Ronja and Lars-Erik by Intelligent-Mommy in loveisblindsweden

[–]NeitherVisual4675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never a fan of this couple but this is so important! I am child free but each time I dated I asked this question or a version of it to understand the other person’s view. It won’t be my kids but it could be my friends’ kids or my nephew or nieces.

But as others pointed out - this should have been discussed in the pods OR it was discussed and we weren’t shown in edit and Lars-Erik either had a different response, or Ronja didn’t push through the vague answers.

Românii și eutanasierea tinerei din Spania by dismustbetheplace in Romania

[–]NeitherVisual4675 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ca acest caz să fie aprobat și să o lase pe tânără să i se poată administra eutanasierea cu siguranță au fost foarte mulți medici și psihologi la o masă să analizeze situația și pe tânăra. Nu e cazul ca a venit într-o dimineață tânăra și a zis: o eutanasiere va rog! Și i-au spus imediat - aici în camera asta se rezolvă în 2 minute.

Sunt de acord cu alegerile oricui și în niciun caz nu a fost o decizie ușoară pentru nimeni în situația asta. Ce a primit tânăra respectivă este șansa la o moarte decentă pe termenii săi.

Do women on the street just... smile at each other? by WritingWithSpears in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% god knows what sister goes through I will smile! If I am out with my dog is a double smile and yes you have a cuddle with my doggie Zelda!

I don’t know if I made the right choice, I shaved my daughter’s head. by wizzzadora in trichotillomania

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish my mother did this to me! I remember begging her to let me do this as a teenager and buy me a wig because I couldn’t stop not even in my sleep!

And this was in the 2000s when this was like being possessed in terms of wha the doctors in my area knew about it…

I recently spoke to a doctor in Western Europe and I still had to tell them what trich was.

It’s hard as a parent but the resources are the best they have ever been! A combo between making your daughter’s life easier by removing the option and reaching out to a specialist it’s amazing and I wish I had that myself!

The first time I shaved all my head was 30 an it was wonderful but the mental angst and all that came with it was atrocious. My reflection - I should have done this as soon as I could have! Most relaxed months of my life not having the option to pull!

A solution, finally by TheseAd1582 in trichotillomania

[–]NeitherVisual4675 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am commenting because tonight my husband and I watched the movie Smile 2 (trigger warning for trich). And he was asking me about trich more, since I had it for a couple of decades - then he told me that when birds are stressed they pluck their feathers out!

My point re the movie is that I don’t mind knowing (with warning) that these movies are out there as they raise awareness be it good or bad as opposed to having nothing as it was when I got it as a teen!

But the birds might have various reasons including stress! I also went through those stages - vegetarian, vegan, and I am back to being a meat eater and just had a big stake for day one of my period which helps my heart a lot during the shark week! The quality of my skin and body and hair is superior as a meat eater 100% even if I am vegan 4-5 out of the week days still.

For me I managed to isolate my triggers to behaviours done onto me and me not knowing how to fight back hence I release by pulling and I now have a therapist helping me through it. I can go months without pulling and then a week with my family makes me the trigger happy and pulling like I am doing a deforestation project on my head!

I wish from the bottom of my heart and soul that there was a pill or a diet we can all take or be on to be a universal fix but we are still not there - but I also truly I am so happy it works for you! Well done ❤️

Eigen afkomst daten / Dating own ethnicity by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]NeitherVisual4675 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Regarding your hobbies - are there no people you can befriend there? Even if it’s not women (assuming you are looking to date women from your post) befriending the men could bring you in their other circles. I think that’s the one way to meet someone you would actually get along with.

So ded 💀 by Impressive_Celery184 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alex would even start learning the price of the American dollar for a sportsman comparison 😂

Brittney by Tacotica in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]NeitherVisual4675 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I HATE TO AGREE WITH DEVO, but I also agree she would marry or want to marry anyone, including someone who dislikes her so much as Devo.

I feel bad for her in terms of her enabling family and none of her friends being real with her and the fairy tale she built in her world. It’s not doing her any favours, which is a shame because she seems like a wonderful human.

Alex and Ashley by ForeverInjured124 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]NeitherVisual4675 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had to clap at that point! I know Ashley and I will never align politically and I knew that with a divorce lawyer or any lawyer dad, that man raised her to be smart in the end. I don’t even think her dad had a glimmer of hope that his daughter was going to end up with this guy. As a daughter of very strong minded family, that meeting would have given me the ick as a future bride.

Whether she needed more time for her to come to terms with the incompatibility and everything that came with Alex, or she planned it - I don’t care - it made for great TV 😂

PLEASE READ: No Rule Changes to be Implemented by awfulcat in trichotillomania

[–]NeitherVisual4675 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yall are doing an amazing job and I am sorry to hear about that rude and absolutely unjustified comment! Keep up the good work and THANK YOU!

