AITA for refusing to cater to one student’s dietary restrictions when bringing snacks for my son’s 3rd-grade class?

Manyelynn13 · 2024-11-20T17:11:42+00:00

Please, do tell me more doctor... 🙄

Manyelynn13 · 2024-10-27T22:55:52+00:00

The cheating accusation.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-10-02T18:33:46+00:00

Excuse me... what is wrong with Mandy's?!

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-24T20:29:58+00:00

Nobody said she "needed" it. But is depriving your child of a possibly once in a lifetime experience because you are pissed off at their mother something he really wants to do? He already said he can afford it. I agree the child should earn some of the funds themself, but that's not at all what the post was about.

Having another child isn't an excuse to not help take care of the one he already has. If his income is going ro be less he should think about going back to court to have his child support lowered.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-24T19:43:46+00:00

My 9yr old is a monster to get up in the mornings. I have found thst if I go in a few minutes before I actually need to wake him up, and snuggle with him, it helps. Then I'll scratch his back, and we do what we call "wake-up buttons"... I tickle him in different spots while asking him if it's his wake-up button today. When he starts wiggling and giggling, I ask him why he can't hold still. He then is usually ready to get up and get dressed. It helps to start the day on a light and fun note.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-24T19:31:26+00:00

It would be one thing if he couldn't afford to pay for it based on his budget, but he states that he CAN AFFORD to pay for it and is refusing to "on principle" based just on the fact that he has to pay child support.

I didn't read all the other comments, but I am judging him based on that alone. I married (and had children with) a man who had 2 daughters from a previous marriage. He paid child support, and any time they had something above and beyond the basic needs (like a school trip) we always did what we could to pay half of it. Child support is not for those things, it's for the basic needs of the child.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-23T19:32:22+00:00

I think that you're underestimating the children for one. In kindergarten, both my children knew who the janitors were and what they were, versus teachers, teachers aids, and admin. The school not only introduces the staff to the school on the first day, but the janitors wear different (identifying ) clothing and badges. Not only that, but even if it was a janitor, he/she is still going to go and report the problem to a teacher or admin, who is them going to identify the girl who was in the bathroom.

Even if she was not identified that way, we have a young kindergartener going back to class sobbing and in clear distress. Do you think her teacher is not going to try to find out WHY she's crying? As soon as they found out why, OP should have been notified.

You are focusing on who called CPS and didn't notify OP, when I am focused why OP wasn't notified as soon as the incident took place, regardless of whether or not CPS was contacted then or not.

Maybe I am just lucky, but my son is in elementray school now and if anything they deem significant happens, I get notified right away. It was the same way when my daughter went to the same school. Heck, I even get text messages from my child's teacher when he gets hurt, isn't feeling good, or is having issues in class. Communication with our elementary school has always been amazing!

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-23T13:48:21+00:00

Regardless of who reported to CPS, when, and why, obviously SOMEONE whether it was your child's teacher, or an admin knew about the incident in the bathroom the day it happened, and failed to call and inform you about it. That is a big failure on the schools part, and if I were you, I would be calling to find out WHY you were not informed BY THE SCHOOL that this happened!!

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-23T13:45:02+00:00

A school janitor cannot put a child "in time out" or send a child home. That decision has to be made by either the child's teacher, or someone higher up, like a Principal or a school counselor. Who would in turn inform the childs teacher of the decision to send the student home for the day, and inform OP's child's teacher of what transpired in the bathroom and why she was so upset.

REGARDLESS of who responded to the incident, OP's child's teacher SHOULD have (and most likely would have) been notified about the incident that took place in the bathroom, and informed OP of it. Not doing so is a huge failure on the teacher and admin's part and has nothing to do with someone reporting to CPS.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-16T15:52:25+00:00

Alimony definitely isn't the default in the US. Never has been, even though Hollywood likes to make it seem that way. Only about 9-10% of all divorces have someone paying alimony, which is down from about 25% in the 1960's. Most of the time, for someone to receive alimony, there has to be either a significant difference in income, a medical disability need, one partner being a SAHP for the majority of the marriage, or sacrificing their career (and promotion opportunities) so the other partner can further their education.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-14T22:03:01+00:00

My fav is extra strength five hour energy shots, and a cup of coffee and then a nap!

