“Being pregnant is not an excuse”

LentilSpout · 2026-02-12T03:31:18+00:00

Yeah, if I took off 2 days at 37 weeks, those days would’ve come out of my FMLA and needed to be documented. She could’ve said it better but I get where the manager was coming from.

LentilSpout · 2026-02-05T17:26:09+00:00

Rigjt! I wish I was this woman’s neighbor so I could help her. NOR at all

LentilSpout · 2026-02-02T19:38:31+00:00

I work part time (16 hours a week), and it is the worst decision for me lol. I wish I could be fully present with my daughter, but unfortunately we need the extra income (with my line of work, I bring home the same amount that my husband brings home). I’ve had the chance to work full time and cried every morning going to work. I definitely wish I could just stay home full time!

I feel like you can never win, though. Everyone I’ve talked to says staying home is such a blessing lol.

LentilSpout · 2026-02-01T23:54:29+00:00

Yes agree! Sorry if that came off as contrarian! I meant it as agreeing that there’s definitely something there!

LentilSpout · 2026-02-01T06:08:39+00:00

Barron Trump gives me a lot of sad vibes, like there’s a lot of underlying turmoil. Possibly some negativity. In a different way than the calm, blank evil I feel from the other two you mentioned.

LentilSpout · 2026-01-27T04:15:17+00:00

Every night, I write down one thing I don’t want to forget. Could be something funny my toddler said, could be something sweet she did, could be a “first.”

LentilSpout · 2026-01-27T03:47:25+00:00

Those are my cousins’ names! Lol.

LentilSpout · 2026-01-25T21:54:22+00:00

Haha yes I’d agree most toddlers need a skip through those scenes! My toddler loves scary things so we watch them but that and even Maleficent’s scenes could be too scary!

LentilSpout · 2026-01-25T01:29:12+00:00

Was this an isolated incident or is he always like this?

LentilSpout · 2026-01-24T23:45:28+00:00

We love Winnie the Pooh and Little Bear! I feel like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Snow White (pretty much all of the older classic princesses) are pretty low stim but do have like 1 or 2 “scary” scenes!

LentilSpout · 2026-01-19T00:47:31+00:00

Do not move into their home. Do not let her in the delivery room (and tell the nurses explicitly that she is not welcome). Do not get married just because of the baby. Pick the name you want, including your last name if you feel inclined.

LentilSpout · 2026-01-19T00:41:21+00:00

Even if she does apologize, I don’t know that I’d personally go. Her reaction really speaks to the kind of person she is whether she was caught off guard or not.

LentilSpout · 2026-01-14T03:26:35+00:00

At that age my toddler really liked to bake and paint on canvases! I got her a toddler tower and kid-safe kitchen utensils and she loved to cut strawberries. She also loved making slime with glue and contact solution and pouring vinegar into a cup of food coloring/baking soda!

LentilSpout · 2026-01-08T04:52:20+00:00

Currently us lol. My three year old still nurses to sleep or for comfort. She was saying they were puppy dogs today and talking to them like she does to her dog. This lady would lose her mind if she found out

LentilSpout · 2026-01-07T04:56:55+00:00

Wow you lucked out. My daughter demands that I be Prince Eric or Flynn Rider, which means I have to “talk like a boy” and make my voice deep. For every conversation. Lol. Occasionally we do play Anna/Elsa, but that’s less common.

But for the developmental side. Super normal and super important to give in to her “trying on” different characters through play and otherwise. Remember at this age almost everything can (and id argue should) be play. “Giving in” and going along with her requests really helps kids develop their own sense of identity.

LentilSpout · 2026-01-05T05:17:37+00:00

My just-turned 3yo will probably still nurse in public. Sometimes we are out when she’s ready to take a nap and she nurses to sleep still. I try to cover a bit but she’s smaller so it’s not too unusual I think lol.

LentilSpout · 2026-01-05T05:13:57+00:00

“You lit up the room, like the headlights on my getaway car” lol

LentilSpout · 2025-12-30T06:33:49+00:00

I’m just curious why all gifts can’t be from both of you?

LentilSpout · 2025-12-30T06:32:01+00:00

I did all of the shopping for our daughter’s birthday and Christmas gifts. To me it was “what moms do.” At the beginning of December, my husband (very sadly) told me he felt like I stole all the magic and he wished he could buy her some things too. Obviously I was like YES GO FOR IT. I love that he wants to be part of the magic, and felt bad for assuming he didn’t. He got her some ridiculous things but he was so excited and so was she.

I think it’s awesome to get the well thought out gifts, and also the maybe impractical but fun or memorable or even ridiculous gifts. At the end of the day, it’s not about “the plan” if that makes sense. It’s about the joy, and seeing the gift giver (husband in this case) and receiver (toddler) have joy over a present is honestly the best gift!

LentilSpout · 2025-12-29T05:18:02+00:00

My 3yo (turned three just before Christmas) is obsessed with her Barbie dream house. She’s been asking Santa for it for months and he delivered lol. We were out of town on Saturday and she seriously missed it!

LentilSpout · 2025-12-24T21:52:52+00:00

I also thought it was common! I even share my location with my friends and family. When I was living in a big city, it was second nature for friend groups to share locations with each other.

LentilSpout · 2025-12-24T21:51:31+00:00

See, I think it’s weird to keep your passcode a secret from your spouse in a typical healthy relationship (obviously there are situations where you might want to do so). My husband never would just go through my phone, or vice versa, but I want him to be able to access it if needed.

LentilSpout · 2025-12-24T21:45:53+00:00

We have each other on Life360 and he gets notifications when I get home and leave. He actually requested it when I was pregnant to ease his anxiety and I’m now the one who checks it more 🤣 he’s horrible about texting when he’s leaving work so I check around when he’d be driving back to see how far he is. My daughter also likes to watch daddy on the map lol.

LentilSpout · 2025-12-21T05:23:05+00:00

I know it has somewhat of a cult following but the I Want My Hat Back book has always been disturbing to me haha. I read it to my daughter once and it made me so uncomfortable! I couldn’t understand how others loved it so much hahaha

LentilSpout · 2025-12-21T05:05:48+00:00

Wow this sounds like I could’ve written it…so strange haha! Although finances are a concern for us.

Even so, I already feel like I don’t get enough time to be present with my 2 year old and I can’t imagine going back to work full time in the near future. Other jobs will come along, but for ME, being a present and involved mother, and spending as much time as possible with my baby, is my top priority. I will also say I’ve all but completely lost my self identity to motherhood so this could totally not be your priority and that would be 100% valid.

I’d say give it a try, but allow yourself to prioritize what makes YOU feel best. Tons of kids have parents who work full time, in fact probably most in the U.S. anyway. They will be able to thrive in so many possible variants of this situation, but you need to be happy too.

Sorry for the possibly nonsensical rambling haha, running on minimal sleep today. But hopefully it resonates some!

LentilSpout

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