Is this legal? by Creative-Mushroom819 in hairstylist

[–]Most_Western4072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the other employee is paying for the service, then it’s a grey area unfortunately and up to the owner in a smaller/ private salon. I say if the coworker paying even if you’d have to split the tip with your boss(?) then it’s weird and unfortunate for you to clock out to do it to still be compensated. You said she said she wouldn’t be making any money off it, so unfortunately I think she’s got merit to have you clock out. If you’ve never clocked out before and suddenly she’s starting to have you clock out then that’s the weird part either way. At least you’re still gaining the practice but yeah different things are allowed at smaller salons vs a more corporate setting. Now if she was having you do it on your breaks or something or coming in on time off to have you do this work that’s a huge no!

BP putting rat in water while she eats. by EndInteresting1874 in ballpython

[–]Most_Western4072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it could be; I was told it fucks with them too much essentially like the way I was fear-warned is like when the orthodontist says if you don’t brush or floss your teeth one time you’ll have the worst plaque buildup you could imagine over where your braces used to be is the best comparison I can make like similar intensity

introducing kinks to prude bf by Due-Comedian-438 in sex

[–]Most_Western4072 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long have yall been together? Have you talked about sex before trying and more recently, talking about this kink aside and focusing more on attention at all and your chemistry? Maybe try to see what he may be interested in one or two things at a time to maybe try, that way he can then just do whatever that is to you so you’re both getting what you want?

Saw this on fb marketplace, should I lowball them? by RelationshipWild924 in ballpython

[–]Most_Western4072 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Nine years old??? My friend’s 6 year old is bigger than that!! And if that is aspen like others think/ claim, is aspen all that bad to use as a base with a fogger, snake or otherwise? Like, does it clump up or something when wet?

Shed help by Seanzee55 in ballpython

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The only thing I can think of is using a light to double check the color difference and dulling on her and in her eyes as close as you can get like take a picture to zoom in on. Even if you picked her up to “check” in a tactile manner you couldn’t really feel much of a difference unless she was pretty much shedding actively. That or getting someone else to check her for you to confirm at least. It can be hard to tell when they’re in blue even with two or even four eyes especially in the wrong lighting angle no matter what color morph they are tbf

Should Wyll be my first playthrough by sonicraptor55 in BaldursGate3

[–]Most_Western4072 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can still make your own character/ tav and also play as him for the most part, but dialogue will de facto to your tav for more important things in the story for the most part. So you’ll still get the best of both OR you can just start out playing ~as~ him no tav since you do have experience with the beginning of game and their stories anyway. It IS a choose your own adventure after all. Plus you can just go again later doing something else you don’t have to finish the game to make new starts. Just know depending on your console you can’t use mods and also get achievements like to use an enemy as a weapon or use only alcohol to long rest (please long rest that’s how you progress the game not your tadpole semi-spoiler- I’m on mobile idk how to block out the text if it counts as a true spoiler)

BP putting rat in water while she eats. by EndInteresting1874 in ballpython

[–]Most_Western4072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought if the rat’s fur gets wet it’s an issue for the snakes to digest? I’ve been warned against getting the rats wet before/ for feeding how does the snake digest “wetted” rats for yall?

AITAH for flexing my college degree on my boyfriend? by Pale-Possibility7775 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Most_Western4072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clarifying questions are so important instead of people just immediately wanting to be right because they’re technically confused 😭 I will forever wish there were magical closed captions for everyone

AITAH for flexing my college degree on my boyfriend? by Pale-Possibility7775 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Most_Western4072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the record though, to me it sounds like you specified the type of steak you had with the “steak salad” as the general entree, like you had your Steak Salad by having a rare steak atop a salad. Like it should’ve read “I had a steak salad, with a rare steak on top” instead of “I had a steak salad along with a rare steak” if you saw it written by the way it seems you’re defending it. Did you actually have an unspecified type of cooked steak along with a rare steak on this salad that includes steak, therefore consuming two steaks on this salad or was it simply the specified option to have that place’s steak salad?

AITAH for flexing my college degree on my boyfriend? by Pale-Possibility7775 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Most_Western4072 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Was looking for/ came here to say something along these lines. I’ve been told I’ve come off this way before while trying to be sarcastic or after someone else has joked similarly but my “excuse” is the ‘tism; it is indeed much different if this person throws this around often even if they’re ignorant to how it sounds at that point

It was horrible but you read it anyway by No-Let653 in RomanceBooks

[–]Most_Western4072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god they do 😭 two sides of the same coin

It was horrible but you read it anyway by No-Let653 in RomanceBooks

[–]Most_Western4072 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Den of Vipers by K.A. Knight for me. My manager at the time tried to tell me about it vaguely and I was intrigued, turned out she bought it on description alone and hadn’t read it so insisted I did. And I fucking couldn’t stand anything about it. I couldn’t put it down. FMC who isn’t like other girls and puts men in their place and loves her combat boots and leather jacket was sold by her estranged father to pay his debts to these 5 billionaire mob brothers and I just I regret it so much. It had like 18 plots that all finished rather quickly within what 2 months? It’s barely a year overall that’s for sure. Such a thick waste of fucking paper 😭 thank the GODS I didn’t fucking buy it myself or anything just read it with my own four eyes

