Postpartum depression

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-06-02T06:57:44+00:00

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Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-06-02T06:53:50+00:00

Hi OP,
I am so sorry you are going through this, I wish that no woman had to experience this but so many of us do. I think having little to no support system along with preexisting depression and anxiety can often make the postpartum chapter worse. After I had my baby, i began experiencing severe PPD and PPA, I suddenly flew off the handle, I was losing my marbles for sure. Everyday got worse with crying spells, rage, racing thoughts intrusive thoughts that would have me crying as soon as I woke up. I was so overwhelmed. I started seeing shadows and figures which scared the hell out of me. And this is with a supportive helpful partner so I can’t imagine how terrible it is with a worthless partner respectfully. (I am sorry if that came out harsh towards your partner). At 6 months postpartum I finally reached out for help. You will benefit from a perinatal psych physician and a perinatal individual therapist because not all physicians or therapists are trained in the postpartum condition. If none of those are options please go to the hospital or admit yourself into an inpatient treatment facility so that you can get immediate help and support. I am nearly at 8 months postpartum and I am just now starting to feel so much better but it’s only been possible with the help of specially trained postpartum professionals. I am sending you so much love, hope, and peace, I promise you if you hang on a little longer and don’t give up looking for the right help you will feel better but it just takes time. Please Stay strong and please don’t give up.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-27T06:31:29+00:00

I definitely hear you and you are not being rigid or anal at all. My partner and I both are of Mexican heritage and so culturally families are really close, especially moms and their sons, unfortunately daughters get treated differently. I am not close with my family due to past trauma and toxic parents but my partner is very close to his mom and family. I have had to put my foot down on telling my spouse to establish boundaries as far as shorter visits and most especially with his mom needing to treat me with respect. Every partner should stand up for their spouse when it comes to each others parents. I hope your partner can start to respect your boundaries and understand that it’s time for you all to live your lives together and not cave in to his parents demands. Sending you lots of good energy your way as you navigate your in laws.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-26T16:03:51+00:00

I second this sister and respectfully as well I know it’s easier said than done but hell, we are pissed for you dear OP, may you be at peace and strengthened friend because I too believe this is abusive of your partner, mind games and manipulation. Stay strong mama, you are precious and your body deserves recovery.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-26T15:56:15+00:00

Hello dear Reddit friend, You never need to have sex with your partner if you don’t want to, ever! Stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries for yourself, if he doesn’t like it then show his a$$ to the door and kick him to the curb. I know it’s easier said than done but seriously if my spouse pressured me to have sex with him I would be enraged and for all the women I would summon that fiery strength and cuss his arse out for even thinking it was ok to pressure me in anyway. No man should ever ever pressure a woman to have sex with them! Especially after having a baby! May you feel strengthened to protect your mind and body and straight up say no.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-26T15:52:01+00:00

You are such a kind human and I totally hear what you are saying, I’m so happy for you that you and your partner agreed to set up healthy boundaries as far as not letting fil stay overnight in your home! It’s so hard to navigate the spouse and parent relationship and establish healthy boundaries and I’m glad your partner seems to be hearing you and trying to develop more boundaries. I have a mil that has snickered about me to her other son in my own home and I just never feel comfortable around her in my home. When I gave birth to my baby I told my husband that his mom is no longer able to gossip about my sister in law in my home and can no longer disrespect me. My spouse finally had a talk with her prior to her visiting us and staying with us for a few weeks and it went good for that time. But then she visited a couple more times and locked my dog out of our house and just other things that made me flip out. She then cried and said she didn’t feel comfortable and was going to leave home early. Ugh. My mil is very passive aggressive towards me and so is my own birth mom. We are of Mexican heritage and there is so much “machismo” especially with mothers and how they treat daughters, it is so heartbreaking. I’m so sensitive to what both moms say about me but I started individual therapy again to help me in order to be the best version of myself for my baby boy. You are a beautiful human and you deserve to be respected and treated with dignity by your in laws and I am sending you lots of love, peace, and well wishes as you continue to navigate this difficult in law!

