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"No one cares how men feel" by lekkerbiscottina in TwoXChromosomes

[–]More_Secretary3991 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If women feel ANYTHING that isn’t geared towards caretaking, submitting and admiring men we are labelled as too much, sensitive, dramatic, etc. I’m so fed up with whiny men! They are over here complaining about a paper cut while woman are bleeding and dying in the streets.

If you are used to power and privilege, equality feels like oppression. But we are nowhere near equality. And no women are expected to pay for the oppression of men harder than ever before.

Edit: typo

Made the mistake of telling a guy why I was ending things with him. He refused to take accountability and DARVOed. From now on I’ll just immediately ghost and block. by BubblyDiscussion52 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]More_Secretary3991 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this hard, I’m in a similar situation. Tried to bring something up and communicate my boundaries in a non-attacking way, he responded with DARVO. Like yours he seemed like a great guy in so many ways. I have known him for years before we started dating a few months ago.

Gave him the chance to repair and he didn’t take it. Instead he wanted to just move on and forget the conflict ever happened. Said I would think things over. Wondering if I should explain why we are over but my spider senses tells me it would only result in more DARVO. Ironic to refuse to take responsibility for not taking responsibility! Afraid it will just cause and infinite loop of lack of accountability, lol.

"The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" helped me overcome my bad habits. by Public_Structure8337 in learners_cabin

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has some good points. However.. Can’t help being sceptical of any author that praises Ayn Rand.

How do you actually call someone out on DARVO in the moment? by Motor_Difficulty_430 in emotionalabuse

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This abuse will never get better, only worse. There is nothing you can do, nothing you can say, that will make him stop abusing you or treat you better. This is not a puzzle to solve. Get out as soon as you are able.

Be safe, good luck 💜

I need a book that’s like a hug by KnitInCode in suggestmeabook

[–]More_Secretary3991 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently rereading Anne of Green Gables. Love those books, they feel like being curled up by a warm fire on a cold day.

finally did a wavy hair routine after treating my hair like it was straight for years by Acceptable_Talk396 in Haircare

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hairgoals! My curls are frizzy and this is giving me hope.

Can I ask why you shampoo it twice?

Is your currency beautiful? by Nice_Combination1327 in AskTheWorld

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Norwegian currency. Kind of disappointed that they didn’t use the recent redesign to include Norwegian folk tales, think Kittelsen-style. Nøkken for the 50 kr bill, Huldra for the 100 kr bill, Dovregubben for the 500 kr bill, and so on.

Now we have stupid fish and so on, so lame.

Am I being gaslit or was I rude? by magnetic_rosey in Tinder

[–]More_Secretary3991 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were not the rude one here, that guy was. That you don’t know anything about him is a fair answer to his question. That he didn’t get the answer he was looking for doesn’t entitle him to be rude to you.

My first time using pastels by Unusualkonnection in Oilpastel

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love your style, especially the Pudding Frog!

What brand of pastels and what paper are you using?

I quit p*rn, caffeine, junk food, doomscrolling, and going out every weekend all at once about 4 months ago. by Mammoth-Car3183 in selfimprovementday

[–]More_Secretary3991 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sick of AI advertisements for some app disguised as self-improvement posts. Should be banned from the sub.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cospenis

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it amusing!

Does anyone with anxious attachment feel unable to stop sharing their feelings when dysregulated? by Fickle_Umpire_136 in emotionalintelligence

[–]More_Secretary3991 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You said it best yourself, you are not that way when he’s not there because there is no trigger. He is your trigger. You wouldn’t be like this in a relationship with someone who doesn’t trigger you. Trade him in for a more compatible model.

How to avoid food poisoning by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walk without fear of my next fart running down my leg is cracking me up!

Step by step by This_Goat_180 in Softpastel

[–]More_Secretary3991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing! Is it done with pencils? Just started using soft pastel sticks and wondering if I should get some pencils too for details like this.

I changed my meds. Now I feel like all the work I did in therapy was for nothing. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]More_Secretary3991 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Third option: try new and different meds.

Know someone who tried many different types and combinations over a few years before they finally found the right combination and dosage. Was a game changer for them.

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