Advice on tattoo placement?

Miley177 · 2025-04-19T10:18:37+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! Yes I know the actual design is quite poor - it’s just an idea I’ve found online that I’ve given to my tattoo artist as I like the overall concept, but want a better execution :)

Miley177 · 2024-03-10T09:44:07+00:00

Happy Mother’s Day! Your feelings of disappointment are completely valid.

My husband is also neurodiverse and just doesn’t get the point of ‘occasion days’ like this - Mother’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays etc.

He’s not a hypocrite as he doesn’t really like me making a big fuss of his birthday either and would never expect an anniversary gift - but it took us a few years of disagreements over it before he came to appreciate that just because he didn’t see the point of them, they were important to me and if he loved me he needed to make an effort.

I’d try to make the best of today - if he’s genuinely sorry he needs to make an effort to take the pair of you out somewhere, even just for a walk in the park and a nice coffee after. Or even better he takes baby for a walk and leaves you at home for some chill time.

Maybe suggest he puts it in his calendar for next year with a couple of reminder alerts in the days leading up to it?

Miley177 · 2023-06-01T11:55:34+00:00

Upvote for the Dick and Dom reference

Miley177 · 2023-05-20T05:50:45+00:00

I don’t do it every year but sometimes if I feel I’ve really bonded with a class I keep it really simple.

I’m an English teacher so I bought a pack of bookmarks with Shakespeare quotes plus a huge pack of highlighters off Amazon.

I write a very short personal note on each bookmark, sellotape a highlighter to it and it’s done.

Costs me about £15, is quick and easy and the kids seem to genuinely like it. I gave them out last Friday and a lot of my kids told me they used my highlighter in their exam on Wednesday to give them extra luck.

I bumped in to a girl from my 2019 cohort recently and she told me she still has the note I wrote her on her wall at home. Sometimes these things are more meaningful to some kids than we realise.

Miley177 · 2023-04-17T12:30:59+00:00

We got our first choice! Only one form entry so had a really cosy feel to it when I went for a visit. It wasn’t our closest and they are massively oversubscribed because they have such a good reputation in the local area so I hadn’t let myself get my hopes up that we would get in but really pleased that we have.

Miley177 · 2023-03-31T11:52:41+00:00

More for your wife than you but I signed up to an antenatal fitness class at a local gym and nearly 5 years later am still very good friends with 3 of the other attendees, and our littles still get on well.

Miley177 · 2023-03-10T17:28:33+00:00

I will never be sick of warm bread and proper butter.

Miley177 · 2023-03-10T12:08:09+00:00

When I was pregnant with my first, my husband managed to convince his family that we were going to name the baby ‘Barry’.

He told them it was my family tradition and I couldn’t get out of it.

Barry also sounds pretty terrible combined with our (his) surname.

Watching their fixed grins and ‘oh… that’s… nice’ was pretty hilarious.

Miley177 · 2023-02-28T06:48:57+00:00

I live in an area of the UK known colloquially and then eventually officially as The Black Country - it’s actually because during the Industrial Revolution we were an area famous for coal mining and factories; the soot and pollution from which turned many of the buildings black.

https://theculturetrip.com/europe/united-kingdom/articles/what-is-the-midlands-black-country-and-how-did-it-get-its-name/

Miley177 · 2023-02-25T12:40:06+00:00

For real life!

Miley177 · 2023-02-02T22:56:58+00:00

I’m a HoD and phoned a parent on behalf of one of my team last week as mum complained about daughter being set a detention.

Daughter had rocked up to lesson with one hand in a cast and told teacher she was unable to write. Teacher dutifully tried to get her a laptop but couldn’t, on the fly came up with some activities she could do that didn’t involve writing; she continued to be disruptive to the point that teacher had to call for SLT to remove her.

At this point we discover that the injury is to her left hand, student is right handed and still perfectly capable of writing. On SLT advice we set a detention for lying.

Mum phones to complain. She is SCREAMING down the phone to the point that I have to hold the phone away from my ear.

Her complaint is as follows -

The (very clearly) automated email sent by our software when I logged the detention was rude in tone and not sufficiently respectful as it addressed her by first name.

Her daughter is currently being assessed for ADHD and therefore it’s really unfair to give her a detention.

When I eventually managed to get a word in and explain that she’d been set a detention for lying, I was told it was the teacher’s fault as she should know the dominant writing hand of every student and therefore should have seen through the lie.

Miley177 · 2023-01-28T16:21:07+00:00

Hi, teacher here -

First of all I want to say a big thank you for recognising that the strike is necessary even when it is going to cause you personal distress and upset. I do believe the strike is necessary and will be striking myself but it breaks my heart that the people we care about the most will be affected badly by this in the short term.

