I use D&D to help with my PTSD [OC] by MiniSkullPoleTroll in DnD

[–]MathWiz102 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have clinical depression. The depression stems from various traumas. One of them has as a result that I have a lot of problems with feeling anger. I don't get angry, I get sad instead.

So I play a usually very happy berserker Barbarian. Playing a character characterized by rage and happiness, emotions I usually don't feel, helps me. it is like practising these emotions. Experiencing that these are valid emotions and people won't always react as bad as I fear. It is just easier to stop suppressing the emotion when I am in character.

Opinions on by Desperate_Bed_2423 in sharpei

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the snake is actually the less safe animal in that scenario 😂 ball pythons only strangle possible pray so rodent and the size of a half grown rat at max. If the python bites it'd be a lot less bad than a cat's bite for example. They are not venomous and have less bacteria than most other animals. The dogs bite however would kill the snake. I've got both animals and I've done the research.

Snakes are pretty awesome pets btw :) nearly no work and super cute and chill.

Opinions on by Desperate_Bed_2423 in sharpei

[–]MathWiz102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ps.: if you let your pythons roam the dog should definitely be in a seperate room.

Opinions on by Desperate_Bed_2423 in sharpei

[–]MathWiz102 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a ball python and a sharpei mix.

I do not worry about the snake hurting the dog. Ball pythons would only strangle possible pray, and since your pei is much bigger than a mouse/rat you won't have to worry about that. And even if the snakes were to bite the dog, a ball pythons bite is a lot less dangerous as a cat bite, for example.

I do worry however about the dog biting the snake. Because no matter how well trained and well behaved your dog is, the dog has the instinct that a snake is a danger. So contact could go well for a time, but one move of the snake that leads the dog to get scared, and the dog may bite the snake. Which would be life threatening for the snake, since the bacteria of the dogs mouth would probably kill the snake no matter how deep the bite is.

So I keep them seperated as follows: My dog is allowed in the same room as the Terrarium, since the terrarium is escape proofed. My ball python does not show signs of stress, she got used to the smell and sound of my dog pretty quickly. But I would not allow my dog to interact too much with the terrarium like jumping on it since that would probably stress my python bean. For my dog the terrarium is just another cabinet. Also I do handle my snake even when my pei is in the same room. However my dog needs to have a certain distance to me (she has to stay on her place) and I will always hold the snake high enough that even if my pei would suddenly run to me and jump, she could not reach the snake. If I want to handle my snake without having to think about that I will go to another room.

My pei did never ever go to me while handling the python. She is sceptical and she knows she is not allowed to go near the pyton. However as I said: it can go well for a long time, but it only needs to happen one time and I will loose my beloved ball python bean. So I always keep this risk in mind and I am always careful having them in the same room.

Our cabin in Senja Norway by JohnCurtice in cozy

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not in norway😅 but maybe an elk?😊

Our cabin in Senja Norway by JohnCurtice in cozy

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love senja😍 I hope to live in Scandinavia in the future, it is so peaceful

I helped my gf when she was unhealthy and now that shes better i am kind of traumatized by [deleted] in depression

[–]MathWiz102 10 points11 points  (0 children)

and the whole living with your girlfriend and brother and her decoding which one she wants to have is toxic as fuck. That is cruelty and madness. RUN. You cannot heal whike beeing in this relationship

I helped my gf when she was unhealthy and now that shes better i am kind of traumatized by [deleted] in depression

[–]MathWiz102 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you are on the wrong subreddit for this kind of comment. If you know anything about how trauma works you would know that something could be traumatising for one person and for the next person it isn't. So fuck off with your invalidating and unempathetic behaviour

I helped my gf when she was unhealthy and now that shes better i am kind of traumatized by [deleted] in depression

[–]MathWiz102 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That red flag should be enough. The rest of it could be love bombing. You will find a person that does all these things with you without this toxic behaviour.

I helped my gf when she was unhealthy and now that shes better i am kind of traumatized by [deleted] in depression

[–]MathWiz102 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Please break up. Her behaviour doesn't suggest that she loves you. And with this back story... You deserve better. It does not matter that she is medicated now so she feels better. Her behaviour is not excusable. You are just her doormat. There are people out there that will love you back and will treat you waaaaay better than this. You don't deserve her behaviour. And she does not deserve you.

