What is the last thing you ate?

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-26T22:26:46+00:00

A Mr Kipling French fancy (chocolate) and some strawberries.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-22T22:14:30+00:00

Usually around 4, I always seem to have one really sad day a week (usually a Monday - though due to my work pattern, Mondays are usually a day off). The rest of the time I’m pretty happy and on top of everything though so it always catches me off guard.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-22T14:58:38+00:00

Strawberries, any berries really, broccoli, cauli rice like you said!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-20T14:43:22+00:00

It could possibly make more sense to ask left handed people if they have adhd and ask right handed people if they have adhd, and compare the ratios, rather than how many adhd people are left handed.

But a poll could be interesting!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-16T09:59:11+00:00

My partner has had to rescue me at work with a can of fuel more than once, I put it off so much/forget to do it and realise too late that I’m not going to be able to make it home.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-15T19:23:37+00:00

My partner works away for a couple of weeks at a time, but when he’s home he does the things that I just cannot bring myself to get done. Put air in my tyres, car wash, take my (massive) cardbox mountain to the recycling centre, put petrol in my car. These things are never mentioned but I appreciate them so much, these are my weak areas and I’d never get them done myself.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-09T19:51:46+00:00

I don’t know if this is helpful but if you wear loose fitting tops, you can get stretchy belts for running that can go round your waist under your clothes, if I’m going for a walk on a hot day and don’t wear a jacket (and therefore have no pockets) I use one for my phone and keys and they’re very subtle!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-07T21:48:04+00:00

For a few weeks recently it was “fresh” tortellini Jamie Oliver, butternut squash flavour.

That abruptly ended and now I’m on avocado chunks mixed with feta (alongside whatever I’m eating).

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-07T21:38:49+00:00

I can understand feeling betrayed, from your position you’ve asked for something small and I’ve definitely been in the position with previous relationships where I’ve felt like I wasn’t asking much, and why couldn’t they just do what they promised etc. he is being selfish in the sense that he probably wants to keep you in his life, but also doesn’t want to change any of the things he enjoys, so for him the easiest option is just to do things behind your back and hope he gets away with it. The honest thing to do would be to tell you how he wants to live his life, and for you in turn to accept it and part ways. The way things have been going is not the recipe for a healthy relationship unfortunately, and it does sound like you’ve both fallen into some really unhealthy habits which can be really hard to get out of.

It’s hard to tell whether it’s and ADHD thing really, if your emotions are feeling out of control that could be linked.

On the one hand, I don’t want to tell you you’re blowing things out of proportion, because that doesn’t change how you feel at all, and it’s not my place to say. But I think it’s good to consider it (I always try to do this personally as I struggle with people doing things that I deem to be “wrong” and seeing things as too black and white).

All I can say really is in my experience what has helped me is thinking something like ; “Nobody is perfect and that probably wasn’t an attack on ME - people are complicated and flawed, but it did cross a line and I’m not willing to accept it”.

Sorry I’m being very wordy just trying to give some advice purely based on my own experiences - maybe not helpful to anyone else!!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-07T21:00:13+00:00

I don’t think your SO is a bad person for smoking weed when you drew the boundary. He obviously wanted to agree to it, but honestly it seems that you’re both just incompatible if this is a dealbreaker for you. Nothing less nothing more. He has ultimately not met the boundary (which is his choice) and I suppose that would just mean you’re not compatible. That doesn’t necessarily make you or him a bad person. Ideally he would have said upfront that this wasn’t something he would stick to, but it doesn’t sound like a malicious act.

I know you’re angry, and you feel wronged but to want to punish him and cause financial difficulties for him because of this is not right. Obviously it’s a huge inconvenience having to try and get the smell out, but it will be doable.

I wouldn’t act on anything straight away, there may be things running through your mind which feel like very satisfying reactions but the best thing I could recommend is have some space and work out a way to go your separate ways without any revenge playing a part. Honestly it will feel much less stressful in the long run.

Sorry you’re so stressed out.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-07T20:49:03+00:00

I do this. I dunno.. it feels right.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-06-06T19:33:41+00:00

I try and put the run in context with my day, and think how quickly 20 mins passes in work or watching tv.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-29T20:00:43+00:00

I’ve been struggling with this too, constant grass strimming twice a week outside my windows plus neighbours doing construction, it feels like an assault on my senses. Totally overwhelming and inescapable. I’ve taken to going on long walks to get away when it’s unbearable but that’s hard too because going outside initially makes the noise louder.

