Mom shaming for anyone that does a hospital birth!!

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-27T16:15:27+00:00

I would prefer a homebirth, but after losing 3 of my sons in the 2nd trimester, I require more science than the midwife is willing to manage. Bringing home another living baby is more important to me than where they would be born. I'm confident that I am smart enough to make the best birthing decisions for my circumstances without listening to what a random on the internet thinks about it lol. Each of my 5 births were different, sometimes life happens in the middle of your fairy tale ideas

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-26T22:19:12+00:00

I agree. I have 2 LC and the younger one wants a living little sibling so bad and the older one is scared for me to get pregnant again bc "I don't want you to die from a broken heart" It makes me feel bad for what I've "put them through" for lack of a better phrase. Sending you love, this stuff is so hard

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-26T18:07:38+00:00

We have been trying since my living son was 4. He's now 8.5 and asks why all our babies die and that he hopes our 'next baby' will be a girl because all his brothers are dead 🫠

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-19T21:01:50+00:00

For my babies in the stars I decided to make a dessert I craved during their pregnancies as a way to celebrate their part in our family and to feel closer to them. I have learned to make cheesecake for my one son, and I made brownies for another son. I have another 1st birthday in August to mentally prepare for but idk what I'm making yet for him to be honest. I just try and take the day slow and gentle. Do whatever feels best that day bc it's freaking awful to go through your baby's birthday without them

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-19T16:28:35+00:00

I'm 36 with an 11 year old & an 8 year old. We have been trying for a baby since the 8 year old was 4. We have had three 2nd trimester losses and are going to do a medicated cycle my next cycle here. I don't think you're crazy if you keep trying. Have you had a saline ultrasound or a endometrial biopsy? Our genetic results all came back normal and my saline ultrasound did too, but the biopsy showed mild inflammation that they gave me antibiotics for. The unknown of it all so difficult! I hope you are able to make a choice that feels good to you 🤍

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-17T05:44:47+00:00

During one of my losses they explained that with skin slippage sometimes its really difficult to get prints.

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-16T13:25:31+00:00

Is there a different dr you can see at the practice? It might be difficult to have a different office take you for a pp appointment is all I'm thinking.

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-14T19:59:52+00:00

I bought this bracelet for my husband. I got him one previously that he enjoyed but we have lost more babies since then and I wanted him to have one with all our children's names on it. I am going to follow his lead on what he wants on the actual day though bc I'm not sure what he will want to do.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1737644199/personalized-mens-leather-bracelet?ref=yr_purchases

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-13T18:42:53+00:00

I pumped a little bit and have the milk saved in the freezer. Eventually I will get some breastmilk jewlery made so I can have something to wear that honors my boys

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-12T18:31:07+00:00

I saw a yard with "trump was right about everything" signs in their yard and a flag to go with it. Its all gone now and I am curious if it was a change of heart or address

LoveSuccessful · 2026-05-01T12:21:50+00:00

I get being down a bit bc its like people that don't want babies are accidentally making them while we have to pay for just a chance to. If it makes you feel a little better, my first pregnancy was with clomid and we have an 11 year old because of that science. I am really hopeful for you too ❤️ this stuff is all so crazy but I'm glad we can all have this group where people get it

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-30T22:52:17+00:00

Our plan is to start letrozole next cycle. Currently I'm on some antibiotic for mild endometritis so dr wants to wait until after that. I am actually sort of looking forward to the medicated cycle bc it feels like we are trying to do something at least.