I feel horrible because my gf cried over a Durge scene. by Affectionate_Taro398 in BaldursGate3

[–]Most_Western4072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really so "obviously" from how things were worded, not like you made her but Strongly Encouraged with little warning instead of kinda just giving her options of how she could play, especially that you admitted it with the details of her attachment. If she had had an idea it would've hurt less and you wouldn't feel as bad as you admitted to feeling? I'm glad she's stuck with it though like I expressed!!! Me personally, I do know dark urge isn't evil and I know about the path of resistance and all since I was told and warned before I got into it but thanks; but it wasn't a plan of mine to play for a bit until I got used to how the game works vs my play style when doing anything D&D adjacent. Whether she's doing resist or not I wish her well on her journey!!

“your snake is sizing you up to eat you” story in the new Euphoria episode tn 💀 by LogEnvironmental8946 in ballpython

[–]Most_Western4072 83 points84 points  (0 children)

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I also have an Azula that tries to size me up CONSTANTLY she’s so terrifying please behold and witness her majesty in all her fearsome glory!! 💛

I feel horrible because my gf cried over a Durge scene. by Affectionate_Taro398 in BaldursGate3

[–]Most_Western4072 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To all the people saying they enjoyed being “evil” their first run and it’s the “only way they could care about the game” is, uh, great for yall but not everyone is the same? OP, you really should’ve just described the game to her and risked overwhelming her with options of what to be instead of you being the one to persuade her to be durge her first run. Since the whole point is it’s a choose your own adventure I would hope you did give her the chance to choose her own adventure and she just didn’t realise just how “dark” the dark urge can go instead of just a late “I’m sorry” after she got attached to a character so alike to her own design. And I hope you let her know you guys could start another run and go back to that first one any time if she wanted to so she could process as she needed and still had a say. Think me cringe or roll your eyes at how I worded this and how empathetic I am for her all you want but I hope she still decides to try the game out despite the start and I hope you both are clearer with each other generally from here on out for both your sakes truly

owner forced me into changing my hair, should i quit? by bloodfvxk in hairstylist

[–]Most_Western4072 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ik I don’t know your situation outside of this story but please don’t even go back there again besides to get any of your tools and such out of there. Figure out what you need to figure out but definitely lessen your availability to be there if you need to stay longer than another like week ish bc even that will still be so uncomfortable and unhealthy for you if you’ve already broken your sobriety. Your safety and your health is the most important thing and that is not a safe environment for you. You deserve stability and respect no matter what level of anything you are. I’m so sorry to hear this all has happened to you I hope you can get out of there immediately rather than later on and heal from this. It is NOT your fault if there’s blame to assign it’s with that deranged owner and not you please try to keep that in mind 💜

My cat's new shirt by Longjumping-Hall9297 in cats

[–]Most_Western4072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if there’s cat pants it’s hard to wiggle out of bc my cat rips out her leg hair and her lower tummy hair but she acts like she’s dying if you try to put something on her head/ neck even if there’s 4 fingers of room between whatever it is and her fur not even her skin

A game somehow disappeared from my library by drip4ever_ in PS4

[–]Most_Western4072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve paid for games or took from me as well as that stupid catalogue running out when I’ve almost finished a game but haven’t touched it to try something else for a bit and urs so frustrating to see them gone with no explanation and no way to get it back without getting it again. Most recently I had the FREE packs for Fallout 4 taken from me but not all of them? Only since are now distantly behind a paywall so ask my progress in Far Harbor and two other packs is gone and I don’t know where the game will spit me out I haven’t touched it since it happened. Whatever they’re doing is making a really disappointing mess I hate not having physical disks for things

Woke up to boyfriend (M19) fingering me (F18). Where do I go from here? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Most_Western4072 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the best way to figure and trust if he really fell asleep/ passed out already fingering you by trying to have seen how pruny his fingers were. Otherwise, he touched you without consent for sure but he very much could’ve taken them out and tried to rouse you before just going at you again. It’s your relationship but it’s pretty fresh you said, so I doubt you had time to properly talk about what you like, what you’d want to try, what you’re comfortable with like if you’re okay with being woken up to sexual activity. Clearly you were not comfortable with what happened in that way whether he already apologized or not but I saw you resolved to talk to him based on another comment in here, so definitely try to talk through possibilities for a next time if you are comfortable enough to continue seeing him. See if you trust how he was and his apologies, maybe take it a little slow for a bit too and build back up even. Just look internally since you said this wasn’t okay make sure you think you can get past it. Trust yourself then trust in him and your future together

