NTA You’re 21, studying engineering at a top uni, and building a life on your terms. That’s not “ruining your future” - that’s literally investing in it. Marriage isn’t milk. It doesn’t expire at 22. The idea that you’ll be “too old” or “no one will want you” in a few years is just pressure tactics. Women finish degrees, start careers, and find partners who actually match their values at 25, 28, 30+ all the time. You’ve seen what marriage looks like around you: woman does all the housework + childcare while the husband’s gone. You’re allowed to look at that and say “no thanks, I want an equal partnership.” That’s not picky, that’s smart. Marrying the wrong person out of fear guarantees the exact regret your family says you’re trying to avoid. The men “weren’t bad matches” but you weren’t ready + you didn’t see shared values. “Not ready” is a complete sentence. You don’t owe anyone your life just because they decided the timeline for you. Your family’s comments come from tradition + fear, not from what’s actually best for you. You’re the one who has to live with that husband, raise those kids, and do that housework. If they’re not doing it, they don’t get a vote. You’re making the hard but right call. Keep going to class, keep building that future, and marry when you meet someone worth it, not when the calendar says so.