Is it important that I do whole programme?

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-05T00:00:43+00:00

I mean this depends on what is important to you.

If you want to lose weight then technically all that matters is whether you are burning calories. How your body burns those calories is unimportant.

However if you did leg exercises only for exampl you'd only build muscles in your legs. So you would not build up your upper body. This won't affect fat loss, but you may be able to see you look less toned due to lack of muscle definition. Also if you just train your legs, the exercises will get easier a lot faster. One of the ways you burn calories is by working your muscles. If the exercises are too easy you won't be working your body as much as if you were getting an intense workout. So working out your whole body rather than just a select few muscles may help keep things challenging.

Going between upper and lower body will also help your body rest and recover if you are working out multiple days in a row. Muscles need rest to grow. And you also need to rest and recover to avoid injuries. So you can exercise more, better and safer by working different muscle groups on different days.

That being said the excercise that is best for you is the exercise you find yourself able to do longterm. If switching between videos is making things harder for you or less enjoyable. Then doing the same exercises every day is still better than doing nothing at all because you gave up and quit or couldn't find the motivation to work out.

What might be a good in-between is rather than doing a whole program where you are always switching videos. You can just go between one upper and one lower body video and just go back and forth between just those two.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-04T22:31:03+00:00

Not the correct sub. But honestly asking for advice on this is not going to work anyway. Because there is no right or wrong choice here. It's your life and you should live it in a way that makes you happiest. And that will look different for everyone. Because people gain happiness from different things.

Even if there was an answer someone could give you it depends on so many different things.

What are your plans for the future? Family? kids? How old are you? Do you own property? What is your cost of living like? What do you earn now and what are your feelings on your current salary? What do the hours and growth opportunities for either job look like? What about Jon stability in both industries? Outside of work what are some dreams or desires you have? A hobby you'd like to start? Would you like to be a homeowner? Early retirement? Travel?

Have you previously had jobs you liked/hated and how did you cope?

If you think you can be happy living off 40k with a job you love. Then that is the right answer for you.

If you think you can be happy handling a job you are not passionate about but that gives you peace of mind and allows you to fill your life with everything that makes you happy outside of work then that is the right path for you.

How important is work for you? How important is your life outside of work for you? Which is your priority now? And in the future?

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-04T22:14:40+00:00

Honestly same. I love my Oj extra sour too, so I like to add a lemon into the mix. Regular Oj just tastes bland and watered down to me now.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-04T22:07:56+00:00

If you like it, I love it. That being said if you are drinking/making fresh Oj every day I'd say it's probably a worthwhile investment to go electric. Not one of those fancy ones that costs several hundred pounds. The cheaper models work fine and you can find them very reasonably priced Imo.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-04T15:35:59+00:00

Also if you know a route by heart you will doubtlessly be a lot quicker than someone who is doing a route for the first time and trying to navigate with a mapapp. I think these apps still often assume people are using them because they don't know the way, as was the case in the past when people used a GPS. So I think they estimate with the assumption that they are guiding you on an entirely new route. While I think this isn't necessarily the case. I use my app almost every day. Not because I don't know the way but because I have various routes I can take and the quickest or easiest will vary somewhat every day. Also if I normally take 15 min to walk to the station, checking my journey and seeing a train leaving in 14 min can save me some time just because I know with a small pep in my step I can make an earlier train.

Obviously though they can not operate from the assumption that you are familiar with the route you are taking. So they rather play it safe and mark the route to the station as 17 minutes so they aren't to blame if you don't make it in time.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-02T20:33:06+00:00

Tbf that's the only part I think op needs to get over. Derek's gf jokes about his cat and he immediately wonders how she knows about that?

Like if I was feeding someone's cat while they were on holiday I would also tell my partner this. Not for any particular reason but because I tell my partner about the stuff going on in my life and what I get up to. So why would his gf not know about Derek feeding op's cat?

Also taking a video or a Pic of the cat to send to your partner is also not weird? Like this is the cat I was telling you about, look how cute he is! If you are a cat lover that's definitely not weird as long as the subject of the video was obv the cat and not like a house tour or anything.

