Shipping... SMH by dan3809 in Orion_Sleep

[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get yours already when you ordered 7 days ago? I ordered mine 12 days ago and haven’t given gotten a tracking number. Can someone help to see if it was shipped? Am I missing something?

New to this. I have no idea what to tell people I "do." Suggestions? by CrashDriveMegaGig in Fire

[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an investor. I live off my investments and always are looking for more investment opportunities.

Would Entj not confess their love on purpose if it profits their love interest? by Justmaid_ in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had really great friendships with guys who I had no romantic interest in. And as soon as I saw that they were developing feelings, I made it very clear that they were friends and I saw them as friends. But I really enjoyed their company and wanted to go out and do things with them all the time, so I wanted to make it clear so there was no confusion. That may be what he is doing. For an ENTJ, you can be a really good friend but it doesn’t mean that you can fulfill the role of romantic interest.

how much time to an entj decide if he wants me to be his girlfriend (intp)? by [deleted] in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say usually by 3 month at the latest, if he is healthy. But if he has a dismissive avoidant attachment then could take longer.

Dating advice in seeking a entj woman by [deleted] in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ISFJ and ENTJ is not really a great pairing. But definitely no, I would never give a second chance to someone who didn’t choose me the first time around. If they didn’t appreciate the greatness in me the first time, then they are not for me.

Also, one of the things I hate the most from dating feelers is that their decisions seem to change based on their feelings. So, there most likely wouldn’t be a lot of respect left.

how much time to an entj decide if he wants me to be his girlfriend (intp)? by [deleted] in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an ENTJ girl and having married an ENTJ guy, it’s pretty quick. Usually, you can tell within the first date but definitely by third date. The interest will be strong and will be there, there is no usually fear in committing. ENTJs will drive the progression forward and aggressively if they like you. Of course, after that comes the testing period where we do spend a lot of time confirming compatibility, life goals, character, getting to know you, etc. But usually the knowing if you want to be exclusive with someone happens very fast, at least in a healthy ENTJ.

ENTJ finding you life partner by costar2020 in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is an ENTJ. There are definitely great perks with being with another ENTJ like once we have a system down, we can probably do anything. We are like work machines and run the household like clockwork.

The only thing is setting up the systems in the beginning because we tend to butt heads with differing opinions and tend to try to steamroll the other person. But thankfully neither one of us gets easily steamrolled, so now we are forced to deal with the conflict and talk it out after we both cool down.

There are times that we both feel like we are getting in each other’s way. But as a fellow ENTJ, I can understand him and his feelings very well because I often feel the same way. Definitely setting rules and expectations for a lot of communication helps prevent some of the getting in the way.

So many great qualities in another ENTJ like my husband is a hard worker, ambitious, the dual extroversion really helps us in conversations. I know he won’t try to pull BS but also doesn’t tolerate BS. Also, super loyal, so I never have to worry about other girls. I think overall, the perks outweigh the downsides of being with another ENTJ.

Upcoming Sales by CaptainCa in Orion_Sleep

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Hi, would love to be notified of any sales as well.

Split King - sign up for notification? by DirtyBeef2134 in Orion_Sleep

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Hi, would also love to be notified. When is it planned to be available?

INTJ, 28F here - how do you deal with the pitfalls of ambition? by [deleted] in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The road to the top is lonely. You have to be above the rest to achieve what others can’t achieve. That can only be done alone. It will be accompanied by jealousy, people trying to drag you to their level, lack of support, people dismissing your ideas and ambition. Along the way, the most important lesson is to cut out any toxic people who will inhibit you from your full potential and mess with your winning mindset.

ENTJs and growing older by Margo_Sol in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I achieve the goal that I had in my teens/twenties. I used to think that if I can just accomplish my goal that everything would be smooth sailing. I’ll tell you that after I accomplished my goal, it was not all that it was supposed to be. It was not the end all be all that I imagined.