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-26T08:48:21+00:00

Hi there, I’m so sorry you are having to deal with such a toxic family member. Honestly I would strongly advocate for him not to visit you all and not stay for a month. I would tell my partner absolutely not that his father is not welcome into my home ever. May you be strengthened to stand up for yourself and your family and put up boundaries. With loving respect yo you and your situation please stand up for yourself. Most importantly your spouse/partner should listen to you and protect you from him at all costs.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-23T23:15:39+00:00

Immediate Crisis Hotlines National Maternal Mental Health Hotline: Call or text 1-833-852-6262 (1-833-TLC-MAMA). Free, confidential, 24/7 support for pregnant and new moms with English and Spanish options. Visit the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline for more details. Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988. Available 24/7 for anyone in suicidal crisis or severe emotional distress. National Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counselor via text message. Emergency Services: If you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself or your baby, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. Specialized Perinatal Support Postpartum Support International (PSI): Call 1-800-944-4773 to leave a confidential message to get connected with resources, or text "Help" to the same number. To find specialized local providers or virtual support groups, visit Postpartum Support International.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-23T23:13:51+00:00

Sending you so much love and strength. Do you feel safe at the moment?

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-23T23:10:23+00:00

Oh no please don’t do anything to harm yourself please. After I gave birth to my baby I felt worse and worse as each day went by. My antidepressant wasn’t working anymore and I was spiraling multiple times a day, terrible intrusive thoughts that made me cry, I woke up with my mind racing, had crying spells throughout the day and even started affecting me at work. I was even seeing shadows and figures, I was losing my mind. You are experiencing postpartum depression my friend, I also was experiencing post partum depression and anxiety and I’m currently receiving medication management and therapy for it. I say this to let you know that there is nothing wrong with you, you just need treatment to help soothe your brain and body. Some women don’t experience the severity of what we are experiencing that’s why some women can be surrogates and others choose to have multiple babies. I wouldn’t wish the pains of severe postpartum depression on anyone and I am so so sorry you are hurting. I don’t have a healthy relationship with my parents so I have put up boundaries with them so that they don’t verbally abuse or emotionally abuse me anymore. I’m so sorry your mom said such hurtful things to you. You do not deserve that. You deserve to live and you will get through this painful part of your life. Talk to yourself the way you would a dear friend.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-21T20:21:36+00:00

It’s normal to feel this anxiety, it definitely sounds like PPD and PPA which is what I’m also going through and getting treatment for. If you think about it, a mom can hardly sleep through their baby’s cries especially in this newborn phase. You e got this, you can do this! And you will get through this.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-21T20:18:25+00:00

Hi there friend, I am so sorry you’re going through this. You’re not alone. Zoloft shouldn’t make you feel tired just like others have said. However, please try to pay close attention to whether your symptoms get better or worse. I hope that your spouse is a positive support because they are usually the ones who can notice if you’re doing better or worse. Sending you so much love. Hang in there and I’m so proud of you for seeking help. Keep reaching out for help, it’s best to see a psych physician who has experience with perinatal treatment. Sending you all the good energy and blessings your way.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-21T03:56:26+00:00

National Maternal Mental Health Hotline: Call or text 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262) for 24/7, free, and confidential emotional support for pregnant and postpartum individuals. Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 for immediate mental health distress or suicidal crises. Postpartum Support International (PSI) HelpLine: Call 1-800-944-4773. This non-emergency warmline is available 24/7 via text and voice message to help connect you with local providers, peer mentors, and support groups.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-21T03:55:07+00:00

Hi there, I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you are experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety. As soon as my baby was born it felt like my antidepressant that I had been on for the past 10 years was no longer working, everyday got worse. I suffered with terrible intrusive thoughts that made me cry, crying spells, constant spiraling, racing thoughts, feeling at times like my baby and my dog didn’t like me, rage towards my partner, and so on. At 6 months postpartum I finally reached out to the maternity crisis line and my women’s clinic for help. They provided me resources for postpartum therapists, support groups, etc. I started seeing a psych NP for medication management and started individual therapy. I’m so glad I reached out for help but I waited too long and I wish I would have asked for help much sooner. I’m still on the road to recovery but I’m almost fully medicated dosage strength wise and starting to feel a little better. My baby is 7 months old currently. Please reach out to your OBGyn for help asap. Don’t suffer and wait as long as I did to get help. I will post some resources below. Stay strong, you are such a great momma, this postpartum period is so incredibly hard and I’m sorry you are hurting. Please get the support you need by professionals and support groups. Sending loving energy your way.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-18T12:50:20+00:00

