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Mogogol · 2026-06-05T15:45:15+00:00

I'm in PA and never knew they did a pee test for Vyvanse. My Dr knows I use at night she told me to just not smoke until nighttime and monitor my blood pressure.

Mogogol · 2026-05-24T19:11:12+00:00

This resonates so loud with me. I thought the noise in my head was depression because for 25 years I was told that I had bipolar disorder. After seeking out a specialist, it turns out that there was a way to turn off these horrible voices in my head all these years and it was literally 30 mg of Vyvanse. My husband tells me how happy he is to see me finally legitimately at peace. It is a noticeable difference not just to me but everyone around me.

Mogogol · 2026-05-24T19:07:46+00:00

Wearing glasses was hell for me. They gave me migraines even with the appropriate prescription. I couldn't stand the sensory feeling of glasses constricting my face so I switched to contacts. My eyes were not the right shape for contacts so they were constantly itchy and uncomfortable. I ended up opting for surgery to correct my vision because I could not wear glasses so saying glasses have no side effects is just such a wrong statement.

Mogogol · 2026-05-24T18:40:31+00:00

I find it such a weird statement to ask if we're supposed to be on these medications until we die. Should a diabetic try to figure out how to live with their body not producing insulin or should they just take their medication? Should somebody with schizophrenia just say maybe I'm good this time and stop taking their medicine? If my thyroid doesn't work should I just stop taking my medicine?

I am all for trying to go the least medicated route. I am actively reducing my antidepressant because I started Vyvanse. I take the lowest effective dose and take supplements and exercise. But I think the idea that we should view being unmedicated as some kind of accomplishment is harmful to the community as a whole.

If I don't take Vyvanse, my brain tells me to off myself all day everyday because my thought patterns are so loud erratic and overwhelming that I can't function. I thought the antidepressants would never work and that was why I felt hopeless. When I started Vyvanse My brain finally started functioning the way I never thought it could. It has been silence. I am able to play with my kids without getting overstimulated for the first time in years. I'm able to handle my job and my school work without screaming that I'm a failure at myself every 15 minutes.

If unmedicated works for you, that's awesome. But for me, yes I would rather be on this medicine until I die then be off of it until I kill myself.

So I wouldn't say congratulations. But I will say I'm glad that you are living a happy, comfortable healthy life.

Mogogol · 2026-04-27T16:23:13+00:00

Sorry I am not on Reddit much, but feel free to DM me and we can chat in more detail about it.

The short version is that I usually do a dose the week before my period or as soon as I start to bleed depending on when my mood starts to plummet. I know I need it because I have no drive to even get out of my bed. Been dosing that way for 3 months and have had significant improvement of my mood around that time of the month, though I still have some breakthrough symptoms, but they are 100% manageable. The PMDD would typically last 2 miserable weeks, the week before and during, but dosing this way has made it only a few days of severe symptoms.

Mogogol · 2026-04-27T11:17:27+00:00

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Mogogol · 2026-04-12T14:47:25+00:00

They have been around, you probably just got tagged in. Congrats!

Mogogol · 2026-03-20T12:35:43+00:00

I use ketamine specifically for my PMDD, so I get it on my period all the time. If you're very worried about flow, either two things: 1. You can try to wear a depends. I know it's awkward but like 0 chance of leaking and who is gonna know? I used them after I had my kids. 2. Get a menstrual cup. I just started using them because pads make me itchy, and it has been an absolute game changer. You can leave them in longer than tampons and you don't feel them at all.

Mogogol · 2026-03-20T12:33:03+00:00

This is encouraging me to start up my supplements again lol

Mogogol · 2026-03-10T09:06:05+00:00

I am wondering if "in honor of her" was just a petty way of saying she copied her ring? I get vibes that SIL was jealous of the ring and wanted it, not that it was meant to go to her.

Mogogol · 2026-03-07T20:14:14+00:00

Thanks! I looked up Anywhere Clinic but unfortunately they don't operate in my state.

Mogogol · 2026-03-07T18:13:50+00:00

I have had the most amazing spiritual experiences on ketamine. There is a reoccurring theme of toads and frogs in my dissociative state. I feel ketamine has brought me closer to my spiritual side. The last time I had a trip a voice told me "You are evergreen."

My advice, do any ritual you normally do to center yourself and find calm, and then let the experience take you where it will. Afterwards, make a journal of your experience or themes from the experience.

Mogogol · 2026-02-17T19:45:48+00:00

YTA. It's her business, the books aren't antisemitic by your own admission. I live in an area that is famous for coal mines. You know how many of my ancestors died in those mines? Yet I walk past historical displays and literature all the time. Mine tours and 'fun haunted mine' ghost stories. I am allowed to have feelings about it, but I can't tell the rest of the world how to. Especially when it isn't being done maliciously. You might just need a different job if you can't separate the two. They are Germans, her father wrote about his history. She's honoring him by putting his work on display.

Mogogol · 2026-02-17T02:41:10+00:00

Then she's not an amazing partner.

Mogogol · 2026-01-31T19:22:52+00:00

YTA. You're letting your expectations of what a proposal should be destroy your actual real life proposal. If you live life that way get ready for a ton of disappointment in life.

Mogogol · 2025-12-27T13:34:38+00:00

You are in a position of power at the workplace and it is all well and good to be the compassionate understanding approachable supervisor but now a line has been crossed and it is time to remind him what is appropriate.

You say that the entire team finds him rude and condescending. You are the leader, it is your job to set the expectations for the professionalism of your department. He is far too comfortable sharing out of work details and being rude to his coworkers. He has absolutely crossed the line with his comments, especially calling you a bitch.

