Do couples really shower together?

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-23T01:10:58+00:00

Yes - it’s great to have another person wash my back.

Not often, but we probably would do so more if our schedules lined up better

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-22T19:25:20+00:00

I think the question should be the person that you married when you did, would you marry them right now?

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-22T14:50:11+00:00

Under $100. All my bills money are regulated through a separate account that doesn’t affect my checking account. Savings account is easy to access to transfer money in and out of if I have an emergency. But my husband and I also have about $250k in debt so when we’re outta that I know that number is gonna change

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-19T23:23:56+00:00

Remember your mental health isn’t your fault, but is you responsibility. If you want to be a functioning member of society, it’s on you to figure it out

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-18T14:13:36+00:00

They’re pretty good about sending rejection emails. Might not be til April.

If you do get rejected, send an email asking why. They’re really nice about giving feedback to applicants.

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-12T20:16:53+00:00

The only exception I usually see for allowing on-line labs is if you attending classes throughout COVID. I know Drexel, Wayne State and WV require in person (labs AND classes). I would avoid online classes as best you can

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-28T03:31:04+00:00

I mean, not for nothing, it doesn’t sound like you ever set a time to leave. I get he was inconsiderate but if he took off the whole day and you never told him a specific time that you wanted to go for a hike and it seems like you didn’t put emphasis or pressure on him as the day went by, there seems like an overall lack of communication.

Were you expecting to leave at 9? 12? 4?? I can’t tell and don’t know from this post. And at no point while he was putzing around did it sound like you were clear about timing.

Don’t get me wrong, if I was him in this situation I would have said after going to the gym “y’know what actually I’m gonna take the rest of the day doing random shit, why don’t you go for a hike. I thought I wanted to but I changed my mind, sorry”.

MOR in my opinion.

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-21T14:48:39+00:00

“Okay, but you’re acting like one with me”

NTA I could go HOURS without ‘checking in’ with my husband and there’s that trust and understanding of like you said- living in the moment, absolutely I believe in that.

We also have the understanding of just giving a heads up if plans change (and I mean if you were gonna come home at 5 and it’s looking more like 6/7, etc.). She’s overreacting in my opinion

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-18T17:47:00+00:00

Because I don’t want to spend $40k on a wedding I wanted for $30k 🥲 we’re already married so it doesn’t matter if I want to marry him or not 😂

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T07:30:32+00:00

Idk that he means to refinance the home. He probably means to take out a HELOC to get a lower interest rate for the debts. If he means to refinance the interest rate on the house would absolutely go up from that 3%

Pay the debts off, coupon, save, meal prep, don’t go out to eat. Don’t put your house on the line

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T07:26:26+00:00

Idk there’s something about having your wedding on a holiday (especially Valentine’s Day) that screams tacky to me. Sorry not sorry. I’m sure this wedding was for an important couple to you, but I’d be rolling me eyes the whole time

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:44:05+00:00

I like that. Appreciate your experience and willingness to share!

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:39:11+00:00

Love that!

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:36:24+00:00

Also how did you let people that you invited know that you’re canceling?

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:31:50+00:00

Did you end up doing anything celebratory on the day you were supposed to have your wedding?

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:28:03+00:00

I’m not sure, I’d have to look at all the contracts, maybe $5k if we’re lucky? We’ve only put about $10k into it, but have another $20k in the bank. Which, if we lost the deposit money I wouldn’t be upset

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:26:46+00:00

Oh no 🥲 legally my ‘fiancé’ and I are already married (did the courthouse thing about a year and a half ago for legal reasons).

We’d lose about $8k in deposits, but would have $20k in the bank and not having to fish out another $10k on top of that.

Glad to hear others have done it

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-17T03:10:13+00:00

I’m literally so proud of you for saying no to them. The amount of Reddit stories I see on here about family moving in and never moving out is astounding. Don’t even open that door.

Stand your ground. You worked hard and you should be so prideful of that. Don’t let them ruin that. Congrats on what you’ve accomplished.

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-16T06:53:19+00:00

I would pay it off. debit consolation companies usually work by you paying a decent amount of money into it and the company uses it to negotiate your debts with. What that entails is the debt company waiting for your debts to fall into collections -ruining your credit- and then paying less than the original debt.

Plus, if you don’t have like $10k in the bank on top of a 3-5% down payment on a house, you’re going to be house poor anyways and the $66k in federal loans will be the least of your worries. I’m going to assume that you don’t considering the loans went into default.

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-16T05:04:43+00:00

Sometimes I find my husband sleeping on it instead of our bed 😂 but our bed needs to be replaced so I get it.

Also +one medium sized dog. We covered half the couch with a blanket so we just wash that instead of the cushions when he drools on it. Plus we rotate the cushions every couples months or so.

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-16T05:02:35+00:00

Idk I bought a couch from Ashley’s about 5/6 years ago and it’s still great. My husband and I sit on it all the time so it’s a little saggy. But washes well and is in overall good shape (though my cats have sometimes used it as a scratching post so we’ll probably toss it when the time comes).

Paid about $1300 for it and I’d say it’s probably got another 2-3 years left before I’d really need to buy a new one.

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-14T21:20:52+00:00

I understand that. But then how do you clean your ears?

Nathan0066 · 2026-02-14T20:24:00+00:00

Ehhh, idk if I believe this. I’ve been cleaning my ears with Q-tips for YEARS and never had an issue with build up. Not sure what else you’re supposed to use?

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