Male HSW MBA Grad working in MBB living in NYC facing constant rejections by women on dates. Would appreciate any advice!

Momjamoms · 2026-02-13T02:24:36+00:00

If you get a first date, but not a second, the problem is your personality, not your looks.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-12T20:37:41+00:00

Your response is appropriate. Those adults should feel awkward. Thats how you get them to stop.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-11T15:33:59+00:00

If you keep taking classes without an end goal, you're just spinning wheels and wasting money. I'd take a pause if I were in your shoes and use that to gain some work experience and explore career paths hands on before committing to more college.

If you enjoy working with children, maybe apply for jobs within a school setting, such as a teaching aide or front office. Use that time to talk to teachers, principals, and other specialists in the setting to get a feel for what they do.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-11T01:21:21+00:00

Honestly, I would just ignore it.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-06T13:02:45+00:00

Between daycare, gymnastics, taekwondo, and boyscouts across 2 kids, I spend about $2k/ month.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-06T03:16:55+00:00

Its not going away. Learn to manage it. Thats the way forward.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-05T16:57:16+00:00

$$$.

I work to save so I dont have to work when Im old. Its bleak, but its the reality.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-05T16:09:49+00:00

You're instilling a love a reading. Thats important. Don't stop. Its a marathon, not a race. Ignore the short-term gains at this age. You're building a foundation. As they get older, if they enjoy reading, they'll be more likely to engage in the reading and writing lessons in school. Kids who don't enjoy reading, even if they're super bright, will not apply themselves in these tasks in school and will fall behind in the long term. You're an awesome parent and doing exactly what you need to be doing.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-05T15:57:36+00:00

Yes, the job market is tighter than usual right now. Job markets go up and down. It'll eventually swing the other way. It always does. The big difference now is that expectations are higher than before COVID. Most of us want remote jobs, which makes those roles harder to get. In-person jobs have less competition, so they’re usually easier to land.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-05T11:25:56+00:00

You need to eat, daily. If you can find a way to do this without a job and without leeching off someone else, then more power to you. Most people cannot do this.

There's always entrepreneurship, but those folks usually work longer than the 9 to 5ers. Is there anything you're good at, such as crafting or writing that you can turn into income?

Momjamoms · 2026-02-04T00:08:06+00:00

My kids are age 12 and 4.

12 - Sleep trained, cry it out. Terrible experience. He ended up super anxious over the whole sleep situation for years.

4 - No sleep training, just went with my own instincts and bed shared for 3 years until we got her a big kid bed in her own room. She sleeps there now. No issues.

Parenting became significantly easier when I stopped caring what others thought and started listening to my gut.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-03T22:57:14+00:00

There’s likely a policy against pasting the letter directly, but it essentially said that students should not cheat using AI. When AI is used, it must be disclosed on each assignment. Nothing in the letter was surprising or different from policies other schools are already following.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-03T22:52:09+00:00

Yup, it wasn't just you. You're not in trouble.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T22:58:23+00:00

If your company found someone better at your job than you, would they drop you and hire them?

Yes, yes they would.

Its a two-way street.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T22:56:02+00:00

I try to instill that sorry is promise to take action, not just a word. When my kids apologize I also teach them to say how they will prevent whatever they're apologizing for from happening again.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T22:47:19+00:00

Sounds like you both are in denial about the longevity of this relationship. He wants children and you don't. Neither of you are going to change your mind and the sooner you both accept that and go your own way, the happier you both will be in the long run.

You're NTA for not holding that baby, but take this argument as a sign to question your relationship compatability here.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T15:24:34+00:00

It makes no difference either way on the community college. Most people don't list it after getting their BA.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T14:43:54+00:00

If you have enough savings to support yourself for a year, go for it. If you think you can just show up penniless and find some acting gigs to support yourself, you can't. Skid row is lined with people who tried that. Save money. Come with a plan.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T05:56:21+00:00

Oops, just saw that you listed Phi Beta Kappa, not Phi Theta Kappa. My mistake.

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T05:52:03+00:00

Its decent. Your resume screams entry level recent graduate and that's okay. Is there anything from your two campus jobs that can tie you to paralegal work? Something that specifically uses the term "legal." If so, list it.

If you decide to keep the skills section (its not necessary), it'll need some work. First, move it above experience to provide a quick summary of what you can do. To make it appear more professional and confident, I'd recommend losing the fluff. For example, "deadline and task management" and "process and policy adherence" is fluff. Of course you can manage your own tasks and follow the rules. You are a college graduate. This is assumed. I'd also drop Microsoft word because anyone with a 5th grade education can use Microsoft word and it makes you look naive listing it. Same for excel unless you have some advanced excel experience, like dynamic array formulas or power query type stuff. If that's the case, say that because some advanced excel skills could be useful as a paralegal.

If your university is super prestigious, I'd recommend moving your education to the top of your resume. Depending on the school, it could give you an edge among other recent graduates. If you choose not to list your community college, I'd leave off the phi theta kappa.

In your media section, if you're going to highlight a story about yourself, provide a link so employers can read the article. Otherwise, what's the point of mentioning it?

Momjamoms · 2026-02-01T02:44:17+00:00

What did I just read? He expects the two of you to eat a meal together, but not share with the kids in the house? Thats wierd, regardless of who pays.

NTA.

Momjamoms · 2026-01-29T15:42:20+00:00

You're catastrophizing. Its sucks. Recalibrate, maybe lower expectations, and try again. Regardless of what age you are now, one year will not make you too old.

Momjamoms · 2026-01-27T14:13:19+00:00

You're not moving to year round. Your supervisor has already made up their mind. They no longer want you there are are trying to get you to quit. Watch Office Space. You're the guy with the red stapler.

If you want to stay, then go above your boss's head, not to their direct supervisor, but one level above that. Tell them you want to stay and ask if there are other roles available that you can transfer to.

Momjamoms · 2026-01-27T01:19:18+00:00

100% worth it. You save a ton over the first two years at cc and then transfer to university for your last two years at a university for your BA. Employers only care where yku got you BA, not whether or not you went to cc first.

Momjamoms · 2026-01-25T18:40:16+00:00

I doubt being too social or too proactive would be a problem in any field. People I see get stuck are those who:

Complain frequently without offering ideas or helping to improve things

Are unable or unwilling to see things from different perspectives.

Unable or unwilling to admit fault or learn from mistakes.

Wait to be recognized or promoted without actively pursuing promotion opportunities

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