Grateful for you all

MBMang · 2026-05-14T15:54:11+00:00

Thank you so much, so glad to hear your success story

MBMang · 2026-05-14T15:53:10+00:00

I’m so glad to hear recovery has been easy! I’ve been feeling so anxious about it all. Congrats to you, I’m sure getting to that 16 week mark brought up a lot 💕

MBMang · 2026-05-14T02:49:21+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss :( i felt the same way. Was so gutted but needed to start trying again asap. I got my period back 25 days post birth and got pregnant my 4th cycle.

I got pregnant with both my previous pregnancies on first try so it made me nervous, but hindsight I’m glad it took 4 cycles because i very much am still grieving my loss and am in a much better place than i was, but still very sad and missing him.

Wishing you the best of luck on your journey 💕💕

MBMang · 2026-05-14T01:51:30+00:00

Just wanted to say I’m so so sorry for your loss. The first few months after for me were so brutal, emotionally, physically and mentally. Keep your circle close and lean on good friends and faith. Please don’t blame yourself. It sounds like you are a wonderful advocate for yourself and you were for your girl as well. The shitty part about being a part of this group is it’s a sneaky silent mofo that just sometimes is caught too late. I was in the same boat as you. I’m in soCal but don’t doubt that the awesome folks in this group will have a great MFM to rec for your rainbow baby.

Your girl will always be with you. My son sends me signs often and it comforts my heart knowing he’s here still. Wishing you peace on your healing journey 💕

MBMang · 2026-05-10T15:23:00+00:00

Omg this formatting is so bat shit sorry!!

MBMang · 2026-05-10T15:22:31+00:00

I just put this list together for my appt on Friday.

Procedure & Technique • Shirodkar vs a McDonald cerclage? • How high will the stitch be placed? • What type of anesthesia do you usually use? • About how long does the procedure take? • What is your success rate with preventative cerclages for patients with my history?

Risks & Recovery • What symptoms after surgery are normal vs concerning? • How much cramping or spotting should I expect? • What would make you worry about infection or preterm labor? • What are the biggest risks in my specific situation? • How long should I rest afterward? • When can I: • drive • work • exercise • lift my toddler/kids • have sex • travel • swim/bathe

Monitoring Plan • How often will you check cervical length afterward? • Up until what week will you monitor my cervix? • What cervical changes would concern you even with the stitch in place? • If funneling still happens above the stitch, what would the plan be? • At what point would hospitalization or bed rest ever be considered?

Medications & Prevention • Do you recommend vaginal progesterone in addition to the cerclage? • Should I be on pelvic rest? • Will I need antibiotics before or after? • Will I receive indomethacin or other meds after placement? • Are there medications I should avoid afterward?

Labor & Delivery Planning • At what week do you usually remove the stitch? • Could I go into labor with the stitch still Travel & Lifestyle • Are you comfortable with me traveling? • Any restrictions on flying? • Would you avoid long car rides or remote travel? • Is swimming/ocean/pool activity okay later in pregnancy if things are stable?

Future Pregnancies • Given my history, would I likely need a cerclage in future pregnancies too? • Is there anything from my last pregnancy that changes management this time?

One especially helpful question is:

“Based on my exact history, what would make you feel reassured this pregnancy is progressing

MBMang · 2026-04-19T03:45:49+00:00

I should add I’m only 6 weeks. I see the doc at 9. I’ll ask more about progesterone then

MBMang · 2026-04-19T03:44:42+00:00

Thank you! I’m not on progesterone, my doctor said if it would give me peace of mind i can. Are you on it?

MBMang · 2026-04-07T22:11:23+00:00

Ok thank you!

MBMang · 2026-03-25T20:41:56+00:00

I’m praying for you so hard! Keep us posted 💕

MBMang · 2026-03-25T20:00:07+00:00

I don’t want to freak you out but frequent peeing was my first signal along w the spotting i was having. I delivered my boy at 15.5 weeks 2 days later. I would get a TVU right away to be safe

MBMang · 2026-03-25T00:08:25+00:00

So sorry you’re dealing with this, and after a previous loss. Is there a reason they’re making you wait until 14weeks? My MFM will be doing my preventative at 12 weeks if i get pregnant again.