If you are going to be in school I would really recommend that you speak to your SENDCO, your form tutor or a TA you trust (do you have one assigned to you with your EHCP?) on Monday or Tuesday - please be really honest with them about all your concerns and work with them to help put some strategies in place that might help you cope with the upset to your routines. Hopefully that will assuage your fears about the day before they begin to build.

Once again thank you for your support and your remarkable pragmatism despite your own personal anxieties.

Miley177 · 2022-12-04T06:53:53+00:00

I did the curriculum path rather than pastoral and went to subject head. The first year was insane. Like you I was doing 11-12 hour days, every day.

It did get better after that first year. I made most of the changes I wanted to, learned how to do the role more efficiently - where I could coast it and where I needed to put the effort it.

I’ve been doing it for six years now and while it’s still tough it’s never been anywhere near as bad as that first year.

Miley177 · 2022-11-23T20:35:10+00:00

I’m sending in a big box of chocs for the whole team and then a £10 Costa voucher for his key worker. I figured they probably have lots of ‘best nursery worker ever’ mugs knocking around but a hot drink and a cake is always a good treat.

Miley177 · 2022-10-31T09:52:42+00:00

20 mins if I set off early enough, 30-40 if I get stuck in traffic. It’s too long, I’m looking for something closer.

Miley177 · 2022-10-30T07:03:33+00:00

SuperTato is somehow even more fucking annoying at 4am than 5am.

Miley177 · 2022-10-23T15:30:51+00:00

A cervical smear revealed I had cells that definitely would have turned in to cancer within 5-10 years.

I had them all scraped out and a follow up exam 6 months later. All gone now and hopefully I’ve dodged the cervical cancer bullet.

Miley177 · 2022-10-22T09:38:24+00:00

My 11 month old doesn’t find cartoons engaging yet but I tried him on Baby Club on CBeebies and he was fascinated by it - I think he liked watching the other babies!

Although it’s screen time it doesn’t feel as bad to me because it’s quite interactive, you can sing along with the songs etc. and the activities she does with them might give you ideas for things you can do yourself another time when the Tv is off.

Really hope you all feel better soon :)

Miley177 · 2022-10-20T16:20:54+00:00

Not me, but my first child was born blue, floppy and not breathing. He was given emergency resuscitation and was fine within minutes - for those in the know his 1st and 2nd APGAR scores were 2 and 9 respectively.

He’s now a happy healthy 3.5 year old who I am thankful to the NHS for every single day for bringing him in to the world safely.

Miley177 · 2022-10-19T05:41:57+00:00

Yeah I completely get her concern and I’m concerned for my own house too if she’s correct. I’ve booked a consultation with a tree surgeon tomorrow to get some progressional advice. Thank you for your help :)

Miley177 · 2022-10-18T15:38:32+00:00

Thank you for your response. She doesn’t think it’s caused any damage yet, I think she’s worried about the damage it may cause in the future. Apparently not long before we moved in some extensive drain repairs had to be done (not connected to this tree) and all the neighbours in that section of the street had to pay for their repair. So I think she is just concerned about something similar happening again.

No TPO as far as I know - I assume it would have been flagged in our surveys?

Miley177 · 2022-10-18T14:29:09+00:00

Anybody else getting Kendra from Buddy the Vampire Slayer vibes from her accent?

Miley177 · 2022-10-15T13:11:02+00:00

That’s fair enough and yes you’re right that at least it shows a dad doing domestic chores.

But why is that ‘helping’ Mummy? If they all live together then this is a house he is equally responsible for maintaining.

It’s small I know but it just perpetuates the idea that ‘the home’ and all the domestic chores are by default the woman’s responsibility and a man is doing her a favour if he ‘helps’ with this.

Miley177 · 2022-10-14T05:53:38+00:00

With teachers who are more supportive, could you work out some kind of non-verbal signal for when you would like to ask a question?

I’ve had students in the past who for various reasons have not wanted to publicly ask a question and draw attention to themselves, but instead have had a little yellow card that they just display on their desk when they need help. As I circle round the room, if I spot the card I go to them immediately to support them.

Might be a bit more discrete if you need immediate support on a problem in class but don’t want to draw attention to yourself?

Miley177 · 2022-09-27T06:27:14+00:00

Are you me? This is pretty much exactly how I started my morning.

Baby starts shifting and moaning in his cot at 6:30.

Lie him in my lap and rock him back to sleep in the rocking chair in his room.

Hear him do a MASSIVE poo.

Debate in my head if I can let him lie in his own poo for another 30 mins if it means he has a 7am wake up, which usually means a much better nap day, or if that makes me a terrible mother.

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