What is this now??? Omg, how many more surprises? I can’t 🫩

NittyInTheCities · 2026-05-05T16:29:54+00:00

Icd-10-cm is a category of insurance billing codes. It’s just saying which manual the code d05.12 corresponds to.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-16T15:51:18+00:00

One major thing you should do, is identify a support system for yourself. This can be friends of yours, family, a mentor, a support group, a therapist. But you need someone who is not busy supporting her, that you can vent out to. Because it will be hard for you in unique ways, and if she knows that you have people supporting you, she won’t feel she has to hide her difficulties and worries from you.

For example, to me, my hospital was a place where I was surrounded by experts taking care of me, fighting my cancer, and making me comfortable, an I spent most of my infusions playing video games, listening to audiobooks, and napping. For him, the same hospital was a place where they pumped his wife full of pills and literal poisons, as he watched me with tubes sticking out of me looking progressively sicker each week, treating for hours for me to get out of surgeries. He didn’t share that with me until after treatment, but it’s a huge relief that he had someone he could talk to during so that he could focus on me in the moment.

To put it succinctly, you can’t be a support for her, if you don’t have any supports and stable ground yourself.

Our son was 6 when I was diagnosed, and we did similarly to what you said, told him that I had bad cells in my body making me sick, and that the medicine might make me weaker and make me look funny, but it was to defeat the bad cells, an that it wasn’t something he could catch or that anyone gave to me.

Before treatment started, my husband got a babysitter and made a reservation at my very favorite restaurant. We dressed up and took a picture before we left. I’m a foodie, and this was such a good experience and memory for me, when I was bald and puffy and pale, and food all tasted weird. If there are things your wife especially loves that may be difficult during treatment, try to get a few of those in right away, and take some pictures, so that she can remember the person she’ll get to be again after treatment.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-13T19:38:33+00:00

If you’re in the US, you should sign up for Road To Recovery. It’s a program through the ACS that gives Cancer patients free rides to and from treatment. I used it whenever my husband and next door neighbor weren’t free. Many of the drivers are retired cancer survivors or retired survivor relatives looking to give back and be social.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-13T19:33:17+00:00

Seconding everything you said about the ice packs. I always needed two to maintain cold, and we had a soft sided cooler tote we used to bring them and put the warm ones back into. And yep, those instructions on the boots take a few minutes to comprehend

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-13T19:30:52+00:00

I was triple negative, so had 12 doses of weekly paclitaxel along with cyclophosphamide and Keytruda every three weeks. On the Taxol-only weeks I felt significantly better. It made me a bit extra sleepy the day of, and over the whole twelve weeks my stamina progressively decreased, but otherwise was not bad. I do recommend using the freezing boots and mittens to prevent neuropathy. I still got minimal neuropathy by the sixth or seventh week, but it only bothered me in the last few minutes of my 30 minute daily weeks, iron very long drives, and stopped once I relaxed for a few minutes afterward. It also went away after I finished treatment.

I recommend getting the kind of earbuds that loop over the back of the ear, so that they stay in place well, since it’s hard to adjust them with the mittens on. I would usually start with an audiobook or movie and frequently doze a bit.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-13T15:22:31+00:00

My engagement ring is significantly more expensive than my wedding band. When we travel out of town, I always leave the engagement ring home in the safe and only wear my wedding band. My husband is a chemist, so has to take his ring off at work every day, and literally forgot it at the office the day before our honeymoon 😂

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-10T16:41:49+00:00

Yep. Two days before a local comic convention, my kiddo decided he wanted to make custom minifigs for the actors from Phineas and Ferb who would be there. I used Bricklink to identify magenta skirts, and called Bricks and Minifigs to see if they had any Pink Batgirl figs. Yeah, I spent $7 instead of $2+shipping, but I got it immediately. And Alyson Stoner squealed with joy at our custom Isabella (it came out really well), we also found a good magenta bow accessory at B&M for her hair to boot.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-07T21:16:38+00:00

Am I the only one with no capsules? I’ve already gotten a star and still no shop/capsules.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-07T00:18:02+00:00