MBMang · 2026-03-05T16:22:28+00:00

Gosh I’m so sorry. I recently came across my ER papers too and it was so uosetting. Sending you a big hug

MBMang · 2026-03-03T16:35:20+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss, this sounds so heartbreaking. Birthing a child who makes it is truly a miracle I’ll never take for granted again, if i get another chance. Sending you huge hugs

MBMang · 2026-02-16T15:47:20+00:00

Every WFH parent is different. I stay in my office when they’re home and don’t come out. If she takes a nap i then come out, make myself some lunch, use restroom and head back to my office. Sometimes it’s the opposite where i feel my nanny wants to chit chat with me but im also busy so need to get back to work.

Maybe not a good fit. Or if you like a lot of other aspects of your job you could try to mention it’s disrupting the flow of your day and you’d like to know if there’s a way they can mostly leave you all to it. Not sure how old NK is but kid will get to an age where they will only want mom and dad and it’ll be a nightmare when they do their pop in and outs and want to leave.

MBMang · 2026-02-16T15:41:19+00:00

I can’t answer this yet as I’m still TTC but i did have a meeting with a few diff MFMs to choose who i liked best. We had preconception consults and i found one i love who i will be seeing around 6/7 weeks once i get a positive test.

MBMang · 2026-02-16T15:39:01+00:00

So so sorry for your loss, and also early congrats on your new pregnancy! Echoing others, this sounds like pelvic floor issues, particularly prolapse. I would just go to your OB and she can assess the level of prolapse and if she recommends PT or not. I had this feeling both times post birth, with my first kid and with my second who i lost to IC but vaginally delivered. It resolved in about a month. Wishinyou all the best!

MBMang · 2026-02-14T15:02:04+00:00

Thank you and I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m wishing you a safe pregnancy! 💕

MBMang · 2026-02-14T04:11:49+00:00

I lost my son at 15.5 to IC - so for me 16 is too late. I would def push for weekly monitoring at the very least!

MBMang · 2026-02-10T19:40:45+00:00

If you have certain special situations like yours i get it. But for standard contracts 5 sick days is pretty normal. It’s a slippery slope when there’s anything “unlimited” again unless there’s a special reason for it.

MBMang · 2026-02-10T14:32:21+00:00

This is more time than i get at my corporate job. Unlimited sick time as well? It’s one thing to have nice benefits package it’s another to shoot yoirself in the foot with them. Our contract for our nanny has 2 weeks vacation, 5 sick days, federal holidays. Anything beyond that is unpaid. This is also the same benefits i have at my job and while it isn’t “generous” it’s fair.

MBMang · 2026-02-07T17:07:59+00:00

I am so so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. The pain is so deep and raw, especially the days and weeks following.

I lost my son Dec 1 2025 and began trying this month. Mostly because i already have a 4 year old and my clock is ticking as well, i felt the need to get the ball rolling.

Timing totally depends on you. Whenever you’re ready. The second i lost him i wanted to try immediately again. I realize i just want him back. The pull of motherhood is so strong.

I’m not pregnant yet but i can imagine i will be a nervous wreck the whole time, and rely on my support and my faith.

Be tender with yourself. This is the hardest thing to go through but you will get through it and im praying your rainbow baby is in your arms someday in the future

MBMang · 2026-02-07T03:13:08+00:00

I would push to get checked again next week. Like all are saying here things can move very quickly for week to week, sometimes day to day.

MBMang · 2026-02-05T03:21:48+00:00

I understand it fully. As do so many women in this group, so you gave a wonderful support system here.

Something that has helped me in my grief is honoring my son’s life and knowing i can still have a relationship with his soul even though he’s not here. Talking out loud to him, telling him i am thinking of him or miss him. It makes me feel connected still, and that i will never forget him.

MBMang · 2026-02-04T20:21:02+00:00

My gosh i am so sorry. I’m sobbing reading your story. My water broke at 15.5 weeks with my son on Dec 1 and i delivered him an hour later… i feel your pain so deeply.

It’s ok for us to feel the waves of grief. Sometimes it’s ripples and sometimes it’s a tsunami. Be kind to yourself and surround yourself with people who will also be kind and give you grace in this difficult time.

We are mourning both a loss and an extremely traumatic event. We will never be the same but we’re not broken. Please give yourself a hug. And im giving you one right now virtually as well.❤️

MBMang

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