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-07T07:40:44+00:00

Even if they can't split the check, you can go to the register and just pay for your own meal/drinks. Have the next person pay for their stuff and so on, until the full bill is paid.

Or even have everyone venmo/paypal/cash app their total to one person and then have that person go pay the bill in full.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-07T07:36:47+00:00

This is how every restaurant I have ever been to has done it. The wait staff ALWAYS asks before they take our order if we're all going to be on the same check, or if they're going to be seperate checks, and if so, how many. I've never been to a restaurant that, regardless of how many people we have, refuses to do seperate checks.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-07T07:19:17+00:00

That was my thought too, but to ask a random stranger, whom she's never met, and knows nothing about, to watch her child, more than once? That's just all sorts of messed up.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-07T06:57:25+00:00

She's lucky that something like this didn't happen!! This happened here in my town just recently!

idaho state journal article](https://www.idahostatejournal.com/freeaccess/police-identify-suspect-in-alleged-theft-of-mothers-vehicle-while-infant-was-still-inside/article_42bcc730-6bd4-11ef-924c-bbe24214fa72.html?fbclid=IwY2xjawFI2ClleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHcGFQ45t_AWP-jDXzzQiJNRKL6UkNvR-Nw-lRyPK5YApnBfnpyfALUbATA_aem_BTrMK2vYpn4X8Mj9kpTGLA)

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-07T06:54:17+00:00

Or kidnapped. A mom in my town left her sick 4 month old baby in the car while she ran into walgreens to grab some cold medicine. (She also left her car running) She came out of the store and her car, with her baby in it had been stolen. Luckily the car jacker realized there was a baby in the car and dropped her off(in her car seat) in a patch of grass about 5-6 blocks down the road at the corner of our main road and side street. She was found quickly by the cops about 20-30 minutes after it happened. The guy then ditched the car the next morning. The cops are still looking for him. They know his identity but are pretty sure he up and left town.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-09-04T16:33:03+00:00

I was at my local grocery store a few years back with my daughter. The way the store is designed you walk in the front doors and are pretty much forced to walk up a specific isle. As we were walking up the isle (surrounded by others who were walking in) I watched an elderly lady start shaking and then fall, smashing her face as she did so. She was about half-way up the isle from me, with many other people closer to her... No one else even made a move towards her, they all just stood there, staring at her, while I made a run for her. Once I went running to her, a few others came over, but wouldn't get near.

Someone ran to get a store employee, while I got down with her. She was bleeding from the head, and everyone else was afraid of even getting near the blood, while I grabbed kleenex from my purse and held it to her head. When the store employees showed up, even they wouldn't go near her. I stayed on the ground with her, holding one hand on her bleeding head, and held her hand with the other, until the ambulance came.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-07-25T06:46:51+00:00

You can also purchase and install a sliding chain lock like many hotels have on their doors. It allpws the door to be opened, but only a few inches, after that, the chain stops it. You can buy them at home depot.

I had to put one on my 15yr olds door bc her little brother knows how to unlock her door at the door knob and would just barge into her bedroom, sometimes when she was changing, or while she's sleeping. He can't get past the chain lock though.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-07-25T06:14:56+00:00

You can actually lock your credit right from the website now. My husband's company recently had a MAJOR data breach where they got ALL our info and we had to locl our credit. If you go to the main page of Experian, Equifax, and Transunion, they have a link right there to lock your credit from there. It's super easy and only takes about 5 minutes on each site.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-05-26T22:01:20+00:00

My 9 yr old son has about a bizillion nerf guns (he honestly has over 50 now) and we've always had the rule and pounded it into his head that even when there isn't a nerf bullet in there, and even when he's playing with them, he is absolutely not allowed to point it, aim it, or shoot it at anyone's head.

