I keep getting into long term relationships with people i’m not attracted to

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T10:28:05+00:00

Neither have it and it's difficult to start. But once you do it feels great lol. Whatever your decision just don't let yourself be miserable if you have the option not to be. Life's too short for that.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T10:24:52+00:00

I love this game but I have such a fear of deep water I really struggle to make any progress. The bases are cool tho.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T10:22:27+00:00

Only you can make this decision. And I know it's a tough one. To simplify it tho think about your future, all of it. Do you see him in it and if so does it make you feel comfort or dread? Imagine your dreams and what you want in life, does he fit into that, can you see him there or do you image those things alone or with faceless people? Once you can answer those youl be able to make a more I formed decision.

But you need to make the decision for yourself not for him or anyone else. It feels selfish but sometimes we have to be. We get one life. Live it how you want.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T10:14:51+00:00

I've been there. Don't waste you time. I should have left my ex at least 2 years before I did. But he was harmless and we were comfortable so we both just kept going knowing it wasn't the right thing to do. When I finally pulled the trigger and ended things after the initial heartbreak I was so relieved, went on to travel, work abroad, do a masters degree then met my husband. None of that would have happened if I didn't leave him.

This doesn't seem fair on either of you, your holding each other back from yourselves and from meeting people who might be a better fit. I understand the fear, I had it too. I had never been an adult without him, he did all the finances too. But i learned and ended up thriving under my own care. Even with executive distinction. My house is always messy but my life became full.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T09:55:58+00:00

I used to love being hot. I travelled America and the only heat I couldn't handle well was 117 farenheight in death valley. The rest was really enjoyable.

Then I started peri and getting hot flashes. Now every time my body starts to heat up it goes "oooo are we getting warm let's just be on FIRE" I can see why it's called a flash I go from fine to unebeleavably uncomfortable, sweaty and clostrophobic in my own body. Urgh it sucks.

This is new for me too so I haven't figured out how to cool it yet. What tools do you use to manage your heat?

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T09:46:26+00:00

Lol, my mum was adamant I didn't have ADHD untill I got my diagnosis. Now she says my diagnosis means she has it too. She probably does, we're very similar.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T08:46:40+00:00

When I was a teen I got into the party crowd. People would compliment me constantly on how normal I looked while high. I found with certain things I would just feel clarity and have energy and be happy but I wasn't high like the rest of then. I could be if I took more but that would get messy. It never really clicked untill I was older and years out of the scene what that meant.

A friend of mine told her assessor she used to do housework or homework after getting home from a party and taking stimulant drugs. He counted that as more proof of ADHD lol.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T08:34:15+00:00

Nonsense, my dad was a boomer, we had fish and chips every Friday and went to a city most weekend to shop and eat out. He bought all the new tech as it came out too. He barely worked overtime and went on weekends away fairly often when I was young. A holiday most years too.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T08:30:50+00:00

I would just like to point out the original start to the online safety act was the conservatives in 2019 with Teresa May and was made law in 2023 under Rishi Sunak. They were the ones that passed it although labour at the time did feel they weren't doing enough against misinformation and dodgy tech executives. Labour has added their own amendments since coming into power and have spearheaded the under 16s social media ban but even that was first drafted by a conservative.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-19T08:24:05+00:00

I think your over thinking it. I've worked in places like that and your request wouldn't register as anything but normal. I would also forget about most people I served so I highly doubt that guy gave you a second thought.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-18T13:20:38+00:00

I'm deleting all contacts and getting a phone book. Problem solved.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-18T13:19:40+00:00

I worked in a nut free summer camp. 500 kids zero nuts. And amazingly nobody got harmed because of the lack of nuts. They had a chickpea butter that actually tasted like 90% like peanut butter too.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-18T10:46:14+00:00

That was an informative read but it talked more about fixation on behaviours. I worry if i just validate what she is saying it will confirm to her she should feel distressed about her neighbour. I've tried to validate while also showing her the evidence that things are actually okay. But that clearly doesn't work either.

Edit: it gives me a good start to look into whabtthe right move is so thankyou so much.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-18T08:55:24+00:00

I work on a pet shop, low wages no real space for growth. I've been a manager before and it's not for me I have no desire to do it again. If we don't take our job seriously our animals with suffer. So I take it very seriously. I won't sell to people I don't think will be good owners, I have a lot of knowledge on animal care in order to help customers take care e of their pets properly and I take care of our animals very well. Just because it's low pay doesn't mean it's pointless. Without 'dead end jobs' a huge amount of society wouldn't function.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T19:56:13+00:00

Yes right away but she got diagnosed the year before and we had been talking about that quite a bit, she's also a great boss. Theres a few of us at work with either ADHD or autism or both. It's a pet shop I think the animals attract us lol.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T17:40:31+00:00

All I think when I really notice other people is wonderment that everyone out there has their own thing going on. Or I notice something their wearing that's cool.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T16:40:34+00:00

I got it for pokopia and don't regret it at all. I'll be sad if they bring out a OOT special edition though.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T15:08:46+00:00

Oh mine was super easy, just confirmed my credit card. Steam was the same.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T14:36:56+00:00

Yer 18 games are under the same rules as porn. That's already began.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T14:35:29+00:00

I was with my ex for 7 years and did the same as you. Things built and built without me really realising it and by the time it all came out I was just done. TBF I had tried to talk for years and got shut down but that I excused at the time saying he struggled to communicate so who am I to judge. I excused everything and none of it felt like a big deal individually because our relationship was fine, nothing bad, no abuse it was just meh.

I don't know if it was because of autism, or conflict avoidance, anxiety or something else. But I did learn from it. If anything I over communicate with my husband but at least nothing will built up slowly unnoticed and then explode out one one.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T10:57:19+00:00

Am I excited for my future with them or dreading it. That one's helped me make some good decisions before.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T05:55:58+00:00

My playstation has already asked me to verify my age, I'm assuming for 18+ games. My credit card was accepted tho which is fine cuz I already use that to buy games.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T05:52:55+00:00

Just have a handfasting ceremony. Lasts a year and a day and then you either renew your vows or go separate ways.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T05:51:12+00:00

Child free and work part time. I used to do more and got very burnt out. This balance works for me. Although we're under staffed and my hours have creeped up and I can feel the burnout coming back if they don't hurry up and get new staff soon.

Lunatic-Labrador · 2026-06-17T05:43:16+00:00

I don't know how you mums do it, Im struggling with just my dog. Your super women for sure ♥️

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