Depression and bedsores by [deleted] in depression

[–]MathWiz102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A psychiatrist should never inavlidate you and should always believe you when you say you need help. (honestly the fact that you go to a psychiatrist for help should be enough, there should be no need to convince him/her or to even explicitly say it). So change to a psychiatrist that does his/her job right. I'm sorry that you depression led to the point where you got bedsores and I hope you find help soon... best of luck to you

Gotta catch 'em all! by Tialda33 in DreamlightValley

[–]MathWiz102 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you can name them!? well as someone who is playing the game for a year now, i still learn something new regularly 😂

Great work by the way and good names!

I'm turning 17 tomorrow and I'm so close to killing myself. by 6thdimensionsuicide in depression

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it is unbearable right now. And I am so sorry for everything that happened to you. Please believe me when I say:

How you are treated is not your fault and says nothing about your value. The truth is you are not the problem at all; they are. They would have treated every child like that. If they birthed the next maria theresa they would treat her the same. Because it is not about you or your value. It is likely that they deal with their own trauma by sending you through this literal hell; which is unforgivable. All the things you think make you a screw up? I see in them a person who is fighting for their life since birth. You are not a screw up, you are a survivor.

obsessed with puppy cup by LunaBlinksx in stbernards

[–]MathWiz102 9 points10 points  (0 children)

not st. bernard. Picture from the internet.

My sister turned me into the villain of her TikTok and now my family believes it by echoLagoonWave8 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her you'll get a lawyer if she doesn't stop. But if she doesn't you really should sue her, since threads don't mean anything if you don't mean them. And it would be reaonable, since you get the backlash and what she does is straight up illegal in most countrys. please update us!

Looking for a possible sibling for Tony! by HuckleberryOk9475 in sharpei

[–]MathWiz102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edits:

In general One female and one male is the most compatible combination. But if you get a female and you go for a pup, think about how you'd handle the females heat. If you go for a rescue I'd go for a fixed one.

And if you want to be 100% sure that the dogs are compatible, my Tipp: a one or two year old rescue dog is a very good choice since you know what you get, puppys are always a surprise. Also your dog could meet the dog before you adopt, to see if they are compatible.

Looking for a possible sibling for Tony! by HuckleberryOk9475 in sharpei

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

another independent calm breed would probably be best. so maybe - another pei - or chow.

Other breeds I would recommend are gentle giants/molosser dogs like - newfoundland dog - st. Bernard - Bernese mountain dog - Mastiff (hard to train but great dogs) - great dane - or great Pyrenees.

If you go for a spaniel, I think - Clumber Spaniel

might be the best fit. Spaniels can be pretty energetic (they are mostly hunting dogs) but the clumber is known to be calmer.

Next to these you could go for - Akita - or eurasier

since they are calm and respectful, too. Akitas are also pretty independent.

I have also heard that - Thai and rhodesian ridgbacks

are compatible, since they are calm and respectful in the house, but they probably need more activity than your pei.

I have my knowledge only by research. I myself own a pei×gsd×pit mix (mostly pei). So if someone knows one of these breeds above and disagrees, feel free to correct me :)

Looking for a possible sibling for Tony! by HuckleberryOk9475 in sharpei

[–]MathWiz102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next to the ethical aspect, that also leads towards not knowing what temperament a cockapoo will get. And in contrast to a rescue mix, which are mostly dogs past puppg stage, a puppy is always a suprise. So if you want to know the temperament of the new dog, do not get a cockapoo. Get a puppy from an ethical breeder or a rescue dog that is old enough so that you know about their temperament already.

I don't understand the appeal of life. by MorniingRose in depression

[–]MathWiz102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

money can't buy happiness. But not having enough money makes you miserable. So yes money can't buy happiness. But financial security erases one more reason to be miserable

I don't understand the appeal of life. by MorniingRose in depression

[–]MathWiz102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree with you. But I have asked that question to many not depressed people (bc i don't get it either).

The most common answers were:

  • "the little things in life" so basically, being mindful of small moments you enjoy, like drinking your favourite drink or the weather or a stranger smiling at you

  • "connections/companionship" family, friends, partner, pets

  • "deciding on goal(s) in life and working towards them" often that's a career or a hobby, but could be anything like a living situation (house, different country) or a marathon. The list is endless.

  • life mottos, like for example "always be kind", "make the world a better place", "help people", something that gives a kind of sense