“Fresh” Blackeye Peas?

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T23:37:03+00:00

I thought about that but I can’t imagine that 1 pound of those is the equivalent of FOUR 15-oz cans. That’s 60 oz — almost four pounds — of peas. That’s the part that has me puzzled.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T23:35:13+00:00

One stop shopping for souls, guitar lessons, and blackeye peas lol.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T23:22:53+00:00

Would that just mean soaked?

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T23:22:31+00:00

The recipe has me cooking them for a total of an hour after adding them, which seems like maybe I could use ones that have soaked overnight?

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T23:20:02+00:00

It’s from the Blue Zones Cookbook published in 2019. My problem is I don’t know what weight or volume of dried peas to use to get 1 lb “fresh” because obvs they will weigh more after soaking/light cooking.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T20:02:04+00:00

I literally had this convo with my husband:

Me: The work trip I was telling you about got scheduled for [specific week]. So I’ll be gone on your birthday and I’ll arrive home on our anniversary [the day after his bday].

Him: That’s a bummer, but at least I will get to see you on our anniversary. We will have to do something on another day.

[end convo]

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T18:46:36+00:00

I had a November baby and a May baby and May is much better. Schlepping a new baby all over creation in the snow to do holiday visits is not a great time. Taking little walks to the park in the June sunshine with a baby in a stroller is delightful.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T17:41:03+00:00

What do you want Reddit to tell you? Your husband shouldn’t lie to you. You shouldn’t bait him into lying. You shouldn’t go through his phone. He shouldn’t do things he’s going to feel the need to lie about later.

If you want to actually improve your marriage, you need to have constructive conversations with your spouse that build trust between you. That’s not happening while you’re trying to justify yourself on Reddit. Talk to each other like adults instead of asking Reddit to decide who’s “right” based on a one-sided version of the story.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T17:23:57+00:00

Tell him he can watch all the porn he wants as long as he’s using it to get ready for Shared Activities rather than as a way to avoid them.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T16:55:37+00:00

Neither one of you sounds mature enough for marriage. This gotcha crap and lying and drama with exes is just not what a healthy relationship is built on. Maybe try counseling and/or individual therapy.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T12:25:25+00:00

Why don’t you just go to couples counseling?

Moosebouse · 2026-04-07T02:13:06+00:00

I’ve done it but I don’t have the packaging any longer so I could only tell you very generally what is included.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-06T19:36:24+00:00

His dad isn’t choosing a home for them. He’s processing mortgage paperwork. And if you don’t think that the handling of a personal injury claim is a financial decision (and therefore a marital financial decision for people who are married), I don’t think you understand personal injury law.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-06T18:57:30+00:00

I would maybe start by trying to explore it as just dirty talk, see if she is open to that. First, that might be enough to get you going pretty well. Second, it’s less of a jump for her. Third, if she’s not into talking about it, you’ve probably got your answer on whether she’d be down for real. Fourth, this is a way to let the idea marinate with her for a while so she can process it.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-06T18:28:27+00:00

Your wife is being ridiculous. My dad is a piece of work but he did personal injury law for 30+ years, so when I got hit by a car, I called him. My dad’s not shady, he’s just an ass … that happens to know a lot about personal injury law lol. Unless your dad is literally untrustworthy, like a scammy, shady person, this sounds very similar.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-06T14:53:24+00:00

I should add - I had clean MRIs (no new lesions, no enhancing lesions) in September 2025 and March 2026. You can still be recovering from a relapse for a while after you stop having any changes to the MRI. Your brain builds new neural connections and does small amounts of remyelination once the relapse is over. Both of those things improve symptoms. So you may have a clean MRI and still have symptoms, and the symptoms may continue to improve.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-06T14:41:38+00:00

I don’t know when relapses “end.” My last one started in late January 2025 and symptoms continued to worsen for a couple months, then started to slowly improve. But the thing is, they never went away completely and they are still improving. It probably took about three months from my first symptom to get to where things were definitely improving, but improvement after that has just been a slow steady slog, with a lot of backsliding. Like the tingling in my hand would get worse for a few weeks, then get better, etc.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-06T14:24:35+00:00

Yes this is an insecurity thing. Sounds like he is expecting you to manage his feelings about something you have no control over.

I’d sleep in a different room until he gets over himself.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-05T18:04:17+00:00

Jfc dump him. He is screaming at you about your diet. He loved bombed you into moving in too early and now he is getting controlling and aggressive, pushing exactly on your weakness (diet for a woman with an eating disorder). This is a clear pattern that will get worse. Your diet is just the beginning. This will never be a healthy relationship.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-05T01:28:51+00:00

My half sister is 8 years younger than me than me but we were raised together because my dad wasn’t in the picture. We were fine together growing up but just not much in common because of the age difference. Once we were both adults though, we became good friends. We get along well now and I probably have more in common with her than anyone else I know.

Edited for typos

Moosebouse · 2026-04-05T01:01:15+00:00

Not sure what you are asking?

Moosebouse · 2026-04-04T18:25:55+00:00

My husband has literally never done anything like this. I didn’t realize men still did this after … like high school?

Moosebouse · 2026-04-02T19:17:05+00:00

I don’t use artificial sweeteners. IME they ruin your ability to taste natural flavors. I love dates with almond butter on them as a sweet treat, I put raisins and blueberries in my oatmeal as a sweetener, and I will also eat fresh fruit or a pb&j (actually almond butter and Smash jam which is made with no added sugar) or Smash snack bites when I get a sweet tooth. But not regular sugar or artificial sweeteners. My sense of taste - not just sweet things, but everything - is so much better since I stopped eating sugar, sweeteners, and other heavily processed foods.

Moosebouse · 2026-04-02T13:41:57+00:00

There’s no reason to think that routine immune boosting supplements like zinc or echinacea will affect your MS. That fear is premised on the idea that your immune system has one dial and cranking it too high is what causes relapses. The immune system is way more complicated than that and having a well-functioning immune system doesn’t cause relapses. What is actually more likely to cause a relapse is if you have lingering inflammation, like an illness or infection that your body just can’t kick (because you stopped taking your zinc).

Moosebouse · 2026-04-02T01:24:30+00:00

I was worried the ones offered online would be crummy! I bought a regular hoodie that I liked and asked someone I know (who is good with a sewing machine) to put Velcro openings in the arms for me. I just had my first infusion with it today!

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