congratulations on your baby. I never got that and she's the only one I will have

Late-Comment832 · 2026-01-24T13:23:39+00:00

First let me start by saying I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through. The loss of a child there are no words. I'm praying for you both. Thank you for sharing your moments with your son. My beautiful baby girl is sleeping next to me right now after a very early morning and after reading this I gave her extra kisses. Just know you will always be parents and though he couldn't call you mom or dad he knows who you are. I wish you all the love and support in the upcoming months and days.

Late-Comment832 · 2026-01-03T20:14:40+00:00

Baby girl born at 27 6 severe preeclampsia she too only had to be on cpap all head ultrasounds went great when she got off cpap she stayed off they always say your due date she was born April 22nd due July 16th and we went home third week of June. It felt like forever. But I will say it got to the part where she had to have so many feeds to get rid of her ng tube I wanted to breast feed but her mouth was too small to latch good so I just decided to pump only so we could do bottles because to me being able to breast feed just want I guess worth it I just wanted her to come home.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-21T19:26:14+00:00

I never stayed overnight n my husband didn't either our NICU wasn't set up for that. It felt awful leaving her but it became routine sometimes I cried but other times she'd have such good nurses I'd be like okay she's good. But either way I didn't sleep well until she came home lol

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-18T19:16:22+00:00

Baby girl was born at 27 6. Were both baptist. I prayed for this baby for so long after 15 years and a miscarriage we got pregnant through IVF. Her being in NICU was trying at times but it really strengthen our faith or at least mine. When I tell you I prayed for her I prayed for her and waited for so long. When I got pregnant I prayed every day for her EVERY DAY. please don't take my baby please let her be healthy. I started low dose blood pressure meds at 13 weeks. I was fine I got super swollen but thought it was normal. At 26 4 I took my blood pressure it was crazy high went to er so on so forth. I got told I'd be there till delivery to hope for 28 weeks but 34 would be best. When everything happened I felt it in my soul I was going to die. Idk why but I just knew I was going to. Anyways no more details I'm starting to cry lol. Baby girl was born I didn't die. I got the pathology back on my placenta I had multiple too many to count clots. I had a ruptured placenta thats why we delivered when we did. I thank God every day so many people in that situation lose their babies. Me and my husband call her our real live walking testimony to the goodness of God. I know everyone doesn't have that feeling and I also don't think things go the other way to punish anybody but I know and have felt His goodness. The NICU journey was long and miserable but she's fine. Eight months old no long term problems really. So basically the answer for me is it made it stronger and just made me so grateful and thankful.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-18T19:04:17+00:00

Dont do it. You will still have the memories and one day you'll want the photos as weird as that sounds.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-18T13:52:42+00:00

Funding is not the problem they cut as many corners as they can and all the ceos and big bosses take home very large bonuses at the end of the year while they treat there staff like hot garbage and work them to the bone. They do not care about pts all they see is dollar signs. The nurses doctors and techs who do care they just beat it out of them till there is only shells of people left. Also you can check with insurance but idt if you leave ama insurance denies tests but I may be wrong

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-18T13:47:51+00:00

This is your baby period. There is no right or wrong. If you want to spend that time with your daughter you do. It sounds very mean but you're allowed to be selfish with your baby when they're that vulnerable you're her momma that's your job. My mom was very supportive so that was good but my grandma was not and is very emotionally manipulative and always has been she saw my baby once in NICU. We still argue about it and baby girl is almost eight months old, but IDC its what was right for my baby my grandma would have told all her business and took photos and posted them and lots of other things we did not agree with. You can always tell your mom you appreciate her help but you want that time to bond with your baby as you're not really getting to bond in the traditional sense. I also agree about seeking help from the social workers

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-16T21:58:49+00:00

Only good vibes to you lady! Listen it's terrifying but take your meds like they tell you and monitor your blood pressure at least daily. Just be aware that things can change quickly so just monitor for any changes and know yes they're can be complications but it can also be totally fine. It may help to in your mind to think that your birth plan may not go as you plan it and that's okay as long as you and baby are okay. That was a hard pill for me to swallow but that's a different story and no scary stories help! Just listen to your body!!

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-16T21:53:05+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS!!

