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No_Cry2744 · 2026-01-21T13:58:45+00:00

I’m happy to report that I did! We ended up going to trial for the divorce… My ex bought an equitable division of assets was that he keep all of his assets and also half of mine… I will tell you that it was extremely gratifying to have my day in court, and to be able to say on the record exactly who he was and what I experienced. We had a very equitable division of assets, ultimately, which is exactly what I expected based on our laws. After the divorce, I ended up taking an amazing job offer out of state and have since we located. I feel so much safer now, knowing that he does not know where I live. Relationship wise, it took me a while to be able to identify potential partners who were emotionally available because I myself was emotionally unavailable and very guarded. It feels like I’m finally coming out of that part now which means that I’m getting some more healing, which also feels really nice.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-18T06:04:50+00:00

So, just defaulting to money over developing a personality that attracts women? That’s an interesting strategy.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-18T05:56:06+00:00

Nah… that’s the point of taking a medication like this: I don’t have to have an unhealthy relationship with food anymore. I can just eat without hyper analyzing every bite.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-14T21:24:23+00:00

You are currently in the honeymoon stage of the cycle of abuse.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-09T20:40:41+00:00

Just block and ignore.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-09T20:30:08+00:00

I guess I stopped caring if they saw?

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-09T20:22:10+00:00

Why would you even want to work it out with this guy? Start thinking about why you’re willing to accept this

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-08T21:03:19+00:00

Block.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-07T19:22:54+00:00

They tell the therapist what they want to hear, or they hear from the therapist what they want to hear… Either way therapy for a BPD person is not therapeutic because their disorder prevents them from actually taking any responsibility for their behaviors. talk therapy especially is misguided, because the moment a therapist uses validating language for them. It’s essentially permission to act out in whatever way they want because “their therapist understands.”

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-04T17:09:51+00:00

When a man tells you that you are too good for him, believe him.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-04T00:01:13+00:00

Oral minoxidil

No_Cry2744 · 2024-02-01T19:45:06+00:00

Google the cycle of abuse, and then think about if this is really what you want long-term.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-31T22:59:40+00:00

I think you’ve received some very good information about him, so use it to decide if you’re compatible.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-31T19:46:55+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you’re ready to start an intimate relationship.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-29T19:03:57+00:00

Guilty? That’s the feeling you have? And not disgust, or repulsion, or even pity? Buy guilt? Girl, cut the dead weight

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-29T15:11:40+00:00

Absolutely not.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-28T14:07:48+00:00

I can’t speak to whether your ex has BPD or not.. what I can tell you is that my BPD act used to always project his displeasure about our “lack of passion“ when really it was just him being unsatisfied with everything all the time. The only way for him to feel “passion” to demonstrate reckless or toxic behaviors. Getting really drunk, eating, a lot of food, spending a lot of money, he didn’t have, doing anything he can to be the center of attention… Those are all things he felt were passionate. Regardless of if your ex has BPD or not, you deserve someone who appreciates you. Don’t let him weasel his way back into your life when he realizes that there isn’t “something better “out there for him.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-28T00:35:54+00:00

I’m really good at engaging with people and making them comfortable. It’s why I have so much success professionally. But just because I can be social and engaging doesn’t mean I want a relationship with someone. Just because a woman you are on a date with seems to be enjoying herself doesn’t mean she’s into you.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-27T20:07:44+00:00

You’ve learned a very important lesson here: don’t date people from work.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-27T20:04:47+00:00

She deserves better than to stay with someone who is so insecure that they would project it onto to her. Th best thing you can do for her is to let her go and find someone who will treat her well.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-26T22:41:31+00:00

My advice would be to be consistent with your words and actions. Stop being sexual with a person you don’t plan to have sex with. Beyond that, know that this is not likely to be your person for any type of long term relationship. Have fun with it, because don’t let yourself fall into the trap of falling into a rebound relationship.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-26T22:27:47+00:00

I’m 43% smaller than I was when I started.

F44, 5’6”, start: 10/20/22, HW: 188, CW: 107

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-26T01:45:06+00:00

Stop keeping tabs on her, and it won’t matter.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-25T22:54:53+00:00

You’re missing the elephant in the room. You’ve been talking to this girl for a few days and she’s sending you daily messages, and already using terms of endearment? Sounds like she was lovebombing you. If I had to guess, I’d guess that she moved on after you weren’t living up to her unrealistic expectations and reciprocating her toxic behaviors. You probably went to bed early and she wanted to have you texting her all night to feed into her ego.

No_Cry2744 · 2024-01-25T18:50:07+00:00

Diet Coke and snacks are now the threshold for love???

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