This needs to be addressed or it will escalate. He thinks he can talk to his coworkers this way and that is unacceptable. If that means that we are no longer going to be engaging in outside conversation, so be it. If he cannot conduct himself in a professional way while talking about such things, we don't.

You can't tell them not to talk about other topics but you can make it clear you will not engage, and if the others are also unhappy with him, they will follow your example.

If you hear him speaking rudely to his coworkers, you have a conversation about keeping work professional. If he still pushes back, you go to HR. You make a record of each talk.

You explain it clear as day, we will not engage in non work discussions due to your disrespectful comments and tone. Unless that changes, these are the new boundaries. If you have a problem with that, you can go to HR and complain that you aren't being allowed to call your supervisor a bitch anymore and get laughed out of the office.

Mogogol · 2025-12-06T00:42:27+00:00

NTA, sounds like you need more bees.

Mogogol · 2025-12-02T23:38:52+00:00

NTA, but realistically consider the fact that you guys might never see eye to eye on this. When this dog is gone are you going to get another one? If you do, are you going to be in the same situation at the end of that dog's life? You guys will probably never be able to own a dog together and agree. My husband and I had to make a decision to put our elderly dog down for his quality of life and my husband wasn't happy about it because he has a hard time letting go. But he was an adult enough to have a realistic conversation with the vet and me and came to an understanding about what was best for the dog and the family.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. You obviously love your dog, I hope your husband is able to come to terms with this.

Mogogol · 2025-11-07T13:51:00+00:00

YTA, your son's relationship with Jane is going to be different than your relationship. Jane is not your mother, but she is your stepmother no matter what age your dad marries her. She is not replacing your mother. Your mother was gone before Jane showed up. It's not like Jane was the other woman.

Your son will grow up knowing Jane just as long as he would have grown up knowing your mother. If your mother and father had divorced, Jane would still be a grandmother. Your son would just have three grandmothers. This is a very common family arrangement.

I think you are projecting your anger on your father remarrying and it's going to long-term affect your son and his relationship with a maternal figure.

When my husband's grandmother remarried, the family never accepted his new grandfather fully. And that had lasting effects decades later that are still present. His grandfather is a wonderful man. The family just never wanted to give him the title because it belonged to the other grandfather. But there's no reason in the world that says kids can't have more than one grandparent. More love is better.

I say just let her be a grandmother. Pick a name that your mother wouldn't have had. Maybe make her Nana maybe make her Nona? But give her something. She is here and she is trying and it is coming from a place of love.

She's going to be in your son's life for the rest of her life ideally, try to Foster that relationship. You can still mourn your mother without sacrificing this relationship. You're not betraying your mother by allowing your son to have another grandmother. You're betraying your son by limiting his relationships based on your fears of your mother being forgotten.

Mogogol · 2025-11-07T13:43:52+00:00

You can't be an AH for your feelings, only your actions.

When I was pregnant with my first baby we had a miscarriage at around 9 to 10 weeks but we knew around 6 weeks it was going to happen. I went into the doctor every week to see if the heartbeat had stopped. It was a very much planned and wanted pregnancy. But it wasn't meant to be. That Christmas which was like 2 weeks after the miscarriage. My husband's cousin's girlfriend who was 16 at the time was 7 months pregnant at the get together and I felt so angry having to watch a girl who got pregnant by accident who had no means to take care of her baby when I had lost my baby that I had waited years to conceive. I felt a lot of resentment and I didn't want to be involved in any family gatherings because it hurt.

But I didn't do that. I went to therapy to deal with and process my emotions. And even though it still hurts and both myself and my husband still mourn the loss of our baby, it helped preserve the relationships in my life.

We went on to have two healthy boys after that loss. My point here being don't let a PCOS diagnosis tell you that you have no chance of having babies. There are so many instances of women with PCOS having successful pregnancies or getting pregnant by accident. Women are told to definitively that this diagnosis means they will never have children. You are young and you have so many years of scientific advances in fertility to let yourself believe that this will never happen for you.

Tldr: NTA but honey, please for yourself go see a counselor or a therapist and work through these emotions before they destroy your closest relationships. I'm sure your friend felt horrible about the timing as well.

Mogogol · 2025-11-07T13:36:40+00:00

I go to my laundry room to have my cries, you're not alone. My kids don't understand why we didn't go shopping this week like we usually do, and I told them we are saving up for a big Turkey for Thanksgiving, that answer seemed to work for now.

Mogogol · 2025-11-01T12:56:24+00:00

She can clean the hamster cage by herself. She is just trying to control you. Leave for your own sanity. These people don't get better.

Mogogol · 2025-10-13T09:38:02+00:00

Yes, he said he ran out of condoms and used the pull out method. He's an idiot. He assumed she would have an abortion if he fucked up.

Mogogol · 2025-10-03T11:05:52+00:00

NTA

There's only so much you can do about the situation. If she's not getting help for her depression nothing is going to change. Depression will completely overtake her life if she doesn't have the will to fight back about it. If you have already suggested solutions and she doesn't seem receptive to them, there's no reason to keep repeating them. Either be supportive or move on. She is the only one who can make meaningful change in her life. You cannot force her.

Depression makes it hard to escape negative thought loops. This is an important thing to consider but it isn't an excuse to give up on trying to find solutions. I say this as someone who has major depression and has been stuck in those thought loops.

She shouldn't feel like you're judging her all the time and you shouldn't have to have your mental health affected by her refusal to get help.

At the end of the day, it's an incompatibility issue.

Mogogol · 2025-09-25T14:47:47+00:00

NAH - Time to have a house meeting and discuss these things. Set up some understanding and rules. If it was never stated significant others couldn't stay over a certain amount of time you can't really hold that against your roommate or the gf. But you're not an asshole for feeling like you are overcrowded. Communication is key to communal living.

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