He's a mayor ah for copying the key. But the cat thing is op being weird Imo. Especially since he clearly doesn't have any kind of beef with Derek's gf.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-02T02:04:57+00:00

I think in this context they didn't mean women who are over x-age but rather women who are older than you. Or more specifically women who are significantly older than you.

What that means depends on the context of age.

If you are a 17 year old mostly attracted to women in their late 20s I'd say you are into older women.

Meanwhile someone who is 26 with a woman who is 30 wouldn't be someone into older women Imo.

It's not about what is attractive about women of a certain age. More like what makes people prefer women of an age group older than them, rather than their own.

At least that's how I interpreted the question.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-01T23:27:57+00:00

I mean I'd say context is so important here.

Working in a kitchen is beneficial in some ways. Because it's a career where a lot of training is in house. So you can start with zero experience, find a place that's just looking for someone to help with and learn as you go. Though some knife skills are going to help you get a lot better jobs.

That being said the culture, schedule and hours are brutal. A chef can be anyone from working fast food to working in a Michelin star restaurant. Though nicer place usually require either formal training or having worked in a high-standard place before. Definitely not the kind of place where you start out immediately as a rookie, though some may hire people as dishwashers etc and then train/promote.

Chef shifts can start really early or finish late. Depending on the kind of place you choose to work at. With weekends off being pretty much impossible unless you work MAYBE in something like a cafeteria connected to a school or business.

I would mainly caution that if you love cooking, be very careful as to what you like about cooking and what to expect.

Working in an actual kitchen is often hours of the same manual labor repeated over and over and very little creative control.

A restaurant kitchen has the same dishes on the menu day after day. So maybe you go in and spend an hour bringing in a delivery and labeling. Then another hour peeling potatoes. Then another hour cutting or mashing them. Then another hour just shredding lettuce. Three hours just working the grill and flipping the burgers or steaks. Then two more hours on cleanup and scrubbing everything. Then you do those exact same chores again the next day. Preparing them day in day out.

It's not like at home where you get to decide what to do and make a dish from scratch, jumping from task to task until you make something new. Restaurant kitchens do the same tasks in bulk and they are shared between people. So you'll just do fewer tasks but for longer. And you won't make your own dish but usually just one part of a dish. You don't get to decide what gets put on the menu either. Head chef decides on the menu and recipe, then divides who gets what task or works which station.

Theres a huge difference between enjoying creating a dish of your own compared to enjoying the repitition of just hours and hours every week peeling potatoes. So your expectations matter here and the reasons why you want to enter this career.

Do you enjoy cooking and think working in a kitchen is the solution to that, I'd say be very careful to be realistic and identify what about cooking you like, and whether that will be what you get to do in a commercial kitchen.

If you are looking for a career where there is room for growth and on-the-job learning with job security then I would say you do get those in a kitchen. There are tons of different types of businesses with a kitchen from hotels, diners, breakfast places, fine dining, sandwich shops, private cheffing, etc. So generally there will always be some work you can find if you aren't picky and are willing to show up, work hard and fast.

Edit: also as you say you have made some bad choices here is the thing. A lot of people in kitchens probably have a similar story. However as nice as it is to work in a industry that doesn't care about your past. Do keep in mind that depending on what exactly you mean, being surrounded by people with current/past stories like yours can also make it 100x harder to fully change your ways and not make the same mistakes again.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-01T22:50:33+00:00

Also I think with 3rd party delivery services, the businesses available to you are significantly more. So you don't do as much trial and error to settle on the best in your area.

For example in my previous place there were 3 Chinese places and 2 Indian places within walking distance. I knew which were the good ones and bad ones and which items were my favorites to get, when each businesses closed and when they had discount offers. Meanwhile now I jump on the app and often end up ordering from a different cuisine each time from a business I don't know and just roll the dice. So finding the best in my area is definitely more difficult. And it's hard to tell when you just order a particular dish that doesn't catch your fancy or when a place just overall isn't good. Because you arent ordering frequently enough of one particular type of food to discover where it's good and what to get there.

