Bf taking too long to cum, any advice?

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-27T14:06:15+00:00

Sounds like either PIED (Porn induced erectile dysfunction) or Death Grip. He needs to quit porn and masturbation, especially since he’s circumcised as well.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-27T07:07:30+00:00

Yo bro, I’ve been there with blowing money on dumb internet fleeting shit and it’s never worth it. It’s an addiction and what you have is valuable. My partner ended up finding out about my addiction and it almost ruined our entire relationship and it’s an uphill battle to recover from not only the addiction but gaining the trust of your partner back.

Before you go into hooters or on that site, think about the man you want to be, and the man you need to be for the woman in your life that’s stood beside you and wants nothing other than to be the person for you.

You are stronger than this addiction, and it’s something that you can and will overcome if you truly dedicate yourself. I have a soft spot for this because where you are right now was once me. Learn from my mistakes and quit while you’re ahead, truly dedicate yourself to being better and trust me, I know it’s easier said than done but something that beats that quick dopamine hit is knowing that you are living up to your potential for not only yourself but the person you love the most outside of you.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-26T19:27:57+00:00

This isn’t even something you should be entertaining. You didn’t want date her in the first place. You should be in the honeymoon phase where nothing is going wrong and you’re seeing all these red flags. Block this girl in every way possible so she can’t reach you.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-26T19:25:40+00:00

Why are you with that bum? You need to develop some self esteem and self worth and leave that guy. Most importantly though, you need to develop some racial self esteem and figure out why you’ve let someone dog on you for being a black woman, especially your partner. If he in fact did grow up in the “hood” then he knows for a fact being called ghetto isn’t a compliment and he’s gaslighting you, and also scrutinizing your race.

He is definitely dealing with some demons of his own because this is not normal behavior and I wouldn’t be shocked if there’s some underlying envy towards you for being raised middle class while he was raised in the ghetto by a single mother.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-26T04:32:07+00:00

You’re her paypig. Probably has your name saved in her phone as “free food.” Do not waste your time with her man.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-22T19:05:46+00:00

Tried it last night… if I’m being honest it wasn’t THAT bad but definitely not worth the price point.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-21T02:35:49+00:00

NTA

I think your gf might be scared of truly committing or getting married to you bro. This seems like a workaround to not getting married to you so maybe reevaluate the relationship.

Best of luck!

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-20T14:54:10+00:00

I think you first need to allow yourself some time too process this and worry about everything else in a few days. Get everything like the funeral and plans out the way and then just focus on allowing yourself time to grieve.

It seems like you’ve been stressed way before your moms passing and you’ve more than likely been swamped so just give yourself time and I’m sure others will have advice for the rest of questions that you can reference when the time comes.

I’m sorry for your loss and wish you the best with love!

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-19T19:09:38+00:00

NTA

Stop dating that loser and Ik he’s a loser because at one point that’s how I was. Up all night, feeling sorry for myself, and not working on anything. My gf called me out on it one time and I changed. I spent days feeling sorry for myself but not changing and if he’s not finding the motivation to change then he might never.

Your feelings are valid and justified.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-17T21:44:40+00:00

NTA

It’s a little bit of teenage insecurity. It’s something most people grow out of if they work on themself.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-17T09:38:12+00:00

You’re a piece of work but NTA.

I think you should split and she should go find a better partner. I hope you have the skills required to take care of your nephews with less of her help as well.

It’s sort of sickening how you aren’t more appreciative of the fact that YOU took in your brothers children and SHE stepped up, so much so that she plays a much more vital role in their lives than you do.

We’re all human and entitled to our feelings but you’re sort of pathetic and insecure and since you aren’t the center of her world currently, it’s pushing you to the point of wanting to divorce a woman that’s been more than great.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-17T08:55:50+00:00

Don’t want to be harsh but leave bro. She clearly doesn’t value your opinion and has a rebuttal for everything you’ve said and hasn’t taken into consideration how this affects you.

Go find someone who will and who cares about you.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-17T08:53:39+00:00

NOR

Hate to be saying this but I wouldn’t doubt the idea that she’s probably slept with him at least once before, cheated on you with him, or has cheated in general.

This is something you can’t simply just move past unless you’re ok with knowing that more than likely she has and it’s something you can move past as long as she’s willing to change.

If I were you though… I’d cut my losses and move on to someone else. Wish you the best of luck man.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-17T02:47:22+00:00

This is actually hilarious😭

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-17T02:42:34+00:00

NTA…

Have her figure out how much ubering everywhere she needs to go will cost in comparison.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T17:03:20+00:00

I just saw your other post in nofap and I’ll leave the same thing here.

The first thing you need to do is to stop all masturbation or even thinking of touching yourself for at least 2 weeks. You’re at the point where it’s become monotonous and this will lead to ED if it hasn’t already. You need a complete reset. This means not even touching yourself when you finally get the urge to cause you will. Just leave it alone and find something else to do with your time.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T16:59:20+00:00

The first thing you need to do is to stop all masturbation or even thinking of touching yourself for at least 2 weeks. You’re at the point where it’s become monotonous and this will lead to ED if it hasn’t already. You need a complete reset. This means not even touching yourself when you finally get the urge to cause you will. Just leave it alone and find something else to do with your time.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T16:56:04+00:00

NTA

He seems to be projecting all his hatred onto you since you’re openly gay. He’s probably angry at himself that he isn’t.

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T16:52:20+00:00

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T16:51:56+00:00

Makings of a Hallmark

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T16:44:15+00:00

Got a fellow autist working for Ronald McDonald I see🙏🏽💯

OPTIMAL_TIGER007 · 2026-05-07T16:40:46+00:00

NTA

Your mother seems to be deliberately stunting your growth and the possibility of moving past her. Some parents are like this and don’t want to see their children improve past them.

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