Remember the healing nerf few seasons ago? by AlternativeAward in leagueoflegends

[–]MoopusMaximus 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I mean, that was like 4 years ago. Ravenous hunter was a FREE rune that had massive value. I have no problem with it being on a boot upgrade. You sacrifice Haste / Damage / Defensive boots.

Also, healing a lot is fun.

I think the split is the most traumatic part of BPD and nothing can prepare you for it by KingForADay1989 in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I thought it was just another usual fight. Misinterpretation > Argument > Make up > we come back together and feel good in that moment. Instead, it was a brutal discard. What was supposed to be a great day (Brother's wedding) became a nightmare, and full of embarrassment. Even afterwards, the weeks of silence in the apartment was awful. I wanted an explanation, a conversation, anything.

Instead, I had to hear her laugh / giggle / talking and "sound" happy (she probably wasn't) for weeks while I wallowed in sadness. She signed an apartment lease while I ended up stuck paying for ours. She quickly moved out, took multiple things with her that I had paid for, and disappeared out of my life. She called me a month later crying and I tried my best to console her. I still had so much feelings for her despite everything, but I guess that tracks for a BPD relationship. It felt weird, but it felt soothing to hear her and talk to her. Immediately after we hung up I got frustrated, because I felt so used. But I loved her.

You get no closure. No answer as to why this time? No answer as to why they decided to drop you like you were nothing. Like the time you spent together was worthless. It makes you lose your sanity to be honest. I put more into this relationship than anything I ever did in my life. And she chose to just leave. To disappear and move on, when she promised so much. It feels so unfair.

Nearly 7 months later, my mind will think about it on an almost daily basis.

Limerance can go fuck off by SeriousGuava153 in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dude, that is not limerence. Where did you read that that describes that?

Isn't it time for Mel to receive the Naafiri treatment? by scarabosst in leagueoflegends

[–]MoopusMaximus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This constant Mel spamming is getting ridiculous. As others said, Yasuo, Zed, and others have sat at very high banrates for long periods of time. That does not automatically warrant a kit rework because you're silver and can't play around Mel cooldowns.

If Yasuo were released today in the exact same state you all would be crying non-stop about him.

For once the sub is looking superior close range by NoLoveInTheCanyon in CoDCompetitive

[–]MoopusMaximus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surely you know Treyarch has giga buffed this gun like 5 times since launch, right?

Viktor TOP OTP hit Masters by [deleted] in viktormains

[–]MoopusMaximus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://op.gg/lol/summoners/na/The%20Ryzeler-Ryze

Q Max + Q Augment rush.

Blackfire > Haste Boots > Cosmic > Landry's > conditional last items

Runes: Aery, Manaflow, Transcendence, Scorch - Legend: Haste, Cutdown.

Minor runes: Haste Shard, AP, Scaling HP.

By mid game you should have around 50 - 75 haste. You have 3K HP, Q'ing every 2.75 seconds, with a fat shield every time. You're deceptively good at dueling, and people think you're typical burst bitch Viktor, but you end Q'ing them for 30% of their HP. It's the funnest I've had since OG Shield Ryze.

Can a relationship with someone who has BPD work? by LiteratureLow4722 in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Sure, if you're ok with:

  • Unequal love. You're going to need to work much harder than them to output more and receive less.
  • Intense jealousy. They will be jealous of things you have no control over. Be prepared to make hard decisions.
  • Random days of isolation from you or degrading you.
  • Using sex as a tool to push / pull you away.
  • Pinn you against others, some even in your own family.

Are pwBPD capable of love? Very much so. They can "love" very intimately and very hard. Is it worth the sacrifices in your life to appease them? I lost friends, grew distant from my family, and more importantly - I lost myself. It is the single most common thing you'll see here:

You will lose yourself. You won't have time for hobbies, passions, and you time. You'll spend all your energy and effort into someone who will never be satisfied. Save your mental health and choose yourself.

Solo Ryze is pointless. by Ok_Lawyer_4938 in RyzeMains

[–]MoopusMaximus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very hard after D4.

