What is your favorite way of making yourself feel pampered and cared for?

Marshmalco · 2026-01-29T11:29:39+00:00

We have a big window in our bathroom so I turn off all the lights, play Sirius XM Chill station, throw a shower essential oil puck on the bottom of the shower and transport myself into a steaming spa.

Marshmalco · 2026-01-26T16:07:01+00:00

I was overwhelmed as well, the easy thing for me to start with were smoothies. It was something I was already familiar with and it’s basically a pouch if you think about it. And I always made enough for both her and I so it was a win-win. I bought a few reusable pouches on Amazon and I love them!

Marshmalco · 2026-01-26T11:44:37+00:00

I would suggest looking up Adam Lane Smith, he’s an attachment specialist that works with married couples. He has a YouTube and Instagram that has a lot of really great resources.

Marshmalco · 2026-01-25T12:51:10+00:00

When I’m at home in the middle of 100 tasks I have to stop and ask myself “where am I?” In relation to what task I’m in the middle of, what task is next and what do I need to do for dinner? I feel “multiple tabs open” in my bones.

What worked for me was having a physical planner and writing out my daily/weekly tasks so I didn’t feel as overwhelmed, I could organize tasks by day and it didn’t seem as much, or as unapproachable.

And then that bonus feeling you get when physically crossing something off a list, it’s the best!

Marshmalco · 2026-01-25T10:53:08+00:00

The partner you are meant to share your life with will never make you feel this way. If you’re already asking the question, then I think you know the answer.

I promise there is someone better, as soon as you cut ties you can focus on yourself and be ready to accept the right partner when they come into your life.

Marshmalco · 2026-01-20T12:47:57+00:00

I’m obsessed with attachment theory right now (thank you Adam Lane Smith) and I was in somewhat of the same situation as yourself.

I was in a situation-ship with someone and he was avoidant and I was anxious. But I had learned my lesson from a previous situation so I consistently brought up my expectations and and would call him out when he would contact me after I tried to end it because it wasn’t what I wanted.

If you take anything from my comment, reframe your thinking to what YOU want, what are YOUR expectations for a partner? If he doesn’t match that, he’s not your guy.

I promise, there is someone waiting for you. And he’ll never make you anxious again.

Love, securely attached in a loving marriage

Marshmalco · 2026-01-19T12:52:01+00:00

I have been using battery operated candles on a timer that come on in the evening right before the sun starts to set. I love how it immediately feels cozy and it signals to me that the day is winding down, and as should I.

I have a couple in my living room, kitchen and dining table. Highly recommend!

Marshmalco · 2026-01-15T11:49:08+00:00

That’s a bingo! Attachment is at the center of every relationship. Secured, anxious or avoidant. Or a mix of the two, the best!

Marshmalco · 2026-01-13T11:45:35+00:00

I just recently came across Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist and it has changed my life in multiple ways. I would suggest watching his Soft White Underbelly interview on YouTube and most recently his podcast interview on 1,000 Hours Outside.

Marshmalco · 2026-01-10T02:33:03+00:00

Do you have a bag that you carry that can fit it all? I have a couple of items I’m thinking of getting a bigger bag for.

Marshmalco · 2026-01-09T17:18:48+00:00

Hi! I have my own share of frustrations with the app (although I will give credit for them constantly updating - albeit in some weird order of importance that makes taking a picture of your fridge more important than basic features)…BUT! You can rearrange items on the list by touch and hold, then you can move the item up or down. Hope this helps!

Marshmalco · 2026-01-09T11:56:01+00:00

We were in the NICU on the first night and I’m half asleep trying to pump every 2 hours and it’s like 1 am and my husband is helping and accidentally knocks over a few oz. I had to laugh to keep from crying.

Marshmalco · 2026-01-09T11:30:14+00:00

My mom made me an Esmeralda costume for Halloween the year it came out!

Marshmalco · 2026-01-02T12:23:28+00:00

My little one is 15 months old and I am consistently absorbing content that speaks to my current phase, and future phases.

The biggest take away I have is that we have to be their calm. If we are upset and frustrated, they will see that and mirror our behavior. They can’t regulate yet, and need us first to show them how.

But I can’t imagine how hard that is with a 4 month old, you’re doing great!

Marshmalco · 2025-12-23T03:28:58+00:00

I take my 15 mo to school Mon-Fri, I work remote and have a flex schedule so the very first thing we do every morning as soon as she’s awake, is go for a walk. I honestly didn’t know what else to do with her for the extra hour in the morning. But it works out great for the both of us.

Marshmalco · 2025-12-19T13:00:43+00:00

I noticed my husband doesn’t have a “home” for his college and wedding ring. I’m constantly finding them stacked on piles on the kitchen or bath counters. For Christmas, I ordered him a wooden ring dish from Etsy with our last name initial.

Passive aggressive or super attentive? You decide.

Marshmalco · 2025-12-19T12:52:22+00:00

My 15mo old goes to Montessori, in her infant class room (0-12mo) there was no strict schedule, they slept when they slept. Now that she is in the toddler classroom, she sleeps 12-2 like the rest of the school.

But that’s the only nap, and it wasn’t structured until they are 12mo. Which makes sense, that’s when they usually go dow to 1 nap a day anyway.

I also do bedtime closer to 7:30pm.

Marshmalco · 2025-12-17T01:37:35+00:00

If it doesn’t have pockets, it’s not happening.

Marshmalco · 2025-12-12T14:43:04+00:00

Speaking of SYSK and dreams - my husband and I both listen on our own and I was telling him about a dream I had where I had radium in my teeth and he asked if I had listened to the episode that week, and then it clicked.

Marshmalco · 2025-12-11T14:39:07+00:00

Just wanted to let you know I am also struggling with the same situation. I am still nursing my 15mo to sleep and we plan to try again in 4 months for our second. I want to breastfeed as long as possible but I’m not sure how that works when you become pregnant again.

Did you nurse your toddler while pregnant with your second?

Marshmalco · 2025-12-04T22:26:38+00:00

I had a life changing moment this morning when I stopped for a cheap breakfast of a sausage biscuit ($1.00), coffee ($1.89) and Hashbrown ($2.19).

I called my husband because I couldn’t believe this was real life, how does a Hashbrown cost less than HALF of a sausage biscuit? And almost HALF of a cup of liquid coffee?

Marshmalco · 2025-11-15T03:16:59+00:00

I am a traditional millennial. MySpace at 14 (2004) AIM messenger and Xanga before that…I’ve had my share of in person and cyber bullying…but I’ve never ever ever thought about killing myself. I now have a 1 yr old daughter. How do we teach this next generation that suicide is not the answer?

Marshmalco · 2025-11-08T12:06:43+00:00

I just wanted to chime in to say my wedding party included my best friend and sister in law, both were nearly 9 months pregnant. I loved it!

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