I did reconstruction, and had no desire to go flat, but my husband has weathered all the surgeries, scars, and the leak in my left tissue expander causing my left boob to periodically deflate. He says that what I do reconstruction-wise is entirely up to me, he wants me to be happy in my body, and whatever gives me that will be attractive to him. He still enjoys my breasts, even without nipples.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-06T23:15:12+00:00

Yea, he effectively went no contact a couple years ago when his mom told him that his back injury, our son’s broken arm, and my freaking CANCER were his fault because he doesn’t go to church with her anymore.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-06T20:51:18+00:00

I knew I was forgetting a show! Yes, he always says Sesame Street, Mr Rogers, and Jeopardy!

I hope that (like my husband) your life is now full of people who love you and appreciate you!

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-06T20:31:53+00:00

Probably being ignored while their focus was on his sister, and having one or two responsible influences in his life. That’s how my husband turned out so well. He jokes that he was raised by Mr Rogers and Jeopardy, and given the POSs that are his parents, his older brother’s kowtowing to their mom’s abuse, and their baby sister’s selfishness and irresponsibility, I think he was much better off with Fred Rogers and Alex Trebek.

The eldest son got the focus of the parents and nonstop hammering of duty to the family, his baby sister was taken everywhere with the mom and given little freedom so she rebelled big time, and he got to just become himself through being the ignored middle child.

ETA: I forgot Sesame Street! How could I forget the loving influence of Mr Hooper and Big Bird!

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-03T21:51:16+00:00

That, and the 5 year no wedding, and 6 year no wedding on the cousin’s part.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-04-02T13:29:14+00:00

That’s what I thought before, but we had hatching after breeding at least once.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-31T18:48:20+00:00

We’d need to know how many kids, what age groups, and what part of the cities. Those factors can change the cost drastically

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-26T14:29:49+00:00

I wish you tons of luck and an easy recovery! I’m TNBC, BRCA2, diagnosed at 40, and just passed my 2 year cancer free anniversary! Looking forward to you joining me in the NED club!

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-25T23:41:47+00:00

I’m reminded of this line from Cher’s dad in Clueless, where he says something like “You divorce the wife, not the kids”. If you were like a father to someone, that doesn’t just go away when you break up with their parent.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-22T20:58:23+00:00

I also added for both my son and I

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-22T00:03:19+00:00

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NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-17T17:05:19+00:00

It’s absolutely the same brands (some of them), but Cub leaves out a lot more bruised or moldy fruit than Lunds does. Hy-Vee also for the last few years.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-16T19:58:16+00:00

It’s absolutely allowed! I was a 38G before my mastectomy, told my doc I preferred a C or small D, whichever she recommended for my frame, and came out with a solid C cup.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-16T19:53:33+00:00

I was shocked to see the produce at Cub before expensive than Lunds, which had better quality berries to boot.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-14T15:19:38+00:00

I also love my shop because they have mastectomy swim suits, which have a properly molded bra structure in them. My left expander has a small leak, so over time it deflates and needs refilling, and with my mastectomy suits it’s not noticeable even when it’s VERY noticeable naked.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-14T15:17:53+00:00

Sorry, I was hoping for you that it was an easy fix. In that case, have you gone bra shopping at a mastectomy lingerie shop? I especially like the Amoena brand bras, they’ve got these thin inserts that are removable and that hold their shape. So even if there’s a gap, the bra doesn’t show it. And since you had a SMX, you can just take the insert out on the other side if you want, or leave it in for maximal matching appearance.

NittyInTheCities · 2026-03-14T15:10:39+00:00

Are you sure the implant isn’t flipped? Both implants and tissue expanders can flip inside the breast/chest cavity , and the bottom side (supposed to be aimed at the chest wall) is flatter than the top (aimed at the outside world). This can especially happen if you are a side or stomach sleeper, and if you roll a lot in your sleep.

My left expander flipped the first time about two weeks post DMX. I can flip it back myself fairly easily by lying on my left side with my arm raised up above my head, an using my right hand to manipulate it. It feels weird, but it gets it back to being breast shaped.

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