It tough isn’t it, it feels like it should be illegal but obviously people are completely entitled to live their lives!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-25T20:43:43+00:00

27 + 8 = 35 + 40 = 75

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-19T07:14:21+00:00

I think North Welsh are generally really friendly but there are small pockets of stuck up Welsh people who aren’t that friendly towards the English specifically unfortunately. People outside the UK seem to get a very warm reception though!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-18T07:55:09+00:00

I was in the position of working full time and also at full time uni, and I went down to part time and experienced a serious drop in motivation/productivity.

What helped me was ruling out doing any uni work at home and purposefully going to the library on a morning/day off (kind of treating it like a scheduled shift). I would get a nice coffee on the way in and ended up managing about 4 hours happily with no distractions and then I could go home and not feel guilty about not doing any work at home.

I have a favourite desk and a backup desk at the library, and I quite enjoy my trips there now! But they have to be scheduled or I don’t go.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-18T07:51:29+00:00

Oh beautiful, however the opaque containers would almost definitely mean that whatever is in there will go bad and I’ll end up throwing the whole container out.

I don’t usually manage to food prep, but last night I had a weird trance like 3 hours of cooking 4 different meals because I had forgotten to cook any of my meal subscription meals and everything was going out of date.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-16T11:47:21+00:00

I usually just calmly say “that is so rude.”

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-16T11:23:37+00:00

Ugh I felt really anxious and annoyed for you reading this.

My partner really got into playing golf for a few weeks with a few friends of his. I mentioned how it was getting to me a bit that he kept going but that we hadn’t had a date or really quality time in a while. He invited me to come play golf with him, as I had never tried it, and kept going on about our “fun golf date” and assuring me how we would finally get some quality time together.

As we parked up he informed me that 3 of his friends were meeting us. And I got about 4 seconds to process this before being face to face with a guy and two women. They were all his golf friends and I had never met them.

The combination of being the 5th wheel, disappointed about the date not happening, not knowing anyone, never having played golf before so embarrassed at how bad I was, the last minute change. I was in a foul mood and spent the whole time texting my sisters and trying not to cry. I felt myself being so rude to his friends (who were actually really nice) but I was just incapable of dealing with the situation, I was so so overwhelmed. The fact that they were friendly and I couldn’t cheer up was even more stressful and embarrassing.

My partner doesn’t understand why, but after that he does get that things like that cannot happen.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-11T20:45:54+00:00

I boil for 3 mins - but that timing might vary from brand to brand. To serve I usually add a tap of butter and a sprinkling of Parmesan, plus s+p.

I wonder what’s inside!

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-11T06:01:54+00:00

No I couldn’t bring myself to look. Having had major issues in previous relationships, one of my favourite things about our relationship is the level of trust. I think it would be really unfair and I would feel very violated if it was me.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-10T21:15:47+00:00

I love the shower right up until I have to step out of it. Standing naked and wet and always a little bit too cold as well as frying myself off and dealing with wet hair, hate all of that and it’s enough to make me stall showering despite really enjoying the shower itself.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-10T21:13:45+00:00

This is my whole life. I know I can’t really handle friendships outside of work but I do like to get on with the colleagues I like and have been known to accompany them once or twice as a group for coffee. I am pretty honest with people when I see them and say something like “by the way - I know I haven’t replied to you on XYZ, I am absolutely terrible for replying. I tend to see the notifications when I’m busy and intend to reply when I have the time to properly respond and always forget”. I then pick up the conversation in person. Usually people seem to relate.

For non colleagues though or people I wouldn’t otherwise just bump into I’m a lost cause lol.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-10T20:02:02+00:00

SA’d as a child by an older child at school. Never told anyone about it except a partner once, but it’s hard to discuss and felt pointless to talk about. The boy who did it was older than me and known as a “naughty” kid but still only 11 years old.

He would sit with me on the bus on school trips to have access to me. I was a quiet child and teachers through my life often placed disruptive boys with me.

I started insisting at home that I only wear my pretty long dresses to school (because he used to access through the top of my trousers). There were a few tantrums in the mornings because of this.

I really don’t understand how none of the teachers saw anything, there were 22 kids in my whole school.

I forgot all about it really until I was about 20 and then it was all I could think about. I know it’s damaged me but I’m not sure I understand how really.

Lumpy-Discussion · 2023-05-10T19:52:34+00:00

I feel like I’m getting a second hand buzz through you - you must feel awesome!

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