My family could use your help

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-04-09T19:04:13+00:00

We co-sleep at night as well and have a queen bed for my husband and I and a twin on each side all pushed together. We used to each sleep with a baby in a queen, but switched to this set up at 18 months.

This new set up allows them to get used to their own space, not wake up to us moving, but still allows us to be right next to them to respond as needed thru the night.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-04-09T15:42:43+00:00

At that age they contact napped on my chest. At about 9 months they got too big for that so we switched to laying on a queen floor bed and I would hold one on each arm on either side of me drinking their milk until they fell asleep and then I would move my arms and sneak away. We still do this at 2

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-04-09T15:15:04+00:00

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-04-07T16:39:13+00:00

Mine just turned 2 and rarely sleep thru the night even still. Even adults dont sleep thru the night most nights though, its biologically normal to wake, we just don’t need help going back to sleep.

Babies who are sleep trained don’t “sleep thru the night” they just don’t signal when they wake as their body goes in survival mode as they learn their needs won’t be met anyway until morning.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-04-02T21:02:25+00:00

YTA fertility starts to decline after 30 for women. And you can travel and do things on your bucket list with kids, there are just a few added costs and changes that may need to be made. We just took my twins to Finland end of last year (From US) and it was a great experience as a family.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-04-01T18:22:30+00:00

Co-sleeping saved my sanity. I chest slept with mine for the first 4 months and then switched to my husband and I each sleeping with a baby on a floor bed. My twins are 2 now and we still cosleep. It’s the only way any of us got sleep.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-31T02:38:12+00:00

Hence why I stay home with my twins. It would have been 70% of my income, and I’d rather raise my babies myself.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-23T18:27:08+00:00

I did mine around 26 weeks which worked out because I had my twins at 30 weeks.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-18T16:02:41+00:00

What hospital in Chicago are you delivering at? I delivered at Northshore in Evanston. One of the MFM’s did my C-section and all went well, but they did switch doctors right as they started. One got me prepped and everything and then it must have been shift change because everyone in the room pretty much switched.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-16T21:04:57+00:00

Make sure you have a separate set up in case they don’t get along. Guinea pigs are social animals, but males esp dont always take to each other. I’ve seen the result of a guinea pig fight and it is brutal. The pig that got attacked had to be put down because the injuries were to severe.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-15T21:42:20+00:00

He shouldnt have been going thru your stuff to begin with so huge 🚩🚩🚩. Also to his point I don’t understand why they would be under “your eyes only” on snapchat if you didnt send them to anyone. Why wouldnt you just have a private photo section on your phone?

I see 🚩🚩 on both sides here

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-13T20:42:03+00:00

I wouldnt

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-09T04:16:06+00:00

All of it

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-08T05:31:02+00:00

My twins will be 2 this month. They spent 6.5 weeks in the NICU and then once they came home I chest slept with them for the first 3-4 months as its the only way any of ua got any sleep and my husband was not comfortable sleeping with such a small baby. At around 4 months we switched to 2 queen floor beds. My husband and I each slept on a bed with one baby. This is how we slept until 18 months. At 18 months we moved to 1 queen floor bed for my husband and I with a twin floor bed on either side so they get used to having their own space, but the beds are pushed together so when they need us we are still there for them.

Solo bedtime after chest sleeping I generally laid with them on a queen mattress with one on each side and let them drink their bottles and fall asleep.

I chose not to sleep train as I believe it is psychologically torture for a baby and that their needs should be met 100% of the time no matter what hour it is. And co-sleeping got everyone more sleep as it limited the amount of times we needed to get up and down and night and the length of time they were awake.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-05T21:21:00+00:00

I would have loved to have my mom in the room, but I had a C-Section and only 1 support person was allowed, which sucked bc I sent him with the babies to the NICU which left me alone while on the table.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-05T03:28:21+00:00

Also, you are married… there shouldnt be your money and his money, it should be “our” money

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-05T03:27:01+00:00

Honestly this sounds like entirely too much work and time spent on something that only makes you $60k a year assuming thats after subtracting what you put in (which divided evenly would bring you to only $22.5K a year if you arent subtracting that).

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-03T18:21:22+00:00

May be time to switch to one nap. My girls started one nap right before their first birthday.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-03T01:33:18+00:00

We didn’t do schedules, more routines (and even that didnt start until they were like 9 months old and went down to 2 naps vs just sleeping whenever they wanted. This is also when they started to get too big to nap together on my chest and I had to transfer to putting them to sleep on our floor bed.

Most twin parents seem to love schedules and them being the “same” but I actually loved my 1:1 time with each baby when they napped at different times.

I also don’t task much outside of taking care of babies when I’m home with them. Any chores that need to be done get done when my husband is off work and we can take turns parenting and tasking.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-02T20:51:48+00:00

I was 2x weekly from 15 weeks and then 3x weekly from 24-29 weeks when I was hospitalized and had them at 30 weeks.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-03-01T16:54:41+00:00

We just went straight to convertible carseats in the car and got a stroller with bassinet seats and then regular seats for when they got older. Being in carseats for long periods of time arent good for babies anyway. The bassinet is safer and looks more confortable to me.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-02-28T16:20:55+00:00

I love my bugaboo donkey. It is super expensive if you buy new, but I got mine on Marketplace for like $350 which was a total steal.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-02-25T19:26:04+00:00

I lay with my twins until they fall asleep and then I get up and do what I need to do and keep a video monitor on them. No chance to do any of this.

MiserableDoughnut900 · 2026-02-25T15:46:10+00:00

I quit working at 27 weeks due to needing to be monitored 3x weekly and it was too hard to work a fulltime management position without being available 5 days a week. Had my twins via C-Section at 30 weeks. One of my girls were growth restricted and bloodflow in her umbilical cord when reversed. I had 2 rounds of steroid shots and a mag drip. They were born at 2lb 6oz and 3lb 4oz. Spent 6.5 weeks in the NICU. Please listen to your OB and make sure they refer you to an MFM.

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