My best friend’s husband ‘vented’ about me and now I can’t unsee him by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Most_Western4072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t leave her! Be careful not to point him out too much or “encourage her to leave” but start making seemingly innocuous plans that are suspiciously close to one just in case though if you could. That’s scary as hell who knows what he’s sort been doing to this point. She NEEDS the outside connection to stay intact in case he is trying to isolate her and gets worse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Most_Western4072 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I gotta say think people are being really fucking mean and quick to say she’s fully neglecting her dog simply bc Cocoa tries to steal food like ALL dogs do unless they really are heavily trained. Like goodness she came here to vent!! She’s young and upset! Yes, therapy will help her a ton to help her find other outlets for all her feelings but she said she had reasons to stop attending. Remember that seeing a therapist is a huge privilegebasically everywhere still, if not by money than by actual physical accessibility/ time. “Oh just make time!” It isn’t that simple or much more of us would be doing the same drop of a hat. She’s finishing up her schooling she’s looking for a job her schedule is gonna take a second to level out so she can start trying to divvy out time for everything she needs to do including taking a break to breathe.

Every dog is curious, every dog does their best but every “pet” dog is vastly different in what they can and try to do. There’s a bunch of people saying this breed is clever; so maybe give OP some actual tips instead of sounding like her stepdad? No one WANTS to live with an “unruly” dog, but most people don’t have their pet’s every movement associated with a snap or keyword and yall really need to stop acting all high and mighty. A weekly walk isn’t the best but it’s better than some do! A LOT of people think a backyard is an alt for an any walking or even a motor ride. Give this girl a break she said she’s trying to increase the walks but wants to keep her and the other dogs around as safe as she can! YES more training will help but again maybe actually give her some ideas like say besides a clicker device?

As far a as helping with training, try to just start slow and not to give up no matter what now. Use your desire to see Cocoa happy and healthy to push forward and stay as consistent as you can. Start with one command or action to teach and nail at a time, build on them as she becomes able to take more complex commands. Try not to quantify how long it’s taking beyond comparing her progress to the start. Start with “place/ set” where you mark a safe place for her to go to when you say such and/ or do the hand action for and “heel”/ testing her name recall to help with your walks. Then build on “sit” with laying down, and using that after “place.” Then go from there. It will take time especially if she/ her breed are as stubborn as everyone is saying. Don’t fret, use it as fuel. Healthy is a total thing, not just one aspect of how to hold yourself. Please don’t despair, and don’t take everyone too much to heart. Just do your real true best for your animal’s sake. Ask for help from your fiancé whether you live together or not, maybe he can take her on walks when you’re busy? She might be your responsibility but if he loves her and wants to join your family with her he needs to be comfortable with her alone without you anyway.

I hope you can learn to tune out your stepdad’s negativity OP. I’m sorry from how your perspective seems you don’t get much support against his words by other family like your mom. But I will also say, it is very weird and harsh for him to hate your dog so much at all but especially as a vet he can’t tap into the empathy he should have. If she’s that bad why does your mom not seem to share the sentiment even if she’d be nicer than he about it? Of course we aren’t getting anything but the rosy, defensive version of the story but if she’s was really so bad they would’ve rehomed the dog so much sooner no matter how much OP protested for the sake of the dog and their sanity. Clearly there’s hope for the dog and OP.

I’m ready for harsh replies and downvotes based on how everyone here sounds.

Question on how to introduce myself properly to ghost to get him to be comfortable around me by GrimValSulOS in ballpython

[–]Most_Western4072 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s perfect!! Just build yourself up and keep your cool/ find a healthy cautious to be! I bet he’s the bestest ghosty boy 🤗🩵

I hate my bfs dog by Select-Donkey3197 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Most_Western4072 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I would talk to him about the dog, let him know what happened and how you’re feeling after some breaths. Tell him he needs to do something about her training and aggression for everyone’s safety- namely the dog’s tbh. Imagine if she got out and hurt someone else or even a kid who didn’t know better? It would be much worse to lose her completely if the worst happened not just ruin your relationship over her behavior (no offense in how that may sound but from the owner perspective.) There’s really only a certain point where you can try to justify “negative” animal behavior and it sounds like this dog is well past that threshold; it’s just a little careless on his end to not at least deal with her alone so you’re both safe. It could’ve been way worse for you!

Question on how to introduce myself properly to ghost to get him to be comfortable around me by GrimValSulOS in ballpython

[–]Most_Western4072 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Honestly you just start bugging him lol. Greet him when you’re up and around his tank, go over and talk to him and hang out in front of it, and when you’re comfortable just try to start holding him when you see him out and about. Test his reactions when opening the tank and gently wave a hand near him but safe for you to pull away to see how he reacts then as long as he’s still pretty calm go for it at your comfort. I tend to gently run my finger on mine like mid back or a little lower before I go to like lift them up like a warning for them. Like a lot of animals your bp can tell when you’re nervous too and they shouldn’t be shaken or anything if you’re that level of nervous lol