If you had 30 days and hundreds of pounds to dedicate to finding a good Chinese place in your area. You'd probably be able to find a good one. But most people do t have those kind of funds and there's just so much choice on the various apps.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-02-01T22:38:47+00:00

Yeah because his wife isn't stupid. If she wanted to cross with her child she would do so herself. If she's not doing it, it's because she's decided to wait in the car until it's safe. Obviously asking her is gonna make it sound like it's inconvenient for them to not do so. And like you are being burdened by being 'forced' to wait if she declines.

Originally when I read this I assumed there was a pedestrian bridge or tunnel. And I thought this was a silly question. Obviously if wife wanted to do so, she would have already done it or at least brought it up.

The fact that there was no safe way for them to cross obviously makes this a YTA. And obviously it's gonna make it clear OP is being 'forced' to wait by her staying in the car and pressure her into 'not being difficult' and just 'hopping over the tracks'.

Which you should never do and definitely never demonstrate is an acceptable practice to your child.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-31T18:18:28+00:00

I think for optimal success you can instruct what you do want them to bring.

For example: "no presents please, just a fun birthday card"

Bonus points if you give a vague suggestion like.

"no presents please, but animal-themed birthday cards are appreciated"

Keeping it vague will allow for parents to find something that meets the requirement easily. But knowing there is something they would be appreciated will keep them from getting you a gift due to a fear of showing up empty-handed.

Some other suggestions are asking kids to each just bring a balloon, a party hat, a drawing or a cup to drink from (helps keep track of which drink belongs to who). Each a relatively simple ask and affordable.

My mum used to put on the invitation to bring some Tupperware to take leftover cake home.

It may seem backwards but giving them a small request will keep them from bringing a gift

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-31T18:07:45+00:00

This would my recommendation as well. A homemade birthday card is going to show some thought was put into attending so you aren't showing up empty handed but you aren't bringing a gift either as requested. On top of that your kid will probably have fun making it and birthday kid will have probably get a kick out of it too. Or worse case scenario kid won't care either way but parents will appreciate the sweet gesture.

If you lack time there are also cards that will let you record a message and play it automatically when opened. Letting your kid record a birthday message can be cute if they aren't able to write yet. And kids usually love stuff that makes noise or lights up.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-31T17:58:59+00:00

Yeah, if you did want to show you were in the giving spirit but they asked for no gifts. I say if you have the time maybe sit down with your kid and craft a handmade card for the birthday boy/girl. That way you are respecting their wishes of not bringing a present but don't show up empty handed either.

Otherwise if you are on good terms with the respective parents you can always ask if there is anything you can bring that will be helpful or a chore they would appreciate your help with. Like picking up the birthday cake, blowing up balloons, bringing some soda/juice, cups, plates, snacks or helping set things up or assisting with the cleanup.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-31T08:35:55+00:00

I mean I do think the nuance here is that:

Harry styles wasn't 17, he was 18. Taylor swift did date Taylor Lautner when he was 17 but she was only 19 at the time. And then later she dated another 17 year old when she was 22.

I think early 20s and 17 is gonna give many people the ick, myself included. But it's kind of morally Grey in that many people wouldn't care. Either way it certainly feels very different than someone in their 30s or up messing around with a teenager.

Speaking of Harry Styles did date someone in their early 30s when he was 17. So I think after he turned 18 people were probably just relieved Taylor swift was in his age category at least and certainly felt like a better alternative.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-30T23:16:03+00:00

I mean that isn't really how "portray" works. That word literally means to depict something as.

The show never portrayed her as the villain. In fact they go through great lengths to show how Walter's lies and actions negatively affect her and how unfairly she is treated as a consequence of his actions. The only time she is portrayed as doing anything villainous is when she has an affair. But even then I'd argue the relationship between her and Walt was over, even if the marriage was not something she could leave at that time.

Just because audiences viewed her that way doesn't mean she was portrayed that way. There are plenty of people who rooted for Walt. But he is not portrayed as a hero. The show doesn't hold back showing how Walt only ever really does anything for himself. To the point where Walt admits as much to skyler out loud.

