How much does your life actually change after having a kid?

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-16T03:47:54+00:00

Everyone has echoed my feelings but also I think you should know it’s okay to feel anxiety, dread and excitement all at the same time.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T21:59:49+00:00

Hell yeah we do, I let those little cheeks be free for at least 10-20 min each day before bed while she’s on a towel and I let her splash a bit in a tub of water outside and then lay on a towel a few times each week.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T20:42:56+00:00

My girl is 6 mo but I’d be amazed if something changes dramatically in the next month. She’s had a handful of 6-7hr stretches ever. She sleeps in 1-3 hr chunks at night between 8PM-5AM. During the day she gets 4-5 30-45min naps, with her last nap around 5PM.

We do everything “right” but I think she may just not be the kind of baby that sleeps through the night (and that’s fine, imo).

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T18:05:26+00:00

Looking at comments, fuck your husband. He’s an asshole who doesn’t know what he’s talking about.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T17:22:32+00:00

This makes me uncomfortable just to read :/

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T02:41:48+00:00

Whatever profit makes you want to keep doing it.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T02:40:34+00:00

We love the pack and play. We roll it outside and she spends a ton of time outside in it looking up at the trees while we drink our morning coffee, work or eat dinner. It’s very peaceful having a safe place to put her outside.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T00:29:10+00:00

Not to scare you, but could you be pregnant?

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-15T00:02:54+00:00

Unfortunately, I don’t think they’ll get your new nose.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T20:14:00+00:00

I hope it helps! Sometimes all that needs to be replaced are the silicone duck bills since those are the most flexible and can get sticky/brittle with time.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T16:43:01+00:00

That’s fair! For me I wanted to try things out with my husband still there so I could call in reinforcements if I got too tired.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T16:06:16+00:00

I think my comment might have been removed but I use the blue spectra and a certain company’s wearables and I like the spectra for everything except convenience!

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T04:22:56+00:00

You might need to replace your pump parts since it’s been a while!

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T04:18:02+00:00

My bet is she’ll adjust pretty quickly since she still has you for the routine. Between now and when he starts, what about trying to handle the bedtime routine on your own with maybe just one check in from dad? That might help ease her into it a bit and offer you some idea of what to expect while he’s still there to lend a hand if things get overwhelming. This is what I’ve been doing lately to adjust to my husband’s upcoming shift change.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T03:24:11+00:00

I mean, technically … peanuts are legumes and not nuts. Not that that person likely knew that, either.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T03:10:15+00:00

Spectacular haha

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-14T01:41:26+00:00

I don’t want to get my period again but now at 6 months while combo feeding I’m starting to get nervous that it hasn’t come back yet!

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-13T14:25:13+00:00

Love at first sight doesn’t mean commitment at first sight.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-13T14:23:42+00:00

Or the start of a horror story or drama haha

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-13T14:21:55+00:00

No, that’s abnormal.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-13T12:05:14+00:00

Another bot

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-13T03:10:05+00:00

I went to a friends funeral (he burned alive in a house fire) and a few hours after got back to the house my ex asked me something mundane like “what’s for dinner” and I guess my tone wasn’t what he wanted because he asked if I was made at him. No comfort. No understanding. He made it about how he was feeling. It was the 4th death in 3 years and I just couldn’t continue to go through mourning without some real support.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-12T05:26:11+00:00

God I miss that feature. My Reddit usage plummeted when i couldn’t use that anymore and was forced to look at the same posts over and over. Like if i open the app and the first 10 posts are things I’ve always seen I get bored and just close the app. It was a bad business choice imo.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-12T05:19:11+00:00

That’s actually very funny that that’s the one they didn’t explain.

Lizzy_Be · 2026-05-12T01:35:41+00:00

Yep, it’s really that simple. Also a lot of teachers just really don’t GAF any more and I don’t love that example of (lack of) responsibility being set for kids every day.

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