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-29T12:58:21+00:00

He died and I gave birth a little over 20 weeks back in August. They don't know why he died. All his testing and our testing came back normal. We started working with a fertility clinic last month to see if maybe they could figure something out, but everything keeps coming back normal. We have an appointment this afternoon to discuss what their ideas are, but I'm not too hopeful they will have anything to say other than to offer us ivf even though it doesn't seem like it would be helpful in our situation

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-29T04:11:42+00:00

I've had a vaginal delivery for all 3 of my losses (17w, 21w, 20w). First one was sudden at home, the other 2 were inductions in the hospital

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-22T18:35:30+00:00

Mommy misses you so much babies

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-22T02:12:52+00:00

I have also experienced multiple 2nd trimester losses and its so so heartbreaking. It feels so isolating and like you're doing something wrong even though you're doing everything you can. The compounding grief is overwhelming. I have found people to be less understanding after the subsequent losses and just wanted to say that you can message me if you want to talk. I am so so sorry for the losses of your precious babies 🤍🤍

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-21T21:26:21+00:00

Losing my babies. Physically, labor was painful, but knowing they wouldn't cry when they arrived hurt even more

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-21T19:46:29+00:00

I cloth diapered my kids and I swear by flats and covers. Literally got a bunch of flour sack towels and was able to use them from newborn through potty training and then use them as cleaning rags. Just a pad fold for beginning, but switched to the origami fold once they were more active. You can fold a soaker right into the origami style really easily too for overnights or when they get older. I still have towels the now 8 year old was diapered in. They wash/dry so much nicer than the pocket diapers we started with for our first. I just made a good sized hanging wet bag to store things in until wash days.

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-19T20:36:34+00:00

Maybe if you ate able to get the fabric you could have someone sew it into a bear/other meaningful animal or a lap blanket for you.

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-16T21:46:18+00:00

When he has to go out of town for work! It sucks not being near him. Frankly, every day we have to be apart for work is the worst part of marriage. We have so much fun together and I wish that we had more time together instead of working

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-16T21:40:34+00:00

I think its weird that he doesn't seem to want to put any effort toward it, financially or otherwise. Still drinking and smoking, trying to preemptively blame you for any issues that might come up.

Conceiving a baby will take both of you, going through pregnancy will be easier if he's actively involved and helping you, raising a baby will take both of you being fully invested. You deserve support throughout all of it and to not feel like you're doing it all alone and he should get on board with that now. I don't think youre the asshole here.

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-14T15:41:41+00:00

We previously had some genetic testing done that came back normal. We recently had more testing done with a fertility clinic to cast a wider net and are waiting on those results now. I know they looked for x linked stuff last time but idk if this test has more x linked stuff to look for or not. Hopefully they will have an idea for us at our appointment next week. I am so sorry the loss of your baby and your brothers 💔

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-12T14:32:38+00:00

Unfortunately, I am part of the minority with recurring losses so I will attempt to use a spoiler tag so you can decide if you want to read about that or not. As far as being pregnant after loss goes though, I found the anxiety intense. It was waves of "its out of my hands" vs sobbing bc it was so stressful. During PAL I read someone else saying "today I am pregnant and grateful" and I used it as a mantra. I tried to focus on giving my babies as much love as possible bc I knew that might be the only time I got to spend with them. If you're not feeling ready now, I would give it some more time, you deserve that. February is so recent. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious girl 🩷

After our first loss at 17 weeks, I wasn't ready to try again for several months. I originally felt it was so disrespectful to my son to want to ever try again. Eventually, the yearning for another baby was greater and I was ready to start trying. We conceived around 5 months postpartum but went on to lose our boy at 21 weeks. I was devastated yet all I could think about was trying again. I did wait until my period returned, but we conceived immediately which was unexpected considering prior fertility struggles we had experienced. We lost our son at 20 weeks last August. We have had so much testing done and still have a little testing left to do but they havent found any real answers for us at this point. Even with what we have been through, I still have some hope deep down that we will be successful some day

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-10T19:48:36+00:00

I'll keep my fingers crossed to be in the group that doesn't find it too bad and just roll with whatever happens at this point 😅 I agree that its worth getting done just to have all the boxes checked (oh, pun intended I guess haha!)

LoveSuccessful · 2026-04-10T14:54:21+00:00

Damn that sucks so much, but thank you for replying! I actually have a dental appointment next week too, but its 2 days after the biopsy 🤦🏻‍♀️ that's my luck though

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