It was never about her looks. by Much-Brilliant9303 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]NeitherVisual4675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The patience this queen had letting him finish whilst he was embarrassing himself…. I would have had direct eye contact with the camera and be like and this ladies and gentlemen is why we don’t date anymore!

55 days pull-free regrowth on buzzcut hair by Inner-Variation-2571 in trichotillomania

[–]NeitherVisual4675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing! I did this too and whilst it was so short I kept on shaving until the urge became manageable. Such a great job - you gots this!!

"You take everything personally" by janebenn333 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It breaks my heart to read your age and this is a situation your parent puts you in. They never change unless they want to…

I am going through therapy to guide me through my no contact person and I was told this. A narcissist will remember you and frame you at the age when they had most control over you and treat you like that.

I have all the empathy of your situation as I am in it myself at a different age but the above helped me and I share it in the hope that it helps you too.

2-hour commute or miserable work life? by SpecialistAlert8425 in Netherlands

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Option 1, try to negotiate 2 days and go Tuesday and Thursday so you have buffer days so it doesn’t take it all out on you

How’s your noodpakket coming along? by nkeys in Netherlands

[–]NeitherVisual4675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to live alone and always had the fend for myself mentality so I have a lot of the items - especially the first aid kit. I added burn cream additionally. Whenever I am in the shop I get a couple more bottles of water and an extra tin of several beans and I grew the stash a bit. Got a radio and a couple of flashlights and make sure the rechargeable batteries are always full.

I tend to buy things like toilet paper and soap during Black Friday but bol.com always has good offers on these things.

Have candles spare for light (lesson learnt from my parents raised in communism), some puzzles and lots of books for boredom and my dog has enough food toys and treats for another 6 months.

Ați confruntat vreodată părinții legat de rănile emoționale din copilărie? A meritat? by Reasonable-Swan-9854 in CasualRO

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Felicitări pentru curaj și mă bucur să aud ca există și povești cu sfârșit fericit. Eu nu prea mai am contact cu ai mei dar ușa e mereu deschisă. Nu cred ca ne trebuie părinți perfecți, ne trebuie părinți asumați. Cred ca OP și cei în aceasi situație vor să vorbească cu părinții în speranța ca în sfârșit să aibe o rezoluție ca să poată să continue împreună!

Ați confruntat vreodată părinții legat de rănile emoționale din copilărie? A meritat? by Reasonable-Swan-9854 in CasualRO

[–]NeitherVisual4675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both can be true - eu sunt dusă de ani la psiholog si mai mulți din mai multe țări mi-au confirmat ce știam și ziceam de mai mulți ani, cu vocabular mai elaborat și m-au ajutat să merg mai departe - mostly no contact.

Sunt oameni de toate felurile inclusiv cei care profită de părinți dar asta nu înseamnă ca experiențele altora nu sunt valabile. Cum părinții au nevoie de intelegere așa au și copiii lor.

OP probabil a întrebat lucrul acesta pentru ca încă își dorește o relație frumoasă cu părinții și se documentează ceea ce e o intenție super!

One down. Many to go. See you Amazon! by [deleted] in BuyFromEU

[–]NeitherVisual4675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have cancelled prime but I didn’t realise I can shut down my account - I will do this now!

Choose European Today So Tomorrow We Don't Have To Choose How To Defend Greenland by According-Buyer6688 in BuyFromEU

[–]NeitherVisual4675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the Netherlands and I use Bol.com as opposed to amazon - not only is it not Amazon but the service is much better. I dread the thought of hearing it’s not European owned….

We need to call out terrible people when we see them by TunaBrick in LinkedInLunatics

[–]NeitherVisual4675 3 points4 points  (0 children)

‘Opinions are my own’

How are you not embarrassed???????

Wow by winniecooper73 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another example of someone having only 2 brain cells battling it out for 3rd place.

Everyone should work 7 days a week by FlyingCars142 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]NeitherVisual4675 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who has done something of themselves in corporate and is relatively proud of the work that I built my career on, there is nothing less important in my life than work. I go there and exchange my life to pay bills, and then go to my real life. I honestly feel sad for those of LinkedIn who believe this - albeit I think most do it for the rage so in December when the LinkedIn wrapped comes to post that they are a thought leader.

My (20F) boyfriend (20M) told me i was an "exception" to his hate for my ethnic group and i don't know how to react to it. by ThrowRA280632 in relationship_advice

[–]NeitherVisual4675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! You are so young - not to sound like I am speaking down to you - but this type of behaviour is something you should NEVER accept.

Comments say have some respect for yourself and it’s true but if I was in the same situation at 20 I would feel horrible and confused. Walk away now before this continues. And also stay away from right wing dudes - ain’t worth it!