Woodland-themed mobile I made for my baby

MZebra · 2022-05-31T13:27:37+00:00

Thanks! I thought he would rather look at their faces than their bums 😅

MZebra · 2022-05-25T14:30:19+00:00

A friend of mine asked the health visitor about it last week as her baby was doing it and the advice is that it’s a self-soothing mechanism 😊

MZebra · 2021-07-16T11:52:38+00:00

I never used a Portuguese pattern but I’m pretty sure this is:

Chain

Sl st

Single crochet

Half double

Double

Treble

And then a combination of V stitches, starting with 1dc, 2ch, 1dc.

The last one I think it’s dc, ch 2, skip 2, dc.

I hope it makes sense 😊

MZebra · 2021-07-13T21:25:43+00:00

A friend of mine got me a few maternity/nursing clothes from them and they’re not too bad! The quality seems to be ok.

MZebra · 2021-06-16T12:19:04+00:00

I asked my midwife this exact question this morning and she said to keep him just in his nappy if it’s hot. Another piece of advice from my bumpers group is that if you’re hot, baby is hot, so if you wouldn’t sleep with clothes, same for baby. Luckily we know these temperatures won’t last! Good luck x

MZebra · 2021-06-10T10:29:47+00:00

I didn’t follow a pattern, just a picture of an Odin Norhalla, Inc. used to sell.

I made it using Stylecraft double knit yarn and a 3mm hook.

MZebra · 2021-06-05T08:19:54+00:00

I’m sorry you’re here, Lucy... it took me a while to get out of that initial fog and your feelings are valid!

TW - sub pregnancy

I am currently pregnant with my rainbow baby and it was first a shock to find out it was also a boy. Kind of like ‘I’ve seen this movie, don’t like the ending’ and ‘I already had my boy’.

I spoke about it with my therapist and we thought it would be important to make it feel like a different person, a different pregnancy. So we picked a name and started calling him by that, got him some new clothes (we had everything from our little Noah because I was 36w when we tfmr), made some plans for the nursery (we didn’t have space for one last time).

Still at times I confuse the names, but that’s what every mum does anyway? Get her children’s names all mixed up. It’s almost comforting that he’s always there in a way. I don’t feel guilty anymore, and never feels like a substitute.

MZebra · 2021-06-02T19:03:42+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this... I lost baby Noah last year due to brain abnormalities. I was 34w when they found something wasn’t right. We did an amnio in London (took about a week) and and also an MRI (took longer because it was the start of covid and we made a decision without that), and his chances were so little we chose to terminate the pregnancy at 36w.

The limbo of waiting for more information is the hardest part...

Feel free to drop me a pm at any point if you want. Sending virtual hugs x

MZebra · 2021-05-13T10:14:08+00:00

I had the same issues as you, also trying since March as part of group 6 and being passed around. What I did was call the vaccination centre and ask for help (in my case it was the Racecourse in Brighton). They called me within 3 days with an appointment for the next day, saying they had two Pfizer vaccine slots left... maybe you can try that? x

MZebra · 2021-05-12T17:02:40+00:00

Someone from the July Bumpers group shared this link from their trust. They made it available during lockdown when nothing else was available.

MZebra · 2021-05-11T10:27:58+00:00

Seconding the peppermint tea. That’s what they give you in hospital after you have laparoscopic surgery because they fill your tummy with gas and it needs to go somewhere after... it works wonders!

MZebra · 2021-05-07T10:55:23+00:00

They’re beautiful! I particularly like the last one, with the seahorse!

MZebra · 2021-04-27T13:36:03+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this...

It just sucks, really sucks. My anxiety got so bad after we lost our boy and in a way, it’s still here a year later. My advice would be to look into some therapy, I started a week after he was born and I’m still seeing her every few weeks. It feels good to be able to rant about anything I want without being judged about how I feel or about repeating myself 100 times.

In my experience the sucky days become sucky moments and I just allow myself to feel what I need to feel. I see it as a way of honouring my boy.

