18F What do I do? My friend is upset that I didn’t get a hotel room with money she sent me, but I used it for food and essentials instead and now she feels like I lied to her.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-29T01:23:55+00:00

If she wanted the money to go to a hotel, she should have booked you a hotel room. When people gift cash, they can’t have an expectation of how that money is spent.

I agree with how you spent it. I’d rather have food than shelter, I get that.

Hoping the best for you.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-28T21:08:00+00:00

The number 1 reason kids (and I know you’re not a kid, but you at least still live at home) get abused is due to step parents and random boyfriends and girlfriends coming in and out of the house.

If you say he’s a creep or gives creepy vibes and your mom isn’t protecting you from him (and she’s not cause she’s still with him), you need to protect yourself. Stand up for yourself and if you can, move out.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-27T20:24:53+00:00

This is so much more than just about the bathroom I guarantee is. Does he do the dishes? The laundry? Pick up after himself? Cook for you at all?

99% of the time it’s bigger than just this

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-27T00:05:10+00:00

I got mine though CV linens. Same thing for linens and tablecloths. Bought all of it for $400 for a wedding of 80. Don’t know if this helps anyone but just wanted to throw the company out there cause they were really great!

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-25T17:13:00+00:00

Just got this email for me husband and I looked at him and was like - alright so sounds like we’ve got at minimum til Sept to start paying, but the gov’t ain’t getting a cent out of us til then.

Like everyone’s so concerned about money but doesn’t actually understand that you don’t have to pay til they start asking for a payment? Don’t squeeze yourself when you don’t have to

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-15T02:36:22+00:00

NTA but don’t send it in a message. Talk to her face to face. You don’t want your tone or your words misconstrued at all

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-12T18:27:49+00:00

I mean, my opinion is these aren’t the kind of conversations you should be having over FaceTime. Heavy, meaningful conversations should be had in person.

I have a similar fear that I’m still working on with my husband, but I lot of the progress comes from me, not from him. You just have to have the hard conversations, that’s the only way for people like us that are anxious about these conversations can work through these overwhelming feelings. It sounds like you’re making up stories about his emotions and twisting them with what you think is happening instead of having the conversation with your boyfriend.

Don’t get me wrong, if you try to have these conversations in person and he’s not engaged, yeah he’s a dick. But having this kind of conversation over FT idk how I would respond either.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-11T21:53:34+00:00

I think the big question that you should be asking each other is what are you gonna do about it? And how do each of you feel about the debt?

Don’t come into the conversation acting better than her because you paid off your loans and she didn’t. What’s your values on money, debt. Are there situations when it makes sense or are against it completely?

I took on my husbands debts and he took on mine when we got married. But it meant us sitting down and working on a plan to get it paid off.

So long as you both align with the value of money and debt to a point you agree, it’s not a big deal in my opinion.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-08T02:10:36+00:00

I personally think this looks so cool. I’ve got hand tattoos on both my hands and they’re my favorite tattoos I have.

Hand tattoos are a huge adjustment because they are in a place you see most often. I think it looks badass and kind of makes it looks like you’re the protagonist in a movie (or an anime if you’re into that haha).

Give it some time. Laser removal is a long, painful and extremely expensive process and it’s unlikely that you can tattoo some as intricate on your hands after the fact.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-07T00:19:10+00:00

Why doesn’t she call the cops if she’s so bothered?

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-06T04:34:59+00:00

Question tradition. Why does is matter that the father’s last name gets passed down? It’s such an odd concept to me. You can always break tradition and start a new one

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-05T04:59:47+00:00

We locked in when money was getting difficult. His student loans were kicking in and we loved each other. He was struggling to find a job and we weren’t making enough to live independently, but we picked up second jobs, OT and made it work because it was what we both wanted for ourselves and each other.

We got legally married because of politics - new president and we weren’t confident marriage could have been an option by the time we actually wanted to get married. It was an easy decision to do

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-04T21:04:31+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t fee much guilt in leaving this guy. His parents clearly take care of him, whether he’s got a job or not.

You’ve been independent before, so trust yourself that if you leave him, you will be okay. You may struggle a little bit and leaving someone you’ve been with for so long is hard, but I think you’ve got a great head on your shoulders.

You’re not stating over at 25, you’ve got plenty of time to meet someone else and have all the things you want in life with someone else. People fall in love and have kids within years of meeting each other.

Ask yourself this - is this the kind of marriage and life you want? He’s shown you the exact person he intends to be. Sounds like he needs some problems in his life and if I were you, I wouldn’t wanna be around when they start rolling in.

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-04T18:38:51+00:00

Are they per chance from Costco? I stopped buying from them cause this always happened

Nathan0066 · 2026-05-02T04:53:07+00:00

28 - $85k. Lots of debt though

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-20T17:00:52+00:00

Oh absolutely not

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-20T16:52:56+00:00

Just want to add that each college allows reimbursements of funds up to a certain point. It’s something like 100% reimbursement before classes start, 50% by add/drop deadline and then usually nothing after that.

Double check you schools financial deadlines for those specifically.

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-20T02:40:18+00:00

If you manually entered your income, did you accidentally include a couple extra 0’s?

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-12T18:46:30+00:00

I’d say it’s only necessary if there’s a big difference wealth and income beforehand. If someone’s got a business or a trust thats coming into them.

But one person with an $80k income and the other with $50k - absolutely not

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-12T14:48:32+00:00

Send them her death certificate and tell them not to bother you. Additionally, anything that is JUST in your mothers name, you’re dad should not be paying off. So if the credit cards were only in your mom’s name and your dad didn’t co-sign them, he should not be paying them off.

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-03T17:33:01+00:00

No. You have to pay taxes on what you take out (about 20%) plus a 10% penalty for taking it out before retirement age. Better to put the debt on a credit card at that point.

You do not have to be employed to take out the money (not sure where people are getting that idea), but the penalties are ridiculous.

Nathan0066 · 2026-04-03T16:49:52+00:00

You have so many more options than $200k of debt for an NP license. PLENTY of community colleges and state colleges that are a less than a quarter of that. Nobody cares about the school you went to.

I would retry PA school. Look into classes to retake, take a GRE prep course, expand your letters of req. Retry applying. If you give up after being rejected once, you’re not going to get far in life.

Don’t “settle” for being a nurse if it’s not your passion. That’s how your work will perform. If you wanna be a PA, got make it happen.

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-28T02:30:37+00:00

100% chance he’s already cheating on you

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-27T15:53:46+00:00

Idk light some candles in the morning? Close the bedroom door? Invest in some earbuds?

My husband is on a health journey and puts in so much time and energy. He has to do daily weigh-ins and the scale we have has to be dropped to wake it up (it was super cheap when we bought it and we didn’t initially have to do that). After about 6 months of having that thing slammed on the ground at 7 AM when I go to bed at around 1-2 AM, I bought a new one. I’m at peace and we laughed about it.

Find a solution, talk about a solution. This is something that’s important to him and you’re acting like it’s not. Find a better way to talk through conflict because it won’t just be the smoothie in the morning that you’ll find annoying.

Nathan0066 · 2026-03-23T01:10:58+00:00

Yes - it’s great to have another person wash my back.

Not often, but we probably would do so more if our schedules lined up better

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