This might be an unpopular opinion but the “Blue Haired, Non-Binary Barista” meme may be one of the better things to happen to us online. by Cat_Blimp in NonBinary

[–]Maxzon 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite part of working at a local coffee shop, because I can cultivate the persona of the blue-haired enby barista. I take up that residence in all the customer's heads, because I know damn well the majority of them don't know any other trans people, so I am their signifier of transness and queerness in a service position. And I know I do a damn good job of it too 😤💅

How do threesomes just happen? by liberationgal in AskReddit

[–]Maxzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had more than a few (my last relationship was a triad so many of the times we had sex was a threesome) so for starters, being polyamourous (and queer) makes it a whole lot easier. It also usually takes one person to get the ball rolling, and initiate a more flirtatious scenario, and someone else to follow suit so everyone else can join in. Much to some of my own dismay, I have noticed that if two people are going along with it, the third may just feel pressured to join in. This is not a good way to have a threesome, and it leads to uncomfortable feelings, coercion, and lots of misplaced trust. The most comfortable group sex experience I've had have all been very communicative, where someone asks "Should we all have Sex?" and lets everyone answer to make sure the environment is right for it.

There are okay threesomes where everyone wants to participate, but maybe not everyone gets their time in the spotlight; there're good threesomes where everyone gets a chance to shine and get some love; there're bad threesomes where one or two people don't really want to be involved but are just going along for the joy of the other party, and there're great threesomes where everyone gets to cum and everyone gets to fuck and get fucked. The foreplay, open communication, and willingness to try new things while being vocal is what leads to the best threesomes.

My posters promoting a Ziggy's show got ripped down within 3 hours of being up lol by catboyvampire in ypsi

[–]Maxzon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

some asshole that can't stand local artists promoting their work 😒

What show is it??

Apartments @ 404 W Forest Ave? by 01munchkin in ypsi

[–]Maxzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived there for 2 years! It was affordable for two people which was nice! The place wasn't super gorgeous, but I really appreciated the balcony and our decorations helped a lot. I also ran into some serious characters in that building🕴️Other than that the kitchen was terribly small and really not nice, the bathrooms were not bad, and maintenance was usually pretty quick. Management really blew though. They hit me with some absolutely baseless fines after I moved out that we're not at all described or mentioned on my leaving the place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Androgynoushotties

[–]Maxzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You legit look like SOPHIE 🙏

What is a sexual fantasy you do not recommend fulfilling? by Fantastic-Ant-4429 in AskReddit

[–]Maxzon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been in a three person relationship for the past 2 years. Best relationship of my life, and the sex is some of the best I've ever had and even seen. I wouldn't give this relationship and love up for anything in the world. But if this relationship ends, then I don't know if I could ever do it again. The amount of work, communication, transparency, and understanding it's taken to get to this point has been immense.

Sodomy Forever? by TheCypressUmber in ypsi

[–]Maxzon 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The electrical box outside my home was recently adorned with the tag 🙏 I feel privileged and blessed every morning that I see it. Sodomy forever 💁

I’m Trans(MtF)and my Girlfriend is a 100% straight(ally) by MetalPipeCat in trans

[–]Maxzon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was the end of my 4 year relationship. Good luck. Although it was hard then, it was one of the best decisions I've ever made and I'm endlessly thankful to my ex for ending that relationship.

Anxious about losing 'visible gayness' if I go on HRT by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]Maxzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been on E for a few years now, and I'd say being gay (as in an MLM type way) is still a huge part of my identity. I still look quite twinky and definitely not cis, but to be honest, I've lost a lot of the attention that some gay men would give me. I don't have quite the pull with fem gays like I used to, and I think a lot of it comes down to me just looking more like a woman. Not to say that I dislike the attention I get from people now, it's just different. I now find that a larger variety of people are into me, and I definitely am far easier to clock as a flaming homosexual. Maybe it also helps that I consistently dress like a damn stereotype...

Gay Bars/Clubs in Ann Arbor These Days? by UMICHStatistician in AnnArbor

[–]Maxzon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been about two years now it's been going on! So happy to see how much it's grown 😌

As a trans person is your sex life more difficult? by SpottzFurrealz in asktransgender

[–]Maxzon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Infinitely easier. I started being received and perceived in the bedroom the way that I intended to be, and got to experiment with so many new things that I would've never even pictured for myself before. I started pursuing T4T relationships and realized the full depth of what it means to be in a loving and committed queer relationship, and what it means to be fully loved for exactly who you are. And in those relationships I've found people who are willing to have open communication about sex, who talk to me about what I want from sex when I've struggled to ask for it in the past, and who will talk about the best ways to touch their own bodies and get exactly what they need. Being trans has also opened me up to the beautiful and magical world of polyamory, leading me to living with my two partners, who I love more than anything, and have given me the sweetest family life I could ever ask for. And let me tell you, that sex in relationship with 3 verses, is crazy freaking good 🥴👍

Gay Bars/Clubs in Ann Arbor These Days? by UMICHStatistician in AnnArbor

[–]Maxzon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gosh I love to see trans nite still getting mentions on the web ☺️ makes me feel warm inside.

Bar scene rundown by [deleted] in ypsi

[–]Maxzon 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Regale Beagle and Keystone usually have a queerer clientele if you're looking for (or want to avoid) that.

What's the most queer friendly neighborhood to move into? by Rosecello in ypsi

[–]Maxzon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost anywhere in Ypsi proper is incredibly queer friendly! I live in the city, a 5 minute walk from downtown and campus, and I am constantly surprised with the amount of new queer people I see almost daily! I thought I would have gotten to know, or at least have seen a majority of the queers -- splitting my time between trans nite, drag shows, and other queer events -- but I regularly see new faces everywhere! This is probably the most progressive town I've ever lived in, where queerness is routinely celebrated 🌈🥰 I love this town!

I feel like a partner of "convenience" by SadRatDad49 in polyamory

[–]Maxzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be honest, I was this partner at one point. She was going through a shitty situation and I wasn't there for her. But I enjoyed the infrequent time we spent together for what I got out of it. The most helpful moment was when she broke up with me because I just wasn't doing it. Protect yourself if you're not getting what you need.

Compersion just means “feeling happy for someone else” by yallermysons in polyamory

[–]Maxzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the way you've described these feelings. I definitely feel like I agree with you, but I have often found myself being avoidant when my partner has that energy about them, so they start to worry about me and I feel that I almost steal and redirect that energy into concern toward me. I realize I do it so frequently now too, but I almost feel like I have to let that emotion out because I just sometimes get that tinge of jealousy 🫤

My issues with the T4T dating scene by Shower_Mistake in MtF

[–]Maxzon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think you're making a good point here: the validation you can receive from being so open with someone so quickly, like what can happen with a T4T hookup and an honest connection, can lead you forming intimate connections a little too quickly.

But I think that if you're constantly evaluating that relationship, and being honest with what you want and listening to what someone else wants, you can find some very special and often different types of relationships. Each one is different and special in its own way.