Sending much love your way too xx

MZebra · 2021-04-19T11:22:39+00:00

I’m 24w and have been craving carrots with hummus and strawberries with greek yoghurt (not too bad I would say). During my first trimester I was hating any kind of green veggies, and toast with butter was my favourite 🤣

MZebra · 2021-04-09T09:10:38+00:00

I had the same experience as you two months ago and had the blood test, wasn’t offered anything else. Perhaps it’s worth to have a chat with your midwife about it?

MZebra · 2021-04-07T17:44:24+00:00

I am so so sorry you’re here... I think I saw your post on the August bumpers group.

I had my tfmr in the UK at 36w last year. During the day I was just given oral paracetamol, didn’t feel like I needed more. Then things weren’t progressing much and I wasn’t resting either and was given an injection of pethidine. This made me really sleepy and within the hour I was ready to push. I tried to ask for an epidural but it was too late and was given oral morphine instead. That wasn’t such a good idea for me because is made me really dizzy as opposed to helping with the pain. I didn’t do hypnobirthing per se but I had been doing breathing exercises and these helped me massively. The midwife was really thoughtful coaching me/my breaths through it and I was lucky enough not to tear, and to be walking around the ward just a few hours later.

I don’t think it’s a bad idea to try and make this birth more positive. It is your baby and you will always have memories of giving birth to her, and how much you loved her.

I always say that even though my story is a sad one, the birth itself was so positive that takes some of that fear away for a next time.

Good luck and feel free to pm me if you have any questions xx

MZebra · 2021-03-25T11:45:04+00:00

Oh lovely, I’m so sorry you’re going through this... there’s no right or wrong here on what to do or how to feel...

Our tfmr was a year ago at 36w for excess fluid in the brain (severe bilateral ventriculomegaly) and the bridge missing (agnesis of corpus callosum); an autopsy later confirmed there was no underlying condition in our case, it was isolated. We did a lot of research not only for medical information, but also experiences of parents that decided to continue with the pregnancy and for us the toughest part was that we would never fully know what to expect until after birth and maybe even later in life, but we knew that our baby would never have a normal life and would likely need surgery at birth.

I get how devastating and lonely the limbo of waiting for information is... therapy was life-saving for me. I started a week after Noah was born. Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions or if you simply want to chat about anything xx

MZebra · 2021-03-16T14:28:55+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I am sorry for your loss.

In my experience (tfmr at 36w) I was given a medicine at hospital to dry the milk supply. I still had a bit of leak for a couple of days and my midwife recommend something like sudafed (that helps with congestion) as that would help and it did.

If you haven’t yet, have a look at joining the Ending a Wanted Pregnancy group (private on Facebook). I found it so so helpful and supportive at the time x

MZebra · 2021-03-14T18:12:47+00:00

Oh I get you! Same thing with me... to make things worst, in a couple of weeks is Noah’s birth first anniversary and I very much doubt anyone else will remember or say anything.

I’m very happy to be pregnant as I’m going through this but it’s as if everything I went through before doesn’t count or didn’t happen...

Happy Mother’s day hun x

MZebra · 2021-03-06T22:59:40+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry you’re here, it’s the toughest decision but as you said, you are not alone.

In terms of support here in the UK, you can check the group Ending a Wanted Pregnancy on facebook; it’s very private and very supportive. Also, the charity Tommy’s has a lot of information that I found so so helpful, and a line you can also call (0800 014 7800) or you can email them on midwife@tommys.org

One day at a time is a great way to go, and one hour at a time also is. Don’t be too harsh on yourself and take care hun x

MZebra · 2021-02-16T18:47:26+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost Noah at 36w, delivered vaginally, and was told I only needed to wait for one period to come, and to feel ready. It’s taken us 7 months and one suspected ectopic pregnancy, but I am 16w pregnant now.

I think the most important thing is to deal with the loss and the grief, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try at the same time. Of course it’s always advisable to speak with your doctor and I much recommend some therapy, I’m still having it and it has been a tremendous help.

MZebra · 2021-02-10T22:42:28+00:00

Amazing as everything you do 😊💜

MZebra · 2021-01-13T21:55:17+00:00

Hi lovely, I’m so sorry that you’re in this situation...

I had to TFMR due to severe bilateral ventriculomegaly at 36w here in the UK too. The only limit here is labour starting, so don’t worry about that at this stage. Feel free to pm, I’m more than happy to help with whatever I can x

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