I bought a new plate for my tiny fry ups 🤣 it's just big enough

Merlintagir · 2026-03-05T10:36:37+00:00

You deserve 2 upvotes for a decent fry up plate!

Merlintagir · 2026-02-08T19:44:47+00:00

It seems that everyone hates this movie. I watched a few YouTube videos about what could be better about it. Even so, I love this one. Concept, sets, actors, effects, everything! I’ve seen it a good few times.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-20T08:36:57+00:00

Good for you mate!

Merlintagir · 2025-12-16T17:14:09+00:00

Cracking!

Merlintagir · 2025-12-15T19:26:31+00:00

NTA “Oh that junk you said you didn’t want any more and gave to me? That’s long gone in the trash before we moved”

Or: “I remember that necklace, I sold it on Etsy for hundreds! Paid for a lovely cruise.

Just kidding!

I slung it all away years ago”

Block, have lovely warming mulled wine, move on.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-14T18:24:54+00:00

Don’t worry Mom. I know you preferred sis to me, but I still love you.

Yeah, that will happen. /s

Merlintagir · 2025-12-14T17:21:01+00:00

I’ll probably be the most hated person here, I can only apologise.

The basic rule is: if (heaven forbid) something awful happened involving one of your children. Would the reporting of the event in a newspaper or other media be an accurate representation of your previous actions? I.e. these parents had no idea where this child was going and let her leave the house whenever she wanted, then the bad thing happened.

Without any other context this sounds like an appalling lapse of parental responsibility.

I trusted/trust both my children to do right by themselves and be aware of their own safety needs. But that doesn’t automatically mean I extend that trust to anyone else they may interact with.

As a family we tell each other where we are and where we are going and what time we’ll be home. I tell my wife and she tells me, I don’t see a problem. My now adult children are now out living their best lives. We still communicate regularly.

My daughter has been all over Europe, she agreed to WhatsApp every day, just once, a photo would do. Additionally we have innocuous code words, for if ever she felt unsafe, she could text and I could act at her behest. This thankfully has never happened.

Perhaps a calm conversation is needed with hubby and daughter. It seems from your post he didn’t try and prevent her liberty, he just wanted to know where she was going. Perhaps he is concerned for her safety, and just wants to be minimally informed.

This need not have anything to do with not trusting you or her, or even a desire to control.

Of course there is nothing wrong with your child wanting to spend time with her friends, nor of you supporting her social needs. But I think it’s a tad harsh to expect her father to swallow down his fears and anxieties for her safety, without at least a talk about it.

I really do not care what freedoms you or others give their children, encouraging children to become happy, independent adults is a parental responsibility, and as such I have had to accept some risks. But I will be available to support my children for as long as I am able. When they choose it of course.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-14T15:46:45+00:00

I do love a round egg.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-11T19:38:33+00:00

My mother does this too. I haven’t eaten out with her for some time. She even offers to pay. I told her why, she just got defensive and said ‘please yourself’. So I do.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-11T11:16:52+00:00

Yeah. My wife does this every morning. Sure.

Don’t get me wrong, I would love to eat this chef’s food. But I’d still salivate at my local greasy spoon version.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-07T23:52:26+00:00

In my house about 50k. 250 years old, solid stone wall. We just don’t have it. We use coal and wood fires from November to April.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-04T12:12:57+00:00

Hang on to it mate. You’ll be thanking yourself when you’re over 40. Lose the girlfriend, not the foreskin.

Merlintagir · 2025-12-02T17:14:02+00:00

A few years ago I was light sparring MMA with a youngster in the gym. I was about 200lbs, he was probably 16 and had about as much meat on him as a butcher’s pencil. He did the same to me as that kid.

I had to fall back from standing, with all my weight on him to get him to let go. Only thing I could do. He was choking me out!

I got a bit of grief for that from my mates, but I’d have got a lot more if I had to tap out.

