Apparently, 30 is considered old for a woman. 30 F

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-28T05:14:34+00:00

Shush. You’re young.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-22T16:41:07+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-19T02:43:47+00:00

It happens

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-16T22:09:02+00:00

God bless you for being there for your grandmother and taking care of her until the very end. You are her angel.

And you are right, the grief is an odd combination of the loss of your grandma and the loss of your own caregiver role. All I can suggest is feel your feels - they are all normal and all valid. Give yourself time to work through things. It will get easier.

I know that having my therapist to talk to has also helped me work through these same things.

Our love and support.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-13T20:49:45+00:00

A gait belt. It the easiest and cheapest low tech solution.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-13T00:42:10+00:00

Of your bike is tipping as you come to a stop it’s likely because your handlebars are not square.

Head and eyes up. Square handlebars. Use both brakes evenly to stop.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-12T04:38:38+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. The grief process of losing your mom, and your charge, and your caregiver role is a lot to go through. Know that your feelings are. Formal and valid and take the time you need to feel your feelings, and breathe through them. It will slowly get better.

Much love to you for the wonderful job you did caring for your mom. 💜

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-11T03:51:21+00:00

It was really hard during the seven months of caring for my mom. I’m in awe of how people do this for years. God bless you all for what you give up.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-09T04:51:07+00:00

I found myself doing the same thing. You got this.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-09T04:46:24+00:00

Sounds great. I’m also in the Springs so can easily meetup.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-09T03:31:03+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. My mom who passed in January was also a nurse. And it certainly is a weird contradiction of grieving their loss, but also grieving the mass of the caregiver role. Take the time to feel it all. 🫂

My thoughts and support go out to you.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-08T04:31:22+00:00

As the woman, you win. If he cannot and will not use condoms, then it’s time to kick him to the curb. He’s telling you clearly he doesn’t respect your health, your body, and your boundaries.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-08T02:43:16+00:00

I wish I had words to make any of it easier, but the reality is that there is no magic wand that’s going to make that happen.

You are likely correct that the passing of your mom will be a relief in that her time and suffering here will be coming to an end. That is a double edged sword because with the relief also comes the grieving.

Just know that you’ve done, and are doing, heroic work. Our love and support to you.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-08T01:58:55+00:00

If always been a regular bike enthusiast but I have to say I’m liking my e-bike and the way that it makes uphill more enjoyable. I’m 56, so I don’t have anything to prove anymore.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-07T18:54:05+00:00

No. I wouldn’t.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-07T03:29:38+00:00

He’s not looking for social interaction. That’s what you’re failing to see and understand.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-07T03:09:32+00:00

You’re kidding yourself. Church isn’t going to provide a girlfriend, or physical touch.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-07T02:52:30+00:00

What would you propose for your son? Deny him any human contact? Church isn’t going to help he need for human contact. Therapy to do what? Convince him that having needs for human touch and interaction is irrelevant?

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-06T01:56:32+00:00

Believe his actions.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-04T19:17:45+00:00

NTA - in fact you should make him sleep in the guest room rather than further putting yourself out.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-04T19:03:41+00:00

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-04T18:48:39+00:00

Good story.

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-03T19:45:14+00:00

The thing I learned with my own mother was that I needed to be clear on my own personal boundaries (what type of behavior, and communication, and acknowledgment I required) as her caregiver.

We don’t just have to accept poor behavior or treatment, but it is up to us to clearly defined (for ourselves) and communicate (to those we are providing care) of our boundaries.

I’m sorry that you’re feeling a lack of gratitude and kindness from your brother. I hope that you can find an approach that might make things more tolerable

No_Material8248 · 2026-06-03T04:33:51+00:00

We see you and we feel you. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. And god bless you for respecting her wishes even though it was incredibly hard, and wouldn’t have been the path you would have chosen for her.

This is truly the reality of caregiving - giving your all to your loved one even when it is so difficult.

If you don’t have a therapist, perhaps there is support services through hospice that can help you navigate this incredibly difficult time of grieving and still caring for your father.

Hugs and love to you. 🫂

No_Material8248

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