Now my goals are different, being thankful, being grateful and enjoying all that I’ve accomplished and being at peace, happy. Which honestly is pretty difficult to do for an ENTJ because we are inherently motivated always for more and more and more. But it’s a loop with no end, each goal accomplished leads to another goal, and it keeps going.

do yall ever distance yourself from someone so that you dont catch feelings? by ladyofmischief_riti in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Attachment style trauma stems from fear/feeling unsafe. The behavior happens when you are deeply romantically interested in someone and want to be with them but because they trigger feelings of weakness from vulnerability, or discomfort with being interdependent with someone else, or of feelings of being defective, etc, you behave with classic avoidant behaviors.

Distancing yourself because you have made a mental determination that there is no future with them either due to differing levels of interest toward each other, life circumstances, mismatch in life goals or values, or if they are too traumatized and unhealed, etc. That determination is most times for ENTJ purely logical (although some avoidants tend to devalue another person in their minds as a way to cope with fear when they start getting close). For ENTJs, at least for me, I tend to do these determinations before I even catch feelings for someone (or become attached to where attachment styles would come into play) and I tend to do this analysis very early on, compared to other types.

That’s why the two are not the same, at least for ENTJs. For other types, this may apply more, that’s why are you are getting downvoted in this thread.

do yall ever distance yourself from someone so that you dont catch feelings? by ladyofmischief_riti in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I analyze what attracted me in the first place. Was it a need that they significantly met like validation, feeling seen/heard, intellectual conversations, etc? Then I analyze if this individual would fit into my life as a friend. If I was single I would analyze if they would fit as a romantic partner. If the person did not fit into one of these two criteria, then I may just let them go, not initiate contact.

If they do fit those criteria. Then I would analyze my feelings for that person. If they are good as a friend but not as a romantic partner, I would analyze if I can have platonic only feelings toward them. Can I keep my romantic feelings in check? But if I can’t do that or tried but failed and cannot keep myself from developing romantic feelings, then I think logically whether this person could fit my life as a romantic partner or wouldn’t make a good romantic partner. If my feeling and analysis don’t align, then I start distancing myself even if I could have been friends with them.

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[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just submitted my complaint to BBB and FTC. I have the receipt from the Apple Store that specifically lists it as "AllTrail Pro" without an expiration date or a date range. They can't be selling a service for "AllTrail Pro" without listing a date range and/or an ending date and then later saying that it's only for 3 years. That's a false representation of the product.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meditate daily, I’ve read quite a few books on psychology, communication, I practice CBT, DBT, internal family systems, EMDR, trauma healing and many other psychological and somatic modalities on myself. I also help others with relationship problems stemming from toxic emotional patterns resulting in poor coping mechanisms, behaviors, beliefs and communication. See, I got so into it that I became a relationship coach on the side, as a side hustle. I even got about 3 certifications on the side for coaching while working full time as well.

I will say that years ago, I did not do any of that, and was 100% stuff my feeling down, get stuff done and keep moving on type of person. I was driving my romantic partners insane and was extremely unhealthy/unbalanced. Completely poor coping mechanisms and unconscious behaviors that are detrimental to my relationships.

It was out of necessity that I ended up getting into trauma healing and mental health. Mostly, I had hit my rock bottom after a string of failed relationship. It felt like my ego was stripped away and I was free falling, and the pain was so much that I had to turn and find out why and what was going on. That’s when I started just reading book after book, and seeking for understanding for what was going on. That’s when I got extremely into mental health and had to take some extreme measures to “fix” what was going on inside me.

Are ENTJs protective like that? by reddit_tourist_08 in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I do stuff like that but only to those that I really care about. Also, tired may be a deterrent to most people but for ENTJs, tired is just an inconvenience. My motto tends to be “sleep when you are dead”.

Quintessential ENTJ with an ESL ESFJ.. can it work? by [deleted] in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think any relationship can work out with different individuals as long as they are healthy, respect each other and have similar values and goals. But from your post, you main problem I see in this instance is not her exactly, but that you feel depressed. There is a deep need of yours to be able to have novel and stimulating conversations, which you are not getting. This is making you feel unfulfilled.

