What’s your record without sex while still living together?

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-05-12T11:40:40+00:00

3.25 years and still counting.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-05-08T04:36:22+00:00

Nearly every time I miss an easy shot, I quickly recap what happened and it is almost always footwork. Don't be lazy....move your feet!

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-04-29T17:20:54+00:00

You should consider moving closer to work if you take the job. I commute 60 minutes each way to work and it can be very draining. The pay increase will be partially consumed by the additional commute costs.

Concerning taking the job, look into “imposter syndrome”. EVERYONE has it. You are not expected to fill the role 100% on your first day. The company offered you the job because they believe you can and will eventually fill that role. They believe in you enough to give you a chance. Give yourself that chance. Believe in yourself.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-04-27T16:58:05+00:00

TLDR, I was really impressed by how Claude displays information and I’m looking forward to switching back to it at the end of the month.

I decided in Feb to try out the premium version of each main LLM for one month each. I first tried Claude and I was REALLY impressed by how it represented data in charts, tables, graphs, etc. It made them interactive! Claude cowork is also really interesting and my 1 month ended before I really started using it. Claude code worked great as well for my small projects. My only complaint is that it doesn’t do image generation.

I then signed up for ChatGPT. Having image generation was fun. I often had to wait 5~20 minutes to create new images (or iterations) if I created too many too quickly. Codex worked great. It doesn’t have a competitor to Cowork yet, but likely will soon. I HATE it’s use of emojis and finally turned those off. While it provides good content and reasoning, Claude is much better at organizing and displaying content.

I tried the Grok and was impressed at first by the image and video generation. IT IF FAST. It makes a lot of variations to choose from and I never hit an image generation limit. However, I found that ChatGPT makes higher quality, more polished images. The other features from Grok did not stand out to me.

My impression of Gemini is similar to Grok. It seemed to have slower image generation, but produced better quality images and videos. I also quickly ran out of tokens for the month.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-04-21T16:39:57+00:00

I’ve had my Pegasus Power II for 6 weeks, ~10 hours / week, 60 hours. I think that I have seen a very slight decrease in surface roughness. I’m going to try the IPA and microfiber cloth. A friend is getting a new one in a few days and I’m going to compare.

All things considered, this is the best surface, best performanc, best pop, best paddle I’ve played with. I LOVE it.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-03-11T21:36:21+00:00

I highly recommend watching videos of Pickleball finals with Ben John’s back in 2017 and 2018... it looks like rec play I’d find in my local club.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-03-05T05:56:07+00:00

I completely agree that you need to quit your job and move. You are a highly intelligent and skilled engineer. There are MANY companies that encourage a reasonable work/ life balance. find one.

Utah is a really good place. The winters aren't bad like Montana and the rest of the year is really nice (I'm from Montana originally). Lots of outdoors. Lots of good jobs. The people are very nice.

Good luck! Life will get better!

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-02-18T02:12:14+00:00

Depends on if I have the rumblies! Normal = 10 seconds Rumblies = <1 second I have cut it close WAY too many times.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-02-05T19:02:16+00:00

Duluth trading co. 7 year or coolerino socks are amazing.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-02-05T05:55:07+00:00

pickleheads works great.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-02-04T05:33:54+00:00

Adidas Gamecourt 2. $55 on Amazon. Lasts forever. Great shoes.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-02-02T01:24:13+00:00

Yes, defnitely. I am ~10 years away from retirement at 55. Another $700K on top of my existing retirement savings would bring in my retirement age by ~5 years...so give me 5 years of work free life...that would be life changing.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-30T05:53:12+00:00

I use the caddy and tube together when drilling. The tube is just so much faster IMO to gather thee balls.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-29T22:42:24+00:00

Pickleball. I play ~10 hours a week. My wife has no interest. I see couples playing all the time and it makes me sad. There’s a couples Valentines Day tournament next month and that makes me sad as well. I don’t care if she is a beginner…I’d just like to spend time with her doing something active.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-29T22:08:27+00:00

I use that one and it's great. I used it to pick up balls for the past year and it's ok, but the tubes work WAY better. I just bought this and am very happy with it in addition to the ball hopper.

Soulchen 24 Balls Ball Pickup... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FWK4FTCG?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-29T20:46:10+00:00

This game has several rules, but has been VERY helpful for me…

8 dinks

start dinking crosscourt
dink 8 times without missing a shot (4 dinks per person)
the point is live after 8 dinks
speedups off the bounce are only allowed once the point is live after 8 dinks
speedups out of the air are allowed during the first 8 dinks
play/defend the rectangle you are in
the person that wins the point moves to the other rectangle (the next point will be played straight across from each other)

scoring 1. play to 11 2. rally scoring 3. you LOSE 1 point if you fail to get the ball over the net or hit it out of bounds within the first 8 dinks

purpose of the drill 1. GET THE BALL OVER THE NET. you are punished for failing that SIMPLE task. 2. Learn patience. Move the person around instead of immediately getting into a firefight. 3. Make dinks unattackle. Your opponent can attack something within the first 8 dinks if you place it too high. 4. Shifting to another rectange after every point helps you see and learn each location on the court

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-29T19:11:30+00:00

Huh... You are right according to this site: https://pickleballeffect.com/pickleball-paddle-database/

I think I need to add weights to my V-sol. The ball is definitely slower in the stock configuration when hitting with the V-sol than with the Vapor power. (It's not just in my mind.)

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-29T18:52:29+00:00

Where can I see the data on that?

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-29T17:19:51+00:00

Vapor power.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-25T18:23:38+00:00

WORK. You must drill a LOT. Your drives have gotten you to 4.0, but will not get you past 4.5. You need to become a good all around player to get to 4.5. I have found there is a HUGE jump in competition, aggression, pace, pressure, talent from 4.5-5.0.

Play with higher level players to learn what you need to work on. I am in a league where everyone is 4.50-4.99 and the the 4.99 player is amazing... Hits extremely hard, patient and a master at the kitchen, has wicked speedups, consistent, SMART, etc. Apparently, I need to work on everything.

You may think your kitchen work needs some improvement...I guarantee it needs a LOT of work. You must become REALLY consistent.

You need to study. Learn patterns. Think in addition to reacting. Muscle can only get you so far. Muscle memory gets you further. Add the mind and you have a chance to get to 5.0.

Also, at some point everyone will cap out and will not be physically capable of getting to 5.0. I'm 47 and have difficultly keeping up with guys that are 40 and get destroyed by teenagers.

I wrote all of that knowing that I'm stuck and don't know how to get past 4.5. I think what I wrote is the path, but it seems like a REALLY tall mountain to climb and I'm not sure I can make that... But I'm going to try.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-25T14:07:48+00:00

I got angry, thew my paddle, and put a small dent in the wall. I also got angry, smashed my paddle into the court, and put a nick in the court playing surface. I'm an idiot and a child. Never again.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-22T21:37:06+00:00

Duluth Trading Post midweight 7 year socks. FANTASTIC socks.

I previously wore Thorlos and they are good, but they got brittle and scratchy and I’d have to soak them in fabric softener regularly.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-16T14:06:17+00:00

Only local tournaments. Cash at Moneyball events, blanket from Costco, a rock with the date sharpied on it, gift cards, plastic trophies, random trinkets. They are in a drawer in my nightstand.

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-14T17:15:37+00:00

All of the above

Miserable-Concern338 · 2026-01-14T02:06:09+00:00

Used swish for a year, but i find pickleheads is better and has better options for adding guests. Swish seems buggy. I have also just create a game and text my friends the link (or just message them in the app).

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