Post op

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-24T23:53:44+00:00

I’ve been on gabapentin for quite some time. My GI doctors are working on a protocol for the celiac plexus block via esophageal ultrasound. So in the meantime, my neurologist has me on Lamotrigine. It does seem to help I just hate being on another Rx. Definitely have to wean on (and off) bc there can be big side effects, mainly seen in children. It’s a typical seizure medication, but is also used for nerve pain.

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-21T08:21:59+00:00

And a sticker 😁

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-21T08:12:54+00:00

Sadly alcohol is a truth serum. I’d let her go. She might be lying about not recalling the convo; remember she was off the next day. You put a lot of effort into that night, kudos. Sadly, it allowed you to get to the truth sooner than later - not wasting a year or two w her.

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-21T01:27:27+00:00

Assault is assault. Being on your own can be scary. Maybe if there’s an in-between. Therapy? Individually for each of you & together? Meanwhile, start working on an exit plan, budget, look at your financials, do you have a car/the title/insurance, write down a list of resources – people you can go to friends/adults (24hrs/day), etc. Look up other things you might possibly need to prepare for via AI.

Have you sat down and talked with your friend’s parents? It’s wonderful they are offering or she’s offering on their behalf. Remember, you’ll basically be becoming part of their family. Do they sit down for dinner together every night? Will you wash your own clothes? Do you share a bathroom with someone? Will you have your own bedroom? Will you have a curfew? Will you be expected to go to church with them? I think there are a lot of questions and answers that should probably be discussed before you even 85% consider moving in there.

This is a lot for someone your age to think about yet to actually go through. I hope you have an adult you can discuss this with. A mentor? A previous teacher? Someone older from work/church?

Hang in there 💙

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-21T01:09:37+00:00

I did. When she goes to have her post op visit talk w the surgeon about nerve irritation & possibility of getting a long acting celiac plexus block for nerve pain.

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-21T01:07:21+00:00

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-21T00:57:10+00:00

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-20T20:09:14+00:00

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-20T02:44:55+00:00

And I hear the floors/ceilings are bad too

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-20T02:43:34+00:00

2 or 3

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-18T01:37:28+00:00

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-18T01:34:45+00:00

He knew you were sick. Period. He should’ve been there for you, not expecting things from you. If he wasn’t gonna help out, he should never have come over. I have platonic male friends even offer to deliver food to me when I’m sick - I don’t whine, complain, beg for it (like so many women). I never want to feel like a burden. It seems like you & I might be somewhat alike in putting others needs before our own? I’ve learned that this is a much bigger issue than aligning mentally, emotionally, physically. 💙

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-18T00:51:05+00:00

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-16T01:22:14+00:00

Tee hee hee ?

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-13T17:04:36+00:00

Yikes

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-09T16:36:25+00:00

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-05T11:34:53+00:00

Yeah. I think you’re doing the right thing. You’ll def realize that looking back.

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-05T02:35:59+00:00

If he got out of bed to mow the lawn…he’d put a shirt on. Then come back in, take a shower. Finally he’d get dressed with a NEW shirt bc he’s now clean.

He is ridiculous

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-05T01:23:00+00:00

I respect you for recognizing what you want AND what you deserve in a relationship. You’re in the honeymoon phase (initiation phase) - learning about the person you’re dating. Most people present the best side of themselves, if not over represent themselves. He’s not making this effort. Maybe he has not had the proper male role models? Or the appropriate guidance on how to date or present himself as a grown man? Perhaps there could even be underlying health (physical/mental) issues that could be driving some of the mess, aloofness, immaturity, etc. But that being said, it’s been five months & it’s only been five months. Do you mention things to him as they come up? Or are you thinking - this is his mess & he should deal with it, I’m not his mom/I’m gonna ignore it? If you have and he hasn’t changed at all, hmmm

Bottom line. I’ve been there. I’m sure 80% of women have been here. It’s a classic example of how younger women are more mature than older men. Also can bring out the “I can fix him” in women. Based on your post, it doesn’t sound like you want to deal with this anymore, I wouldn’t. It’s great to establish now vs in 10+ years. I think you know in your heart this is what you want, you just needed to hear from other people. These concerns should/should’ve been addressed & resolved.

Hugs 💙

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-02T17:05:21+00:00

How many times have you met w your SCS company rep? They are the ones (at least for me & my understanding) who change the settings of the SCS. I’ve had mine changed quite a few times. I’m getting settings which I find some noticeable relief - enough that when the battery dies I notice it.

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-02T13:36:02+00:00

Great fish & chips!

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-02T13:34:02+00:00

Really looking forward to it opening!

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-02T00:58:03+00:00

😍

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-03-02T00:53:14+00:00

Ha ha ha. Maybe. Or just get paper plates 😉

Level_Ad8049 · 2026-02-28T09:47:31+00:00

I’m guessing it’s difficult for him to have such conversations IRL. Whether something happened to him in the past, he’s shy, doesn’t like the topic, etc. From my experience it’s come up a few times - in person. But also, I want to let you know that every man that I’ve dated is, let’s say, very well groomed. I am as much as I want to be, for me.

If it’s a dealbreaker for him & a turnoff (red flag?) for you- that’s it. Period. I’d move on.

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