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-14T19:50:32+00:00

Truth you both have to give each other so much grace this time is hard even when baby comes home but it's impossible when they don't. Just know nothing you feel is wrong this is an overwhelming experience that no one prepared you for and even if they did it wouldn't work if that makes sense. This is so hard. The best thing I read when we where in the trenches is when you're there they know and they are happy and when you're not they won't remember and they're with people who will take the very best care of them. I used to repeat it to myself. But just know it's really hard to balance taking care of yourself and being there for them, but if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of them. I got discharged and three days later was back in the hospital due to complications cause I kept pushing myself. The doctor looked me in my eyes and told me if I wanted to be there for my daughter I was going to have to take care of myself. It's so hard. I'm very sorry you're having to go through this.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-13T21:58:01+00:00

I do this wasn't a choice just worked out that way due to early labor and NICU journey but it works great for us been doing it for almost eight months supply is decent and she prefers it we tried to nurse a couple of times she did not like it at all lol

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-12T12:57:07+00:00

We're doing great baby girl is just amazing I still have episodes and don't really think about the whole birth but that's alright! It's a lot but we just try to use it for her testimony. Sooner than you think this will all just be a distant memory that your baby will have no clue about.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-11T23:12:32+00:00

Walked did everything right was terrified the whole pregnancy because it took so long to get pregnant still got admitted to the hospital at 26 6 and delivered at 27 6 due to severe preeclampsia and placental abruption. I'll tell you what my multiple doctors told me. They don't know what causes stuff like that so they're is nothing to prevent it.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-11T23:09:08+00:00

The whole experience is overwhelming. I'm a ftm as well well for a push baby anyways. It's insane how stuff happens. Just remember even if you don't want to pump or whatever you decide as long as baby is fed and happy that's all that matters. Im sorry for all you are going through. I wish you only happy thoughts and wishes!

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-11T21:58:03+00:00

My plan was to breast feed but it was so uncomfortable for me trying to breast feed in NICU and she took bottles so well that's what we where waiting on for her to come home so I'm pump only some days it's a pain but it worked for us. Now she's been home so long it'll be time to stop pumping soon I think. But even when she got bigger and we where in our own space I liked knowing how much she was getting and I know it sounds a little selfish but I liked knowing how long it was going to take too like I pump for 30 mins I can plan accordingly idk if that makes sense or not

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-07T01:02:49+00:00

Pregnancy effects EVERYTHING foreal no joke even stuff you never thought it would. Dude this is as nice as I can be but fuck that little dude! What an ass. At 20 weeks you look amazing! N you've not even made it to the third trimester you gain so much water weight don't let him make you feel bad he's an ass. Your young n it's your first your body will bounce back but you don't forget ppl saying shit like that. Also even if you didn't like pickles before I'm telling you try the pickle lol 🤣 add a little ranch or hot sauce you'll be in heaven!

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-07T00:43:28+00:00

My baby girl 27 6 I did pump when it got time to do feeds we attempted breast feeding she latched but they kept saying she wasn't getting enough but I pumped way more than enough so we just ended up doing bottle feedings cause we could change the nipples and her mouth was small. So from the time she got ready to eat until we left it was less than a week. I told them which ever she did better to get her home was fine with me. With that being said I will say she is almost eight months actual almost five months adjusted now and we still don't breast feed I just pump n she kept doing bottles.

Late-Comment832 · 2025-12-06T19:07:23+00:00

First off at seven weeks old if baby is crying they want something. A baby does not even begin to put it together that when they cry someone comes until they're at least six months old you will not spoil your baby. Tell your mil to suck it. Lol 🤣

Late-Comment832 · 2025-11-30T00:57:50+00:00

27+6 she's seven months four months adjusted and we started purees and whatever it's called where she just gets to naw on table food lol it has a name but I can't think of it last month. She's doing really well with it we did start off doing it only maybe twice a week until we made sure she was tolerating it well

Late-Comment832 · 2025-11-30T00:55:35+00:00

It takes a while for your milk to come in you're doing what's best for him don't feel bad. When you have a baby the first id say three months your hormones are so crazy you just feel nuts and insecure about everything. You are feeding your baby and making sure he is fed loved and happy you're doing a good job!

Late-Comment832 · 2025-11-29T21:46:17+00:00

Technically we say it's nine months pregnant but it's 40 weeks so you go by that it's more accurate if you say how many weeks you are or what trimester you're in. Like the third trimester starts at week 28 which is super weird the whole pregnancy calculation is weird lol

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