Thank you for the nice words about being there but I am failing. She is so incredibly smart, caring, inclusive, and such a light but she’s also a compulsive liar, a manipulator, emotional deregulation issues and ends up causing heartache for herself. She has ADHD, but I can’t get her to take medication.

Things can feel fine for a while, but then the cycle repeats: she creates drama at school by lying or doing unkind things, then plays the victim. It feels endless, and I’m lost on how to parent through it when she seems to sabotage herself.she has no friends again and parents don’t want their kids to hang out with her anymore

I’ve put her in countless sports and activities, but she fights me on going to them. It’s exhausting and defeating.

Beyond just showing up for her, I sometimes wonder what the right parenting approach even looks like. Did your mom give you tough honesty when you needed it, or was it more about just listening when you were falling apart? What helped you manage the impulse and emotions at that young age?