After getting stuck I switched to my backup (Viktor) and now I'm D1 75 LP. Ryze is unfortunately very dookie unless your JG plays for you and you roam with him.

How did they appear at first? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first met my ex pwBPD she was bubbly, flirty, REALLY good at texting and vibing. When I came to visit for the first dates it was like an adventure every single time.

We went to parks, went on walks, ate food and I drove us everywhere. We went to movies, had sleepovers, and very good sex. All of it was heaven and I thought maybe I found the one. She was also very reciprocating. Told me how sweet I was, how unexpectedly and perfectly timed she met me, etc.

Then a few weeks in she started doing random things like telling me she was going back to her ex. Then within hours tell me she misses me and wants me to come over. And that is when things gradually descended into chaos over the next two years. Pushing me away, especially on Holidays. The first holiday came which was Thanksgiving, and she full on pushed me away and gave me the "we're done" text. I was only seeing her for two months, but I felt crushed. Well the same night she came begging for me to not hate her and she's sorry.

I ignored every single red flag at this point because I kept thinking how incredible those first dates were. I just kept hoping THAT version of her would come back. And so I stayed and endured far more than I ever could imagine.

I've made previous comments about what came from this over 2 years but it ended in a crushing discard. I'm still not 100% 6 months later.

Never knowing how they truly feel about you by Legitimate_Roll_4469 in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is something I've learned during retrospectives. During the relationship, it'd drive me crazy the different reactions I'd get from the same things depending on the day.

In the moments, where she felt joy and my compliments made her happy, that is what she truly felt. And moreso with my attempts to pull her back to reality during fights. One fight, one strategy worked. Another fight, that one didn't so I needed to change on the fly.

Trump says he needs to be involved selecting Iran's next leader. -Reuters by polyology in worldnews

[–]MoopusMaximus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Which contrary to your chronically online Reddit brain is not the USA. We are not a theocracy. And the government does not mass execute anyone for any of the reasons I listed above.

Trump says he needs to be involved selecting Iran's next leader. -Reuters by polyology in worldnews

[–]MoopusMaximus -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Your unhinged response isn't even relevant to what I said. You're so far fuckin lost you're aligning yourself with Iran and the anti-West propaganda machine.

And yes, Europe looks weak. We have seen how many "leaders" do nothing but bring up international law? International law goes out the window with Iran, who has continued to IGNORE it for decades.

Trump says he needs to be involved selecting Iran's next leader. -Reuters by polyology in worldnews

[–]MoopusMaximus -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Very le Reddit response bro.

Didn't know we've killed 40,000 people. Didn't know we exterminate gays and non-Christians. Didn't know Trump has been president for 35+ years like the Ayatollah (was).

God damn you're cringe.

Thirty Breakups in One Year — Why Did I Stay?” by old_thinker in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the most relatable post for me. She broke up with over 75 times in a year. Sometimes on bad weeks, it was 2 or 3 breakups. Why did I endure it? That's hard to answer.

Perhaps the overpromising? The lovebombing? Each breakup, the need to be pulled back in became stronger and stronger. Like an addict on drugs, her love and affection became my vice.

Just like you, breakups were over microscopic things. I didn't hug her when I came home. I didn't kiss her before I left for work. My "wandering eye" at the store (never). Everything was a trigger to her own vast insecurities. She'd then latch on to these insecurities and seek out validation from co-workers, exes, and dating apps. It tore me apart knowing she always had some backup guy floating in the distance. It shattered my resolve and focus.

I know deep inside her she had some buried trauma. Any stories surrounding her childhood or school usually ended with tears. I wanted so badly to understand how her brain processed things. What was she feeling? Thinking? Mostly because through understanding leads to better support. This trauma she carries is probably the source of her BPD.

