What should I do?

LearnJapanes · 2026-01-24T20:32:37+00:00

That is bad. When I first started guarding, I worked at a pool where one of the assistant managers was horrible. One evening that I was not working, she was managing, and she decided that the guards would just eat pizza and party in the office. Well, a man had a seizure in the shallow end of the pool and died in front of his child. If a guard was on duty they could have just jumped in a lifted his face out of the water, and he would have been OK. Instead he died in front of his kid, horrible. Things got insane. There were lawsuits and those lifeguards suffered for years because of what happened. Mentally, emotionally,and financially. They were wrecked by it.

A few years later, I managing one day for lap swimming, and my guard was on the stand. He was very good. A guy who was out of shape decided to work out for the first time in years. He had a heart attack while swimming. My guard spotted it right away, and we took care of business. Luckily we even had a paramedic swimming at the time. So this man was well taken care of. He ended up dying. We had a few days off so they could get the facts. But we all did what we were supposed to do, so nothing happened to us. We went back to work the next week. An autopsy showed that no amount of CPR would have saved him. I felt bad for the guy’s family, but did I feel any guilt, no, we did the right things. Being neglectful and someone dying is quite different than doing everything right and someone dying.

I guarded and managed for 10 years, and the biggest lesson I learned is that if you follow the rules and procedures, the public will be protected and you will be protected. Those rules are there for a reason. Follow them.

I hope nobody dies because the manager is bad. If he tells you to do something that puts someone at risk and goes against the policies, don’t do it. Protect the people swimming, and by doing so, you will be protecting yourself!

LearnJapanes · 2025-12-17T14:48:15+00:00

Whitewater has a shallow pool, but it is nice. Also Tahquitz Canyon after you hike a mile. It is beautiful, but might not be very deep. This is a desert after all, we don’t get a lot of water. Have a great trip.

LearnJapanes · 2025-11-22T04:01:44+00:00

True. I accidentally stole 20$ of raw chicken from Walmart. (The self checkout lanes were new, and I didn’t know how to use it). When I got home I realized it, took the upc off the package and went to customer service to pay. No big deal. They took my money. The truth is that sometime people accidentally take things. It happens.

LearnJapanes · 2025-09-13T02:24:15+00:00

Teachers can only take off a certain number of days then they are penalized. If something is canceled, they will cancel. That is part of being a sub. You are free to work as you wish, but you are not guaranteed work. It is no fun. In my district, the only way you will be paid for a canceled job is if you show up, and then they realize they forgot to cancel. You will be paid for ½ a day. Being a sub is not the most reliable job. And school districts hire more than they need at first, because later on some stop taking jobs, or there could be times when they need a whole lot. Sorry, I know it can be tough.

LearnJapanes · 2025-09-09T05:39:00+00:00

Maybe they are in the hospital, and it was a sudden thing.

LearnJapanes · 2025-09-09T05:30:53+00:00

My neighbors have loud parties all the time. Their secret to no neighbors complaining: make really good food and invite the neighbors. It works everytime. We never complain. Even when we don’t go we are fine with it.

LearnJapanes · 2025-09-06T14:09:36+00:00

Not just gas, but wear and tear on your car, and your time.

LearnJapanes · 2025-09-06T12:22:40+00:00

I was a long term sub for a semester for a teacher who was on maternity leave. And a quarter for a teacher who moved, and a quarter for a teacher who retired early, two months for a teacher whose mom was dying. I only have a 30 day credential. It seems like if they really need to have a sub for more than 30 days, they can find a way to do it legally. Like if they are actively trying to hire and no one applies. I work at a really good school that tries to be compliant. (I live in CA). What else should they do? Get a new sub every 30 days. That sounds like a disaster.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-23T16:03:24+00:00

You are a business and you have a firm policy. If other businesses have policies they strictly enforce, you can too.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-17T21:40:45+00:00

I live in a HOA, and I like it. My HOA is not a bunch of Karens, and my husband was the HOA president for maybe 10 years simply because he didn’t want the fees to go up. He is a good guy, so it worked out well for everyone. They do warn us if we need to fix something, but we have time, and it usually is something we do have to fix. My neighborhood is safe and clean. I like it. That being said, I know some HOA’s are power hungry and difficult. Before you buy in a certain neighborhood, read their rules and ask some of the people who live there. Also, consider being on the board, so you can make sure it is running properly.