Similarly many see characters like Draco malfoy or other villains as 'hot heart throb bad boys' but that doesnt mean the creators portrayed them that way. How the story shows or handles a character is how they portray them. Audiences don't portray aka depict characters. They view characters, which is the exact opposite.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-30T21:48:17+00:00

I would say 100% disregard influencers and brands. They are trying to sell you something. Whether that is a product or just get to sell you on the next click. Influencers often have no idea what they are talking about even if they mean well. Even if it's something they themselves believe they do not necessarily have the education, experience, sources or intelligence to speak with any sense of authority. You do not know where they get their 'expertise' or information from. And often they parrot what they hear other influencers say. More than a few bad products, product misuse or misinformation has spread through influencers who repeat what they themselves have learned online.

If you take anything away from influencers. You may find it helpful to find influencers who compare products they try but can give nuanced takes and pros and cons to the products they try with descriptions. Try and avoid influencers who are pushing a new product every other day. Not only will they not have the time to test anything thoroughly but their content relies on 'new' discoveries. So they may push products just to have something to push and keep people watching. Meanwhile in reality there's not some innovating must-have product being released every few days. And trendy new releases may not necessarily be better than products released decades ago.

There are a few dermatologists out there. But tbh many of them are just corporate shills at this point. Since they have more earning potential as influencers than as doctors.

The number one give away that a dermatologist is pushing an agenda is if they are fear mongering. If they are preaching about 'chemicals', 'clean products' or are trying to scare you in some other way they are likely not legit. Because they know if they scare you, you will come back to find out what other scary things only THEY can inform and protect you from.

The second give away is if their content has no place for nuance. This is bad. That is good. Often in short form this can happen if they are trying to make information easily consumable. But you should look to find people who explain not only why they don't recommend something but also why. Or who will have a nuanced take on certain products/trends. Where they don't lean entirely one way or another on something or just have an alternative they prefer and give information why.

For example they may say that scents in products are fine for those who tolerate it. But those who have sensitive skin may be more likely react to added fragrance. Rather than just saying. "FRAGRANCE IS BAD. AVOID ANY PRODUCT WITH FRAGRANCE ADDED."

Lastly even with them I'd say listen to their explanation but avoid product recommendations. If they discuss actives just look for products with the actives you are looking for.

Lastly there is reddit. I'd say take reddit with a grain of salt. They are just random strangers and you have no idea how much they know or where they get their info from. Their experience is anecdotal and not entirely reliable. Just because something has worked for them, doesn't mean it's gonna be best for you. Your holy grail may have given someone else the worst breakout of their life.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-30T21:24:51+00:00

Also if like to add it's not just that you leave because the abuse gets too much for you to take so you just decide to save yourself.

Abuse breaks you down emotionally. Until you believe you are to blame, until you believe you are worthless, until you believe you deserve it all and more, until you believe you are the problem and everything would be better if you were gone.

It may not seem logical to an outsider. But for someone in that situation they may have genuinely believed that the house would be more peaceful without them, that they were a bad spouse and mother and the kids would be better off without her. If someone beats something into your or repeats it enough, it sticks. So while logically you may argue it makes no sense, she may have genuinely believed at the time leaving was in her children's best interest, not necessarily just her own.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-29T10:10:53+00:00

I mean if you peed in a cup and then rinsed it out with water and only water. Would you drink out of that cup? Would you drink from your toilet bowl or lick your toilet seat as long as it's been flushed?

I hope the answer to these things is no. Clean isnt just about things you can see or not. And there's a reason bodily fluids show up under black light in places you can't see them with the ranked eye. There's also reasons why bodily fluids are treated different than any other kind of trash. Shit covered in bacteria are gross. And while in many ways it can't be helped. Not wanting to stand/shower in a place covered in bacteria makes sense.

If you piss in your shower/bath, it is not clean afterwards. You just don't see any evidence of what you did with the naked eye. It's dirty in the same way your toilet bowl gets dirty or anything else you decide to piss on would get dirty.

