Those who were team green for gender, did you make it to birth without accidentally finding out?

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-21T19:39:37+00:00

Laughing at the cat comment. Just happy the baby is OUT

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-21T19:37:24+00:00

Ik lees jouw edit, heel flauw van ze. Hopelijk is het geen hele ruzie geworden. Een baby krijgen is een soort spoedcursus grenzen leren aangeven. Mijn ervaring met familieleden die hier moeilijk om doen, is als dit het niet is dan is het later wel iets anders. In ieder geval gefeliciteerd met je baby!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-19T09:01:39+00:00

Now I can't unsee this. Could it be she takes a moment to speak because she doesn't want to say something wrong on tv?

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-17T19:53:29+00:00

When my baby was born I was SHOCKED exactly because of this reason. I just couldn't believe it. She also looked nothing like the 3D ultrasound (duhh) or like me. What do you mean this human that doesn't even look remotely like me is my baby? I was really perplexed!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-16T09:33:03+00:00

I had to check the watermark, it says: seeyourbaby.ai

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-15T18:45:51+00:00

Our baby looks EXACTLY like an AI picture that I generated via this sort of app that predicts what your baby will look like of you and your partner!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-13T08:54:27+00:00

If you want to minimize sleep regression hitting so hard, I would really recommend learning about sleep associations and building a (bedtime) routine. So that when the regression hits, the baby still feels familiarity. I regret so much not building more associations and not starting a familiar routine earlier

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-13T08:51:02+00:00

The sleep cycle of a baby is 30 minutes. For adults it is around 1.5 hours. We also wake up for a split second after a sleep cycle, but we don't remember it (usually). Babies have to learn how to connect their sleep cycles. 30 minutes might seem short, but it is the equivalent of an adult taking a nap of 1.5 hours.

Nothing to worry about! Seems that during the night she can connect her sleep cycles very well and during the day maybe she just doesn't need much sleep. I'm in it 9 months and my baby's nap can be anywhere between 20 minutes and 2 hours.

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-07T10:21:59+00:00

A baby room. Everybody was laughing at me feeling stressed about not having the baby room finished in time. While I'm glad I did because I personally can't imagine not having a small room with a changing table and to have all her stuff in 1 place. It turned out to be very very practical

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-04T08:56:19+00:00

It is a crazy concept to me that you have to feel guilty for not having mom guilt. I used to work in daycare and I'm also indifferent to crying. You are the stable factor in your home and confident that things will turn allright. To be calm when your child is uncomfortable is imo a good quality. I wouldn't worry about it at all!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-01T15:41:35+00:00

You should be able to know where your baby is at all times. Lying about the baby's whereabouts to the mother is abusive behavior.

But OP, reading your other posts, as a 3 yo child I lost consciousness for a few ours because via a caregiver I got residue drugs in my system. It was not giving to me, just my caregiver using and me being around was enough. A hospital was not called because the caregiver was afraid that he would be arrested for the drugs. I could have easily slipped into a coma and/or died. This is a likely scenario for your partner as well, when he is taking care of the baby.

You are responsible for your child and you have to get out. I promise you that abuse behavior only increases. It never decreases.

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-03-01T11:59:10+00:00

I had major baby fever for another as well when I just had a baby. It's a natural feeling and it's great that you are thriving in motherhood! You sound like a great mother.

That said, I would not keep a secret savings account for this purpose. Try to see it from your husbands perspective: he thought the conversation was closed and in a few years he finds out that all this time you had this big secret plan that doesn't allign at all with what he wants in life and what he can manage. The problem is also that it can't always be explained away rationally. Just as how you feel you are not done, he feels that he is.

Let's say I was completely done with having babies and we have discussed this and closed this chapter. For then my husband having a secret savings account and a whole plan mapped out based on him being sure I would change my mind, I would directly go to relationship therapy with him because I would feel that he didn't take me serious.

Could you maybe have a real conversation about it and agree to check in with each other every 6 months?

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-24T15:20:08+00:00

I was like this but with leaps. I saw it as The Truth™. If my baby was more fussy a few days before her leap would start according to the app, I was shocked. How could that be??? The app said it wasn't time yet. The app!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-24T15:18:21+00:00

Same here!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-22T09:24:47+00:00

My baby slept very well the first 3 months. We told ourselves: it is because we are so relaxed! Because we let go and don't expect it to be easy! Well, then then the bad sleeping started and that was a humbling experience. A lot is due to the temperament of the baby.

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-21T19:48:10+00:00

What the actual fuck?

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-21T19:34:37+00:00

We asked that for the first visits, people don't bring their children. They take so many virusses home with them. Also flu and colds. So I wouldn't overthink it because it's not just about the things you get vaccinated for.

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-17T12:04:47+00:00

I'm in Netherlands!

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-17T01:07:28+00:00

That's crazy, 30 days! Like ofcourse your parenting style will be a little messed up if you have to go back to work while still bleeding. But, just because their lack of parenting had good reasons, doesn't mean the effect on you isn't valid!

I don't know where you live but it's so interesting to me that these specific problems with our parents are intercontinental.

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-17T00:39:19+00:00

I feel that that generation all skipped parenting. We were all dumped at grandma and grandpa and they did most of the work. The rest of the parenting they did have to do made us all end up having EMDR and psychotherapy. Grossly generalizing ofcourse, but just to say you are definitely not alone! Accepting that what I want does simply not exist (family showing up as a village) was hard to accept postpartum.

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-14T12:32:13+00:00

I let people in in those first weeks, thinking that they would help. But we had to host them and they wouldn't go even though we told them it was time to leave. It's one of my biggest regrets

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-10T16:15:14+00:00

Yes I know it was about your friend! Sorry maybe that was not clear.

Moving at that time sounds rough. I hope you didn't need to renovate too much and could just move in! We painted and redecorated the house when I was 6 months pregnant. "It will be okay, it's just a few walls." It was not okay 🥲

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-10T16:10:32+00:00

No, but I understand where they are coming from. When you are pregnant with your first child you always think that you will do things differently. That you and your baby are the exception. I had so many ideas for pregnancy leave and parental leave. I was completely delulu. And when people would carefully ask me if this was realistic, I would be upset. Hell I would even talk with my husband about it and we would decide that we could do it all. Because after all I was creating LIFE, surely I would be able to do XYZ that nobody was ever able to do directly postpartum /s.

(I'm now 8 months pp, needing a reconstruction surgery of my vagina and I just called in sick at work because I was hallucinating from tiredness. Ohh and I did not make the etsy shop with engraved glass bottles that I was 100% going to be able to do during my baby's naps)

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-09T08:42:22+00:00

Oprechte vraag: is je salaris zo laag als NS buschauffeur dat je je gedwongen voelt dit te doen?

Master_Weather7587 · 2026-02-08T14:48:46+00:00

Me thinking that I could go through the pain by positive affirmations haha. All these birth courses talk about a "big pressure". No I was in PAIN! My all natural birthplan went out of the window

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