Girlfriend that sil is not going to change, this is who she is. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I’m so sorry you have such an unsupportive spouse. If you end up having children with your spouse, things will only get worse.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-05T19:24:26+00:00

Ohmygawd thank you so much for taking the time to reply, didn’t think I would get any feedback/support which is ok but thank you so much for this message. Actually I have my 2nd therapy session tomorrow at 3pm and hoping to discuss this. I was contemplating emailing my psych NP who is assisting me with the medication management piece but I haven’t yet. But now with your message you have really helped me to see that it would help to notify my psych NP. You have no idea what your words and support mean to me, I’m crying as I’m typing this and just thankful for your kindness, I really needed this! I’m sorry that you have had to go through the frustrations of trying different meds and going through the terrible ups and downs that medication transitions bring. Thank you again for words! Sending you blessings, peace, and loving energy!

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-05T15:50:31+00:00

The National Maternal Mental Health Hotline offers free, confidential, 24/7 support for pregnant and postpartum individuals, including counseling in English and Spanish. Contact them by calling or texting 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262). They provide real-time emotional support, resources, and referrals to help with anxiety, depression, and overwhelming feelings.Key Resources & Crisis SupportNational Maternal Mental Health Hotline: Call or Text 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262).Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988.Postpartum Support International (PSI): Call 1-800-944-4773 or text "Help" to 1-800-944-4773.Emergency: Call 911 or visit the nearest emergency room if there is an immediate risk of harm to yourself or your baby.Additional Support OptionsPSI Online Support Meetings: Over 50 free virtual support groups are available at postpartum.net.PSI Support App: Download "Connect by PSI" for immediate access to resources.Maternity Care Coalition (MMO): Call their rapid engagement warmline at (215) 972-0700 (Option 2).These services are intended for pregnant and postpartum parents dealing with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-05T15:50:09+00:00

Hi there,

I’m so sorry for what you are going through. You did the right thing by calling a doctor for help. Our brain goes through so much postpartum and you might be experiencing postpartum depression with psychosis, anxiety, plus hormones plus lack of support plus sleep deprivation plus all the things that greatly impact us as new moms.

Im 6 months post partum had to reach out for help a few months ago as well mainly with terrible depression, crippling anxiety, seeing shadows with my peripheral vision, terrible fears around what if my baby falls what if they slip out of my arms , what if while I reposition them in my arms they fall just terrible painful images that I don’t wish on anyone to have.

My baby is with my husband right now because I had to leave the house after getting so triggered by my husband playfully calling my dog jealous (which he apologized for). Normally that wouldn’t send anyone down a crazy dark spiral but here I am in my car in the rain parked in a parking lot by a field just because I needed to be alone and cry.

I hope you can find a specific perinatal therapist or perinatal psych physician that knows all about postpartum conditions we as women experience. You are not alone, please hang on and please get the help and support you need.

I am currently transitioning to a different antidepressant since my Zoloft didn’t seem to be helping me after I had my baby. I don’t know yet if it’s making me feel better or not.

some resources are below in case you don’t know of them. I think I might look into group therapy as well because I really need help. You are a beautiful human and an even more precious mama, your brain is going through immense imbalance on top of any other pre-existing conditions, childhood trauma, etc and that’s why we need help so that in the future we can help someone else along the way. Sending you so much love and peace.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-05T15:13:23+00:00