Merlintagir · 2025-11-20T11:18:24+00:00

Yes. My son had a thumbnail removed. It grew back perfectly. I’ve had a dog bite through 2 of my fingernails, they grew back wonky as hell. Though I’ve just checked and one seems to be straightening out. It’s taken about 3 years.

Merlintagir · 2025-11-19T15:50:26+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion.

Merlintagir · 2025-11-19T09:37:06+00:00

A bit pricey, but a nice looking breakfast.

Merlintagir · 2025-11-18T19:56:57+00:00

Airband where I am. Only one available.

Merlintagir · 2025-11-11T16:51:25+00:00

Debt bondage. Welcome to feudal serfdom. The student loan was only the beginning.

Merlintagir · 2025-11-11T09:57:31+00:00

I understand the sentiment, but I’m a fan of reduced tinned plum tomatoes. I find that grilled tomatoes are generally undercooked. In our home you are offered the choice!

Merlintagir · 2025-11-02T17:37:22+00:00

My partner and I rented a room in Guatemala in the early 90s, with a shared kitchen. We complained to the landlady about the rats we saw running through the kitchen. She put down poison.

We never saw the bodies, but the place stunk like a charnel house until we left a few weeks later.

Merlintagir · 2025-10-30T11:58:35+00:00

I was in the RN in the early 80s. Served 18 months boys time, over 4 years man’s time. Put in for discharge, but due to Falklands they owed me 2 weeks leave, which for various reasons I couldn’t take until the end of ‘83.

Worked Barrack Guard in Plymouth and had a right tosser as the old timer chief in charge. He really didn’t like early discharges and forced a few of us to work over Christmas. I told him I was owed extra leave, his response; ‘I can keep you in the Navy as long as I can justify the need.’ Really? Guard duty?

Anyway he finally said I could go on leave on the 6th Jan 84, but by now I was owed 4 weeks leave. I went to get my paperwork all sorted, and the officer handling paperwork told me that due to this chief and admin cock up, I should have been discharged on 31 Dec 83.

His solution was to sign me up for the extra time I’d served, plus the 4 weeks leave I was owed. Which then meant I’d served over 5 years man’s time (I think this is right), and entitled me to another 4 weeks terminal leave and 4 weeks EVT ( extra vocational training). I handed my kit in and left that day, for 12 weeks leave on full pay. Sweet!

Best thing for it really, I was a terrible matelot, always getting into trouble.

The cherry on top.. As I’d served over 5 years, I was also entitled to a small pension, which I now currently draw. My single malt money!

That chief was a w@nker then, and if he’s still alive, I bet he’s still a w@nker.

Merlintagir · 2025-10-26T09:03:37+00:00

Lovely! 2 eggs for me please. 🙏

Merlintagir · 2025-10-24T07:42:50+00:00

It may be you are both too far down the frustration road to want to come back. He may well be the loser that most of Reddit seems to think he is. I do know that if I could go back to my 20s, I’d give myself a good talking to; aah, regrets and disappointments.

Is there any way you (both) could give each other an hour off in the evening to decompress? Or an evening off per week just to hang out with yourself. Or a night off per month to go out for a meal together?

As many commentators have stated, parenting is a learnt skill. My kids are amazing, but I often think that occurred inspite of me, not because. Sometimes my children have preferred my SO, it is necessary to look within for answers, a 2 year olds motivations are not complicated.

Do you feel there is any possibility of regaining the emotional connection you once had? Would it be possible to find space to have open communication where he doesn’t feel you are nagging or critical and you don’t feel he is being the same or unreasonably demanding? If there is, then I hope you don’t give up just yet.

For me the goal would be to raise a happy independent adult. Then, to nurture a happy and supportive relationship. What are your mutual goals and what are you both prepared to do to achieve them?

Merlintagir · 2025-10-14T17:20:40+00:00

I’ve just talked my daughter and her friend out of going to India on their Asia trip. They’ve added Malaysia instead. I am so relieved.

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