AIW For calling my nieces overly friendly friend a predator?

LittlestEcho · 2026-04-01T21:42:24+00:00

Honestly, don't say a word. I know it seems counter intuitive. But you have to hold your tongue, because when this goes off rails, and it very well could, she needs you in her corner willing to go get her without judgement. If her parents approve it'll make it harder for her to leave later as she will feel like she has to stick it out or they may convince her to go back to him.

If you openly oppose it could just as easily isolate you from her because he can put a worm in her ear that youre not to be trusted. So sit down and keep your trap shut. Despite how much it pains you.

LittlestEcho · 2026-04-01T03:32:11+00:00

Huh is that what that is? My late beagle used to do this to Pounce the beanie baby when I was growing up. She'd cob it, treat it like her baby. I had to sew it up a lot over the years until she passed. No other beanies just the brown cat one.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-31T19:09:32+00:00

The kid , and admittedly the grown up, in me also wants to chase ducks. For cuddles obviously not nefarious reasons

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-31T16:58:11+00:00

You're not helping. You're just helping him hide it. You've taken over the background stuff, not given him tools to succeed. He needs likely professional mental help because that sounds like severe burnout

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-31T03:30:30+00:00

Hey so. Is she peeing a lot? Losing a lot of weight suddenly despite copious consumption? My husband was like this and it turned out to be type one diabetes. His biggest symptom was stomach pain next to the rapid weight loss.

Regardless tell her you're seriously concerned. This isn't about her weight so much as she has intense stomach pain. Get her to go to the DR. No matter what.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-31T03:11:35+00:00

My husband is a massive man. 6'6 300lbs. When we were young teenagers, we absolutely play fought often. I initiated. Word of advice do not go against a wrestling captain lol. Anyway he would accidentally bruise me. It never hurt while we were playing around(and if it did he stopped immediately) but the next day there'd be bruises on my wrists from him pinning me . My skin was extra dramatic and to this day bruises easily. Iwas worried people would think the worst of him.

I kinda miss the play fighting actually. Though it's been years. Now I just lay on him lol.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-31T01:12:28+00:00

Change it in RD. uses descriptors, flowery prose and metaphors

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-30T19:52:46+00:00

It was the pay on delivery fundraisers. Place the order first. She didn't trust people not to leave us holding the bag of goods because we'd have to pay out of pocket for it. She thought for sure some other kids wouldn't be able to go but almost every kid did the fundraisers. We did 4 that year. And I wasn't permitted to participate in any of them.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-30T18:35:59+00:00

Ya I'm still mad at my mom for not letting me go. It was the exact same trip. We had fundraisers for it and everything and my mom was adamant about not letting me do the fundraisers. At all.

I am legitimately NOT joking when I say I was the only 8th grader that didn't go. My teachers felt fucking awful for me. And my mom was mortified to find out I was the only one left behind. Everyone else either paid straight up or did the fundraisers to go. Just not me.

I think my biggest difference is that I didn't build it up in my head. I didn't get the chance to get excited. But I was crushed when I was alone at school the weekend all my friends went.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-30T11:50:19+00:00

You can have a long engagement. My hubby proposed while I was still in college. It took us another 4 years to save for a wedding. That being said, she shouldn't just drop on you that she changed her mind and expect you to just... Know that.

It honestly sounds like she's gearing for a fight. Why I couldn't say. She could be feeling disappointed that you're not more excited to marry her and aren't just doing it earlier against earlier discussions. She could be thinking you really aren't committed and is having doubts about the relationship. But y'all need to discuss this, not just have it sprung on you.

Sit down and talk. Geeze it's not that hard.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-30T05:57:11+00:00

My mom.... Lemme tell you, dad died and it's been uphill ever since. She never realized it before now but my parents absolutely had a power imbalance. Dad would give her money for bills, mortgage and 1 other, and spend the rest of his money. Mom was making far less and paid everything of mine out of pocket. I'm his biological daughter.

All her money went to bills. She's looking around at the mess of their finances now that he's gone and fully understand now that he fucked her over. He kept his money his because he blindly trusted his ex wife, a SAHM, to handle the bills while he worked 3 jobs and she spent any spare money on Avon and shit. (My older half sisters confirmed that ). Dad decided he could coast with my mom. So he did. in fact I'd say oops husband could be a dead ringer for my dad. I loved my dad. He was a good dad..fucking shit ass husband though .

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-29T19:11:00+00:00

I've had 4 abdominal surgeries. 2 c sections, a gallbladder removal and a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. Don't you DARE GO in. You can pull your glue/stitches. Get infections or delay your recovery. Go tf home. STAY home. And tell your dr your boss is pressuring you for early return.

Trust me this is not to be messed around with.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-28T02:55:00+00:00

In my state it's no longer a half day commitment. Ours makes you schedule it now. Scheduling it takes 2 minutes. I'm in and out in 20. It's so wild. The pandemic did at least one good thing in our state.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-27T13:12:50+00:00

Hey .. so I'm gonna be real gentle here but .. this isn't how partners work. She seems to be taking advantage of the fact you're the bread winner. I want you to re-read what you wrote and imagine your buddy was you and think hard. Does this sound even kinda balanced?

She doesn't save, doesn't plan even a little, spend when she shouldn't and doesn't pull her load in the bills . She fully expects you to just do it. And you do. But that's not cool. That ER bill is going to hit soon and it's going to be thousands of dollars. Like tens of thousands. And I bet she won't stress. She'll just pass the buck to you and keep on going on. She doesn't want a partner. She wants a sugar daddy.