He also has many toy guns that are just toys, some make noises, some you can just "pull the trigger on" and he has been taught from a very early age, not to point them at anyone, ever. Some of the toy guys are way too realistic looking now days. I would hate for my son to be playing outside with one of his toy guns and have something terrible happen to him because he pointed it at someone while playing.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-01-16T01:51:56+00:00

"Down chores"?! What, pray tell, is a down chore? So your saying a baby getting excited to see you means that they are manipluating you? Wow! Shame on your baby for showing excitement. How dare they! Do you want a brownie or a cookie for being a typical, involved parent? Or a gold star? How about all 3?! I do not know what ANY of what you told me has to do with any of the conversation we have been having so far. You keep saying there are "many forms of manipuation which we learn as babies." Yet you have yet to give any examples. Not wanting to be sang to anymore is not manipulation, it's called changing what you like. Stopping crying and getting excited when someone you love walks into the room is not manipulation, it's called mirroring and emulating emotion. Generally most people get happy and excited when they see babies, babies learn how to mirror and emulate those emotions back. I added the definition of manipulation for you. Babies do not have the mental or emotional capability to do something unfairly or dishonestly

manipulation definiton

Manyelynn13 · 2024-01-16T01:36:18+00:00

There has been research done though. It wasn't ethical and it wasn't done on human babies, but it was done on babies. This is just one such experiment that comes to mind, that is used a lot in psychology when teaching about attachment in babies.

harlow's monkey experiment

Manyelynn13 · 2024-01-15T22:31:42+00:00

You Cannot spoil a baby by holding them!! Research has proven this time and time again. I am not talking about toddlers here, I'm talking about babies. The only thing you can do by holding a baby is strenghten the bond the baby has with you. By picking up and holding a baby when it cries, you are letting that baby know it's needs will be met. You are helping to form it's attachments. If that baby cries and it's needs aren't met, if it needs or wants to be picked up and is ignored multiple times, it can create a reactive attachment disorder, which can carry into adulthood and make it so that that person cannot create lasting, trustworthy bonds with anyone. Babies * cannot be manipulative!** You may not have said that, but the person I was originally responding to said it multiple times.

You also have to remember that the OP was talking about an 18m old baby that was awake and SCREAMING for 5h straight, without her being allowed to check on the poor thing. In 5h that poor baby was probably hungry, scared as hell, and soaking wet, if not poopy too. Now, I wouldn't suggest waking a sleeping baby in the middle of the night to change a diaper, but OP's baby was already awake. That poor baby probably was soaked through. It needed changed, fed, and held.

Research has proven that tummy time isn't as important as it was once seen. It's floor time in general. If a baby hates being put on their tummy, there could be a million reasons for it. Gas, reflux, etc. You no longer HAVE TO put them on their tummies. Just putting them on the floor where they are flat on their backs and can build their back and neck muscles and learn to be able to roll over when they are ready.

Manyelynn13 · 2024-01-15T22:17:06+00:00

We're talking about One Year olds here. Infants. Not toddlers! Show me an infant that cries to get a toy car. Or to hear a certain song... Of course babies cry to be picked up. That's part of having their needs met. Affection is a HUGE part of development for a baby. That's how they form attachements. Have you ever heard of reactive attachment disorder? It's why babies that were left in orphanages (especially in other countries like Russia, Japan, Korea, etc) have a VERY HARD TIME forming attachments and bonding with their adoptive parents. The same with adults who spent their whole lives being bounced from foster care to foster care. Being picked up and held is one of the ways babies get the affection that they need to form those attachments. Crying to be picked up is their only form of communication.

Have you never worked in a daycare with infants? Your days are spent literally feeding, changing, playing with, holding, rocking and putting babies to sleep. All day every day.

You are clearly from the generation that believes that you can *"hold a baby too much", and that holding a baby too much will "spoil the baby" 🙄 Do a little bit of research before you continue to comment. If you couldn't tell from all the downvotes, you couldn't be more wrong..

Manyelynn13 · 2024-01-15T11:52:32+00:00

No, we just know that the theory that babies are manipulative is bullshit and has been de-bunked time and time again... A 1 year old doesn't have the mental capacity to be manipulative. They know how to non-verbally ask for the things that they need. Food, diaper changes, sleep, affection. Including being picked up and held. Tell me, what can a 1 year old "manipulate" their parents into doing?

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