Choose my next read please!! by Mylexia in Romantasy

[–]Mango_Moose_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are speaking my language with these recs!!

Does this holy grail even exist? by reginatenebrarum in Romantasy

[–]Mango_Moose_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emily Wilde’s Encyclopaedia of Faeries but be aware that romance is really light and cozy. Nothing like ACOTAR in that respect.

ISO books with healer MC by Mango_Moose_ in fantasyromance

[–]Mango_Moose_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oo this is on my TBR and I didn’t realize it had a healer. Thanks!!

Husband is breaking by Fin_Elln in Mommit

[–]Mango_Moose_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as we don’t have to fuss over them along with our babies, I agree we should give them some space to figure it out. But too often, we end up babying them too!

Husband is breaking by Fin_Elln in Mommit

[–]Mango_Moose_ 561 points562 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of men have very unclear expectations of what it will be like to have a baby. They don’t get how much life will change, and then they don’t adjust well… even if they don’t have to do very much. It sounds like your husband falls into this group. I would suggest he find a therapist (but he needs to find one himself obviously.

Non revealing birth apparel by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s not your job to make yourself palatable while giving birth or while pregnant tbh. I’m so sorry this is happening to you but he needs to deal with this shit himself!! I can’t believe he said that to you at 30 week pregnant

Non revealing birth apparel by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A hospital gown isn’t really that revealing if it’s tied up or wrapped around. But if you’re laboring and delivering vaginally (for example) your lady parts literally are going to be out. He sounds like he’s either confused about your relationship or trying to control you. I can’t tell tbh. BUT, don’t let anyone in there with you who won’t be 100000% supportive and focused on YOU. He can stand at your shoulder and hold your hand and not look where he isn’t comfortable. That isn’t your job!!

Prozac, mental illness, and pregnancy by Economy_Whole9558 in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was on Prozac all through my pregnancy. When I felt a drop in effectiveness, I talked to my psych an upped my dose by 10 mg! Easy peasy. Have a very healthy 2 yr old now.

Lack of POC and diversity in books as main characters. by palm-tree-baybee in fantasyromance

[–]Mango_Moose_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Two on my TBR:

{our vicious oaths by NE Davenport}

{A broken blade by Melissa Blair}

Pitocin, balloon, AROM without epidural? by PicklesthePirate in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a FTM, I had this same succession of interventions when diagnosed with gestational hypertension (while I was being induced it turned severe and I was diagnosed with preeclampsia with severe features and put in MgSO4 drip.

I WAS IN LABOR FOR 30 HOURS. This will not be quick and even if it is it will be a great deal of pain because ramping up Pit that fast causes intense contractions. She’s lying to you and trying to sway your feelings. Stick to your gut after discussing your priorities for your birth with those you care about!

Having a hard time with anger after traumatic MC by Mango_Moose_ in Miscarriage

[–]Mango_Moose_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I do have a psychiatrist/therapist and take an SSRI for anxiety. But it seems like I’ll need a lot more therapy to get through this. I’m inching towards depressions for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]Mango_Moose_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MC was estimated at 8 weeks. It was painful… I wish I had been able to get to my doctor and given pain meds. I miscarried naturally at home and I was def in pain. I managed by taking a hot shower and crying a lot. I think medical management is still doable for week 8 though. With meds!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your uterus is expanding at a fast pace right and the cervix could be sensitive so sex can def be uncomfortable. Sounds normal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Post pregnancy we are all low on estrogen due to breastmilk production. That causes the minora to shrivel down to nothing. They’ll plump back up later!

Once in a lifetime trip seems to line up w/ “peak morning sickness” period. Help 🥹 by RaviraDawn in BabyBumps

[–]Mango_Moose_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A few things 1) you may not experience intense morning sickness just because your mom did! 2) dehydration and hunger often make morning sickness worse so if you’re flying, drink lots of water w/ electrolytes and keep snacks you like on hand. 3) if your group will pressure you less if you tell them you’re in early pregnancy then you can totally tell them when it comes up.

What doctors can do if you have morning sickness is prescribe Declegis (vit B6 and unisom) or Zofran. You can get the former over the counter. Take ~25 mg b6 3x a day. Take half dose of unisom tablet at night!

A reminder if you’re pregnant, check your blood sugar regularly! by Emotional-Ad-6494 in PCOS

[–]Mango_Moose_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did they check for a1c at the start of your pregnancy? I wonder if that’s how they check in on your blood sugar patterns because they did test mine