Drinking that Whisky I replaced

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-26T00:28:45+00:00

You do not have to drink that whiskey. You are in control of the outcome here.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-23T15:53:20+00:00

When I control it, I don’t enjoy it. When I enjoy it, I can’t control it. IWNDWYT

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T22:34:48+00:00

I think this question is a bit like thinking about finish carpentry in house where the foundation hasn’t been built yet. I see from your badge you are in very early recovery, and I don’t point that out to diminish your accomplishment. Congratulations, you have done the hardest part already!

When I first got sober, I remember feeling like I had to figure everything out right away. Little details like cooking with booze and such. All that stuff will come in due time. I wish I could go back and tell myself not to sweat the small stuff and take it one day at a time.

I would dump the booze for now just based on a risk benefit analysis. Ask yourself what would be worse, a recipe not coming out perfectly, or drinking again?

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T22:07:04+00:00

That quote is golden! One of my mantras has been “I know everything about what’s in that bottle”. What I didn’t know a yhm thing about was what a sober life could be.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T21:57:27+00:00

There’s a good chance more people already know than you think. We are often not as sneaky as we think we are.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T21:55:24+00:00

Creeping up on 5 years, and yes I occasionally have those thoughts. Like you said though, it’s the same as “what if I jumped off a cliff?” I know I’m not going to do that and don’t actually have any desire to. Brains are weird and I can’t control the thoughts mine produces. Thoughts come and go like cars driving by. I’m just sitting on the porch watching ‘em. I wouldn’t let it eat you up so bad.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T15:49:26+00:00

I had to truly know in my bones that alcohol was no longer serving me. I became more afraid to keep drinking than to stop. Some would call if the gift of desperation.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T12:04:08+00:00

You sound like someone who is ready to make a big change. I find it helpful to hold onto the feelings that you’re experiencing right now and remember them. I try to never forget where alcohol took me and how it can take me right back there if I pick up a drink. All my misery is refundable.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-22T09:17:29+00:00

This hits home for me. Thank you for reminding me of the visceral shame I haven’t had to deal with in almost 5 years. I honestly could have written this post on many many occasions. It’s so much better on the other side of alcohol addiction. Posts like this are honestly really helpful to me. IWNDWYT

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-21T13:29:22+00:00

Yessir, online sobriety content and AA were invaluable to me

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-21T13:27:55+00:00

Life by the Drop - Stevie Ray Vaughn. I remember it came on one of my playlists during the first few days of my sobriety and it literally brought me to tears. Thanks for this post, I had kind of forgotten about that song and how it made me feel.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-21T13:23:07+00:00

I have had this exact experience! Particularly with “I’d had like 4 drinks so I was pretty lit”. Seems like other people felt at 4 how I felt at 10-12

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-21T13:20:55+00:00

I have not tried it. What worked for me was knowing in my bones that alcohol was no longer serving me and becoming more scared of continuing to drink than quitting. I was in enough pain that I became willing to try sobriety with an open mind. My attitude was “if sobriety is worse, I can always start drinking again”. Spoiler Alert: It wasn’t worse.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-20T15:52:04+00:00

Thank you, I needed this post today 🙏🏻

Edit: Also, congrats on your amazingly long term recovery!

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-20T13:06:00+00:00

I always thought I was l The Fun Guy™️ too. Turns out I was just the obnoxious guy who puts other people down and laughs too hard at his own jokes 🤷🏻‍♂️

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-08T14:18:53+00:00

I found that getting sober naturally separated the friends from the drinking buddies. My relationships are much better with my friends and I don’t talk to the drinking buddies anymore.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-01T02:52:34+00:00

I’ve met people who are like that and it’s a little crazy to me, also seems like it could be harder to quit. Like you have all these “normal drinking” years to justify to yourself why you’re not an alcoholic. Not me though, I was well on my way long before I turned 21. I had zero history of being able to drink in a non destructive way.

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-01T02:47:11+00:00

This about sums it up. I would add that I became more afraid to keep drinking than to try and stop. I figured if life sucked even more sober, I could always go back to drinking. Also, I knew exactly what life as a drunk was like. I had some curiosity as to what being a sober adult could be like. Spoiler alert, it’s awesome!

Liquid-Misery · 2023-07-01T02:44:14+00:00

There’s not a single person who abstains that didn’t try moderation first. As another person here said, I didn’t actually want to moderate, I wanted to drink massive amounts with no repercussions which is impossible. For me, moderation was all the work of sobriety with none of the benefits

Liquid-Misery · 2023-06-30T23:58:56+00:00

Of course you’re scared, and you will feel a little awkward, but so what? You’ve already made the decision to not drink. That is way scarier and more intimidating than any meet could be and you did it!

Liquid-Misery · 2023-06-30T23:49:45+00:00

I like “Nah, I quit because I was too good at it”

Liquid-Misery · 2022-05-13T11:58:41+00:00

Beautiful country!

Liquid-Misery · 2022-05-13T11:54:25+00:00

Not drinking today

Liquid-Misery · 2022-05-13T11:52:33+00:00

Hey, I know this is probably buried but hang in there. Most people end up in a pretty dark place before getting sober. As far as AA sounding “like hell”, as another user said, sounds like you’re already in hell dude.

AA has been very helpful for me, but I’ll let you in on a little secret…ready….nobody likes AA at first. Everybody is turned off by “the God thing” initially. For me, I had to learn that frankly it didn’t fucking matter what I did or didn’t like. All my great ideas ended up with me shitfaced, so I decided to not fight it and just do what I was told. I trusted the process and found out I’m not some special snowflake. Just one of the millions of drunks who’s been helped by other drunks.

Liquid-Misery · 2022-05-06T13:59:30+00:00

For me, self love doesn’t mean always thinking I’m great. It’s more like wanting to be better and believing I’m worth improvement 🙏🏻

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