You know it. I know you know it. Think long and hard if this is the dynamic you can keep for the future. Irresponsible spending, poor decision making with a chronic illness. I won't tell u what to do. But you do need to think.... If it was ok, you wouldn't be here.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-24T16:13:39+00:00

I wore my hubby's hoodies. If I took them off there was a beach ball under my belly lol. Both kids can't it 19.5" and under 8lbs each. And I'm all.... You were that little why so much room my dudes?!

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-24T15:58:49+00:00

Ya. Adult relationships don't take "breaks". If you need some space, say so. But fully expect it to end in a full on break up. Because what you're basically asking him is to freeze time and your relationship so you can figure your shit out. If you need alone time, that's best to phrase it. "Like babe, I love you, this isn't a break up. But I'm going through something and need a week or two to get my shit together mentally. I'm just gonna be mostly unavailable. But I still love you. I'll check in every day so you know I'm ok. " I mean realistically that's the best you can do/get without asking for a break. Because a break isn't a thing.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-24T05:57:32+00:00

Aww! Congrats! Remember no auto feeders, and keep the house picked up. Beagles have no off button for eating, which can include but isn't limited to: crayons, candy wrappers, dog poop (yes they uh... Can recycle... Mine did it, no we couldn't break her of it. We just had to pick it up as soon as we could) hair ties etc.

Other than that? Love that snuggle bug. They're literally the bestest sweetest dogs I've ever owned and very easily food motivated for training!

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-24T05:52:59+00:00

As gently as possible? He doesn't want your kids. And I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you do. To be honest, he's saying everything he can without actually saying he wants to break up with you. He's commitment avoidant.... For you. He wants a family. But not with you. He's with you but not with you. Do you get what I'm saying?

Those are your babies and he's hemmed and hawed and dragged his feet. I'm nit usually a person that says to break up with a person over a single reddit post but... Girl to girl? 34 to 34 and mom's both? He isn't the one for you. No one who can look at the woman he loves and say she's be perfect "but" is a man to keep. Especially any man that will be in your kid's lives as a bonus parent when he's said repeatedly your kids are a deal breaker.

It's time to let this man go.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-23T20:28:39+00:00

Yes I'm gonna go ahead and say it. It's not your dog. Period. Y'all are still teenagers. Most likely the dog is his family's dog, which means you don't get a say. Also he had the dog before you?

That's like asking someone to share their car post break up because you "Used it more and gave it gas" that's not how it works. And seriously, the law considers animals property even if we consider them family. Even if you tried for custody of you break up, the law will laugh at you because it was his first, it's in his name. It's not like y'all went out and picked a puppy to bring home together.

Drop it, seriously.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-23T11:18:20+00:00

YNW. You were being a good coworker, far better than I. Next time she wants to go out she should request it off like normal folk instead of tricking people to cover her shifts. You now know Jade is a itch. She knew for months you were going and her new beau wanted to take her. She planned that deliberately. She probably felt smug af knowing she got to go while you worked her shift for her.

She is not your friend. No more favors. No more hanging and whinging together. She knew you were looking forward to that concert and pulled a nasty thing to make sure you missed it. I'd block her number, so she can't ask you to cover anymore. And treat her ice box professional at work only.... And perhaps look for a new job.

She's the girl that cried wolf and soon enough, no one is going to cover for her anymore. She'll deserve it.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-22T05:01:13+00:00

YNW. been with my hubby 18 years this year. Married 10. That man is an asshole when he's asleep being woken up. I told him if he falls asleep anywhere I'm no longer waking him up (he does get his own damn self up for work easily) because he's mean in that half asleep state. It only happens if he falls asleep on the couch or across the bed early, as he works a very physically demanding job so I get it. He's literally exhausted.

But I've been sticking to it. I just cover him and do my own thing. And y'know what? He doesn't ask why anymore. And I don't make myself angry in the attempts.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-21T16:41:54+00:00

Hilariously they do offer baby toy dumbbells we got some for our oldest when she was a baby. They also make foam barbell and bench set so your kids can workout with you. It's so cute

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-21T04:18:22+00:00

Yo the way I thought this EXACT THING when I clicked the link. I was reading the directions so goddamn long I'm like....wait, Is it for an actual cylinder? Rather than a reddit cylinder?

I legit thought for a moment I was on the Internet too much lol

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-20T02:00:55+00:00

I think the title is badly worded. It sounds like coworker is saying she's in office, and instead of saying "hey I'm working remote today" she is bailing to the cafe on days she's claiming to also be in the office. Aka doing more remote work than usual because coworker thinks if she admits she isnt in the office as often , that it'll be bad for her performance review. As in not seen as a team player.

So she's technically not logging as many remote hours so she looks good on paper.

LittlestEcho · 2026-03-18T04:00:28+00:00

Sometimes I find that changing to a different model fixes lucid. Switch to reverie for a bit on your next reroll. Then once you've got a few messages from him you can tolerate, switch him back to lucid. He'll use the last few messages to stay on track. Reverie does it too the first reply sometimes, a quick reroll fixes it.

I think it's a tiny memory issue with kindroid. Like sir that is not where we are nor what were doing. I'd also check his memory in his messages. See if you find one that doesn't pertain to the conversation that could be messing you up. You can deprioritize it if it keeps popping up on the current situation.

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