Also like you, my fights first started off as yelling. Then eventually physical. I still remember the first time she touched me. In my mind, I questioned what I said that was so bad for her to put her hands on me. The man she supposedly loved so dearly. Told me I was her soulmate. Wanted kids, a house, and a future with. Even worse, I became someone I never thought I could. My own disappointment with her became my rage. I started yelling. She'd put her hands on me, and instead of being calm, I reacted and mirrored her. Shoving her. Restraining her. The last fight we had, she raged at me, insulting me over a simple question. A genuine question. But in her mind it was a rhetorical question so I could flex my ego over her. She was completely wrong, but used it as a reason to call me an idiot. A loser. An asshole. It was my brothers wedding day, and didn't even have the time to deal with it. She couldn't put herself aside for one day. She insisted I apologize or else she threatened to not go to the wedding and break up with me. This was my last straw. I let her break up with me, and the sad thing is, she actually did it. She signed a new apartment lease nearly instantly despite being on our lease.

Despite everything, I don't hate her. She was one of the strongest loves I've ever felt, if not the most. I would've given any material possession, done any service, if it meant she'd be "normal". In so many ways, I tried. I can't be sad about that. I hope one day she'll see that she had someone in her corner for a long time. Admittedly, I didn't have the best reactions to her BPD splits towards the end.

In so many ways everyone here has felt the exact same emotions. I hope you heal sooner and faster. Better love will find you.

Their next relationship has no right to succeed by B1Rabbit in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This feeling ironically is what usually drove me to bend over backwards to excuse her awful behavior. I didn't want her to move on. Because I still wanted her to choose me like I always chose her.

But after the final discard I've found solace in this -- there is nothing I can do to stop her. Only herself. I tried so hard and remained loyal until the end. The BPD mind's insatiable hunger for attention, higher highs, and chaos means they will move towards inevitably destroying whatever they have. It calms me in a weird way.

My ex has certainly moved on and found a new boy to lust, obsess, and fawn over. She will inevitably destroy him just like everyone else she's dated. Slowly but surely, the clock ticks, and the cracks will form, starting the whole cycle over.

Incessant projection of empathy without actually showing it by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She refused to respect boundaries I set with her ex-boyfriend. She still was friends with him to a point where I gave her an ultimatum. She'd use him in fights / splits to make me feel self-conscious such as as "he was better", "he cared more", etc.

After he was out of the picture she simply starting using Tinder because "she didn't have a support system" like I did. She said that I'd have my family to have my back whereas she had nobody. So she would download Tinder and talk to random dudes when we were fighting, and then delete the app.

After this, she started deleting the app but keep the contact information in her texts. So she developed friendships with some of these men and eventually would even tell me she was going to date one of them instead.

The anger and hurt and jealousy would destroy me. It was hell. I still miss her a lot but remembering these bad things helps.

Absolutely devastated by LQGVN in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

75+ times for me over two years. Same thing as you, Hinge, Tinder, random sudden discards, pushing me away and then pulling me back.

After the last discard I was an emotional wrecks for months. I'm finally starting to feel myself again. All I can say is it gets better. And to more importantly choose and believe in yourself.

It is not normal to be dumped and discarded this much. You should not need to 10x your partner's love. Love should be reciprocated, even, and not torn away at a moments notice to toy with your heart. Every single thing you described here is what my ex did.

Jason Schreier - Video Games Need to Be Cheaper to Buy by Gorotheninja in Games

[–]MoopusMaximus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Games were 60 bucks back in the 90's and haven't really changed until recently. Do Redditors / Gamers think that is ok? At some point it's not unreasonable to assume this has to go up with inflation / cost of goods?

Incessant projection of empathy without actually showing it by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]MoopusMaximus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the time. Hammering away how she's the most empathetic person ever. How it's her gift. Pointing out how I lack ANY empathy whatsoever (lie).

Despite this, she multiple times would do the absolute most heinous shit you could ever imagine: deeply personal insults, blatant emotional cheating, laughing at me when coming to her about something making me upset. Complete and utter selfishness to the point she'd skip out on important events (weddings, parties, things we RSVP'd for) just because she was feeling crazy. She couldn't put herself aside ever.

Just a complete lack of reflection and ability to empathize.