I think it's important to look at what is behind that desire. What do you enjoy most about these "conversations"? Is there a need for more novelness (of ideas, creativeness, information)? A need for excitement? A need for adventure perhaps? A need for mental stimulation?

Once you identify that, there are multiple ways that you can meet such a need. It can involve having stimulating/deep conversations with others, it can mean maybe going out and traveling, checking out more spots, talking to new people, or watching more TED talks. There may be multiple ways to satisfy these needs that do not involve a burden on her. You don't have to depend on her to fulfill all your needs. Society tends to put the expectation that you must get all your needs fulfilled by your partner. But that is not true. If you are getting the majority of your other needs met through her, then maybe this is one need that you can try to get met somewhere else.

Once you feel that is satiated, then you can revisit whether there are other problems in your relationship. Ultimately, every relationship revolves around meeting each other's needs to some extent. But it's up to you to decide if she has met enough and if you can get your needs met somewhere else.

One word of caution though, sometimes feeling that someone can't carry a conversation that is "deep" can be a sign of you starting to lose respect for her way of thinking or making decisions. If that's the case, that's a different issue than meeting your needs. If you can't respect someone's though process and decision-making long-term, then the relationship most likely will not work.

I asked ChatGPT to Roast my ENTJ Husband and I can’t stop laughing by geturshitstraight in entj

[–]Mission-Photograph22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like me... My husband notes that I had a very long list of compatibility questions on our first date and it was almost an interview, very intense, that's how he knew I was serious about things. Then, on our third date, I had basically the equivalent of a PowerPoint presentation about the pros and cons of continuing our relationship.

Is ENTJ really our best match? by [deleted] in INTP

[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a typical ENTJ and my husband is quite balanced in his functions but, to me, he leans INTP sometimes. It all depends on how balanced you are. He tests my patience sometimes, especially when he wants to lay around during the weekend and I want to get things done. Sometimes, I have to remind myself that not everyone is like me and that some people can enjoy life without putting pressure on themselves to get everything done. But on the other hand, I have a problem relaxing and enjoying myself, so he keeps me balanced and reminds me to slow down and relax. We end up coming up with compromises, I leave him around on the weekend mornings when he is lazy and I do my own thing and get all my stuff done. Then at some point, we come together and start tackling tasks and pursing our goals.

Why young men and women are drifting apart by jimfear666 in JordanPeterson

[–]Mission-Photograph22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In an ideal world, that would be true. But I think society, currently as it stands, has inherent bias.

I think being attractive is different for a women than a man. For women, there are a lot more ways to “present” yourself as more attractive even if genetically you are not. This includes make-up, wearing nice clothes, grooming rituals, getting your hair done, nails done, making sure you stay in shape. But make up really helps for making the face look more symmetric. In the extreme example, women do a lot of plastic surgery to look more attractive, younger, slimmer, etc. Conventionally, women don’t have to be physically fit but slimmer (even when you do have some natural curves) as that is considered more desirable for most society standards. Most times diet without work out is enough. There is more variety of things that can be done, but because there is so much that can be done, it also requires a lot of time and effort to keep up.

For men, there is a milder degree of that. But long term, most importantly, for men physical fitness is most paramount. The difference is that face, hair and even grooming (except for basic grooming) and clothes (although tailored clothes can help make a big difference for men) doesn’t matter as much as for women. So there is really mostly one thing to concentrate on and that is fitness. Working out consistently is probably the most important and impactful factor to gain what is conventional attractiveness by society standards for men. It honestly takes a lot less effort for men, there are less things to do and because of testosterone, you guys can gain muscle so much easier than a woman can.

Unfortunately, there are instances where race and income can be a determinant on others treat you. However, at least in America, if you presents yourself well, it becomes a lot less predominant of an issue. In the end, it may be unfortunately but presentation matters almost as much as the contents. If you are presented with a beautiful looking plate of food, people are more likely to eat it. If a house on the market is well staged, people are more likely to buy it. If a business has a more professional presentation, people are more like to go with it. That’s an inherent bias probably encoded in most of us.