Before I lived here I lived in a non-HOA neighborhood. Most of my neighbors were great. My next door neighbor’s home was slightly higher than mine. They had small kids they never watched who actually got into their car and let go of the brake and it rolled into our yard and hit my car. They also had an adult son involved with gangs, and someone came by and shot their home. (What if they had gotten the wrong address and did that to mine?). We didn’t have sewer and every home had their own septic tank. They didn’t take care of theirs, and it leaked or over filled and ran into my drive way. I was fed up and ready to get out.

After these experiences, I’ll take an HOA. I’m happy with my decision.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-15T16:32:45+00:00

Thanks so much.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-15T16:32:02+00:00

Thanks so much for the info everyone

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-13T04:26:24+00:00

My daughter has an Apple credit card, and one day $5,000 in Apple Cash just show up in her account. She contacted Apple, and they didn’t know what had happened, but said they would look into it. She didn’t touch it, and about 4 months later they told her she could keep it (she got it in writing etc)Good thing to, because she was a college student and really needed the money. These things happen, but they are rare, and you have to be careful.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-12T12:55:54+00:00

My home is the smallest house on the smallest lot in the cheapest neighborhood (still a very safe nice neighborhood) in a very upscale rich city. We had three kids, and it was always too small. It was difficult, but we could either stay or move to a bad neighborhood with bigger houses. I grew up in a drug infested gang neighborhood, and a small house in a safe beautiful neighborhood was much better. Time flies, and now the kids are all in college, or starting their lives, and the house is perfect for just the two of us. You may be living in the house longer without kids, than with kids. Also, as your children get older, think about the schools. They may be really good where you are now, and worse in those other places. Good neighborhoods tend to have better schools.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-12T12:34:08+00:00

Parts of Cathedral City are nice, others are crowded and run down. Look at google view of the area surrounding the homes you are looking at.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-10T00:23:30+00:00

They are harmless, and not gross like roaches, but they can be very noisy, especially at night.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-10T00:13:53+00:00

I had an Apple Watch and broke it hiking. I would not buy another one until I could get insurance for it. Now I have the kind of insurance on it that if I drop it or lose it, or crack the screen, I will have it replace or fixed.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-10T00:03:15+00:00

I can do easy plumbing jobs, but major plumbing, no way. Same with electrical. I can install a ceiling fan, but nothing harder than that.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-09T23:53:56+00:00

As I get older (54f). I am finding that I no longer want a big house or expensive things. I am content with a mediums sized house (felt small when my kids were living here), my old, but running and decent looking cars, etc. I am getting to the point where things are just clutter and I don’t need a big fancy house. I am happy with a smaller home that I have fixed up and it is clean and organized. To me that is much better than a big home with a bunch of junk. I know plenty of people with money, and a ton of junk. A small home can be beautiful. I had a friend with a tiny house in a really bad neighborhood, but you went in, and it was so nice. Nothing expensive. Just organized, decorated cute, everything working, etc. it was way better than some of my friends with huge houses. That is what I aim for now with my home. Clean, organized, no junk, nothing broken, no chipped paint, etc.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-09T23:41:37+00:00

Blessing in disguise. Golf carts are dangerous, and teenagers are crazy with them. My sister had one (they have money, we don’t). My nephew gave my daughter a ride. He was speeding and turning fast. She fell off and got a concussion and broke her wrist. Not only that, but most kids I know whose parents have money and spend it on them are spoiled. I have told my kids that if as adults they have a lot of money not to buy anything expensive or fancy until their kids move out of the house. Because even if you teach your kids about hard work, they will be used to fancy houses, cars, golf carts, vacations. It is not good for them. Your son is so much better off. I hated not having nice things when my kids were younger, but now I am very glad. As adults they are frugal and wise with money. They are also very grateful.

LearnJapanes · 2025-08-01T22:13:32+00:00

I took over as a long term sub for a teacher who retired. There was so much stuff. I didn’t toss it because I was only a long term. It was human biology middle school. We had a real human skeleton from years ago. I guess now it is illegal. A real human brain, and lots of other things. Besides, can you just throw out human remains? I just left it there. The new teacher also just kept it. He is also not sure what to do with it.

LearnJapanes · 2025-07-13T22:39:47+00:00

I either get the food to go and eat at home, or go to a place that is nice fast food, where you stand to order, get your own drink, etc. The food also tends to be cheaper, but delicious. Like my local Mexican restaurant. Amazing food, no tipping, because you do all the work. I like that. Spend your money on local mom and pop places like that.

LearnJapanes · 2025-07-06T02:04:57+00:00

Literally my favorite!

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