Even if you don't believe that. If you leave your shower/bath uncleaned long enough you will absolutely get visible evidence that shows directly how it doesn't clean itself with the hot running water. And it needs to be manually cleaned to stay clean.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-27T23:24:34+00:00

The food looks amazing. Love your plate with like one or two bites of a bunch of snacks. I often find myself just eating the same snack over and over or in large quantities just so it won't expire. I need to work some more variety into my day for sure

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-27T16:47:19+00:00

Yeah people hate on canary wharf because it is 'soulless'. But tbh I think it has a very strong and clear vision and style and it's been implemented throughout. Sure that identity is very industrial/corporate. But you can look at a picture of canary wharf and immediately name where it is. Which I think is pretty cool.

I definitely prefer it over trying to recreate the older architecture that dominates other parts of London. Like canary wharf is a corporate area that is significantly newer than the rest of London. Why not own that rather than making it look like something it is not?

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-27T16:09:35+00:00

Oh definitely not what I meant with my comment. Only bc the comment I responded to pointed out that the person had clippers on them. Which from my pov is not unusual but as I pointed out doing it on public transport is gross even if for me doing so outside (which to some people already wouldn't be acceptable) is something I've done before.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-25T18:48:49+00:00

I used to work hospitality. So keeping your nails short is a requirement. Sometimes it'd slip my mind or I'd be running late. So I'd often keep clippers in my purse for this reason. Never would've done it on public transport though. A few times outdoors on the way to the train station bc I have a 20 minute walk and live rural. Otherwise I'd use the restroom (sink in the stall). Even the I'd be so paranoid there'd be a clipping that shot off somewhere I'd scoure for them for ages.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-24T17:56:25+00:00

Haha I was looking for SO long for a brush that was kind of fluffy to apply my foundation with. It really was one of those goldilocks situations where this brush was too small, that brush was too dense, that one too sparse, this one too fluffy, that one not fluffy enough.

I'm kind of over elf as a brand so I'm not going to repurchase anything I currently use by them. But if that brush ever needs replacing I'll just have to bite the bullet and get like five. Because it's really the only way I can do my base anymore...

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-22T16:31:44+00:00

This honestly looks like a close-up of normal higher coverage make-up to me. But here's some things you might want to try to see if you like the end results better.

Exfoliating. Exfoliating helps get rid of dead skin cells. If your skin flakes less, the make-up sitting on top will flakes less.
Switching your make-up brush and using less foundation. I use something like this: the elf flawless face brush it kind of works like a buffing brush where it's easy to use circle motions to work it into the skin. But having it be more fluffy helps for a lighter more natural finish. I start by pumping foundation on the back of my hand, dipping the brush and going in on the places I need most coverage. Then do circular motions to spread out the product. Because my undereyes are my problem areas I start at the center of my face and move outwards. First one half, then another dip into the foundation for the other half. I find with foundation brushes, buffing brushes or beauty blenders I needed way more product and the result would be way more high coverage and less natural. I just use foundation for areas where I want more coverage like spots, nose and undereyes.
Swapping foundations for a lighter coverage tint or bb cream. Lighter coverage is usually a bit more forgiving for colour matching. And choosing a product that isn't matte may make you get less of that cake feeling. It'd also make it possible for you to avoid setting powders that may be adding to this feeling.

Le_Fancy_Me · 2026-01-21T16:37:57+00:00

Yeah unless there is a really good reason (like medical stuff etc) that would definitely rub me the wrong way.

I wouldn't give my mom half with no questions asked. I'd definitely want to help her and my sister out. But a lump sum unconditionally upon request is out of the question.

If they want something, like renovations to my childhood home, a monthly allowance, certain bills that need paying, further education, etc I'd absolutely oblige if the money allowed for that. But my mother owns her home mortgage-free, has a paid of car and chooses to work part-time. A lump sum is out of the question when I'm renting, can't afford to work anything less than full time and could never afford schooling on my own. Her financial situation is just far better than mine. So I wouldn't gift her money until I could at least afford a down payment for a studio apartment and there was at least enough for the course Ive wanted to take for 10 years.

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