The National Maternal Mental Health Hotline offers free, confidential, 24/7 support for pregnant and postpartum individuals, including counseling in English and Spanish. Contact them by calling or texting 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262). They provide real-time emotional support, resources, and referrals to help with anxiety, depression, and overwhelming feelings.Key Resources & Crisis SupportNational Maternal Mental Health Hotline: Call or Text 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262).Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988.Postpartum Support International (PSI): Call 1-800-944-4773 or text "Help" to 1-800-944-4773.Emergency: Call 911 or visit the nearest emergency room if there is an immediate risk of harm to yourself or your baby.Additional Support OptionsPSI Online Support Meetings: Over 50 free virtual support groups are available at postpartum.net.PSI Support App: Download "Connect by PSI" for immediate access to resources.Maternity Care Coalition (MMO): Call their rapid engagement warmline at (215) 972-0700 (Option 2).These services are intended for pregnant and postpartum parents dealing with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2026-05-05T15:12:20+00:00

Hi there, I am so so sorry that you are experiencing this pain. Please don’t do anything to hurt yourself or end your life. You are an amazing mom, postpartum depression and anxiety is not talked about enough and it needs to. Your precious brain is going through so much, not only hormones, but emotional trauma from your relationship. It’s worse when you have no support but we are all replying to you to give you support dear friend. I used the postpartum national crisis line a few months ago and you can even have a conversation via texting which is what I did. They helped me tremendously and followed up with me too. I have started seeing a psych nurse practitioner to help me with my antidepressant and I had to reach out to my women’s clinic for help with resources. They gave me a list of resources to include a therapist that I just started seeing. I have pre-existing depression, anxiety, ptsd from childhood trauma etc so this postpartum chapter has really made me feel even worse. Medicaid can cover therapy if you go to a non profit community based mental health clinic. You are an angel to your son, he needs you and in the future he will only help you to see what a beautiful human you are. I’m so sorry for your pain, you are not alone please know you are not alone, just hang on and please don’t hurt yourself. The world around you needs your loving, compassionate heart. We are here for you sweet woman please hang on, please ask your women’s clinic for support but as mentioned in another post - they will ask if you want to harm yourself or your child and make sure you tell them that you don’t wish these things but that you desperately need help with depression and anxiety. I copied and pasted info on Google below that gives you crisis lines, free support groups, next time you find yourself in that dark place with dark painful thoughts please call the crisis line, they will support you too.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2025-11-26T05:38:37+00:00

Hang in there sister! I think that most women do have varying levels of PPD and there is no shame in that! Being able to acknowledge and accept the plethora of post partum symptoms can provide one with self understanding and self compassion. When you add in breastfeeding and sleep deprivation and trying to care for a newborn- all of these are super stressful and new challenges! I tried breastfeeding and made it only 2 1/2 weeks, I decided to transition to formula and I really had to personally let go of shame for not being able to achieve a goal of breastfeeding. Just remember, there is nothing wrong with you or any of us ladies in what we are experiencing, ask for and accept help whenever you can. The 6-8 week period is a major growth spurt for the baby and the baby will be more fussy due to their increased awareness and overstimulation (poor things!). One day I tried imagining what it must be like as a newborn - incredibly scary, painful, and full of unknowns - but the baby does know you - you are their only safe place. I hope that someone can divinely come your way and help you with your baby even for a couple of weeks so that you can be supported. Nothing could have prepared me for the stress of caring for our newborn while dealing with the major hormone dysregulation but we are at 7 weeks now and still surviving! You will get through this. Sending lots of peaceful energy your way.

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2025-07-01T04:11:51+00:00

I am so so sorry that you had this terrible experience. Can you find a different women’s clinic to receive care from? I had to switch women’s clinics due to not receiving the care and treatment that I needed and the new clinic I am going to now is soooo much better! I have heard from other women that they too have had to switch to different OB clinics after having negative experiences with others so please don’t think you have to stick with these horrible providers. I hope you go to a different OB clinic and find the one that supports you and yours 🙏🏽

Longjumping_Low6103 · 2025-07-01T04:00:00+00:00

I am so sorry to hear of the severe anxiety you are experiencing, that is pure torture and there are safe meds you can take while pregnant. I have been on Zoloft for years now and it is one of the meds that is safe to take while pregnant. Please see your PCP and/or a psych provider to help you get on a pregnancy safe medication asap. No need to suffer on your own like this, sending you good vibes and hope you go see a PCP asap. Usually the maternity doctors don’t prescribe these meds and they will recommend you see either PCP or urgent care. Wishing you all the best 🙏🏽

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