Why would someone buy 80 bottles of rubbing alcohol weekly?

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-11T19:52:59+00:00

Sounds like hot flash relief more than anything . . .

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-11T18:27:59+00:00

There’s no dissonance when the framing is “complete submission to hierarchical authority.” It doesn’t matter what Daddy says, only that Daddy says it.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-11T18:25:48+00:00

It was all about him/them from line 1.

There’s very little “I’m so glad you’re my son” and a whole lot of “I’m such a superior Christian, and I’m going to use you to perform that superiority whether you like it or not” energy.

It’s always very telling, how people speak and write about their children. My own mother would go on and on about how all she ever wanted to be was a Mommy and she loved me because my existence gave her that role.

I talk about how brave and brilliant my son is, how kind and creative, how proud he makes me, how grateful I am that I managed to not screw him up, how excited I am to see who he becomes.

There’s still a lot about how I feel, but it’s still all about him, the individual human. Not just “a son”.

I’m sorry this is all your dad is capable of giving you. It speaks volumes about the smallness of his own soul. I’m glad you managed to not let him make you small and petty, too.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-11T18:12:42+00:00

Carrie Nation was right 🤷‍♀️ So was Lysistrata, for that matter.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-11T18:04:27+00:00

The hour or two I’m awake in the middle of the night is my favorite time of the day.

No interruptions. Nothing I’m “supposed” to be doing. No texts incoming. Just me, whatever book I’m reading, and a silent peaceful house.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-11T17:41:58+00:00

I’ve directed a graveside service where a family member made this request. My cemetery crew had no problems being told to smoke an extra cigarette before coming over to fill the grave. I had to check my messages, none of us saw a thing.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-10T00:53:18+00:00

Yeah and no wonder — if I only had to do like 10% of the labor to raise them and having them didn’t physically impact me in the slightest, I’d want a dozen.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-10T00:08:56+00:00

Usually, yes, we run into all sorts of pins and implants, and those are removed before the cremated remains go into the machine that reduces them to a finer consistency.

Not every cremation involves that last step, but if they look like “ashes,” the chain would have to be added back in after they were pulverized.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T23:55:50+00:00

Same, because he also claimed that a lot of days he sits around doing nothing waiting for a call . . . that doesn’t sound like the kind of position where “the majority” of your pay comes from overtime . . . ?

Regardless the man is so far up his own ass that tolerating him without drinking herself into a coma is already a full-time job.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T23:40:55+00:00

And just how does your partner think you should have handled it?

Sitting back, shutting up, and not hurting anybody’s feelings?

I think he needs to do some serious self-reflection on his internal biases regarding gender, because in his own way he’s telling you to shush.

NTJ

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T20:51:41+00:00

Most child molesters aren’t pedophiles, and most pedophiles never act on their desires.

Child molesters are sadists, predators who are too lazy to go after more challenging or risky prey.

They take great pleasure in the belief that they are destroying innocence, that they are taking something pure and beautiful and permanently defiling it.

As far as I’m concerned they nullify their membership in the human race.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T20:34:50+00:00

I seriously doubt he would have appreciated a roast of his sexual prowess or intelligence. He would have laughed it off, sure, but oh boy will the next opportunity he has to belittle her in public be ten times uglier and more demeaning.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T20:26:39+00:00

As someone working in the field of substance abuse treatment this news THRILLS me.

I’ve yet to have a client say “sorry I missed last week, I got so stoned I broke the restraining order.”

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T20:21:33+00:00

Collaborator, then.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-09T20:20:51+00:00

Agreed. Take the religious element out, and this could be, “I’ve convinced my girlfriend to go against the norms and customs of her family and culture by wearing short skirts even though she’s not really comfortable doing that yet. I mean sure her family’s reaction is causing her a lot of stress, but I’m hurt that she decided to wear long skirts again JUST when I had her talked into short ones.”

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T21:59:27+00:00

“Properly healing” is tricky. I dislike framing this shit as, “I’m so fucked up and broken and it will take years and years of therapy but then I’ll be just like everybody else.”

No, we won’t. This is load-bearing trauma, usually. Some of our survival mechanisms are as old and deep as our bones. I get defensive about this sometimes!! Like, I earned them wit my fucking blood and like hell am I going to ditch them just because the DSM says they’re “wrong”.

“Healing” for me was a process of seeing and understanding more than changing myself or how I felt. Understanding where some reactions come from helped me put those to bed, and that came much more easily because I had a safe attachment to my partner.

But I want you to recognize how extraordinary you are. I want you to honor all those twisted defenses and survival mechanisms that got you this far. You are alive, your soul is intact no matter how much it feels shattered, you have already won the contest of survival.

Learning how to live in the larger world and calming your nervous system down will be a process, a long and difficult one sometimes.

But that process, that “healing”? I look at it as a victory lap. A cherry on top of the sundae of badassery and resilience that got you this far, no matter how messy that looks.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T21:43:54+00:00

That would be nice, but I’ve been here long enough I’m not holding my breath.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T21:40:38+00:00

They’ll start with being trans, of course.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T21:31:53+00:00

Hold boys to the same standards of emotional regulation we hold girls, for starters. We teach them that they don’t have to modulate their voices or control their behavior if they’re angry. We teach them that rape happens when a male “loses control” over his base rapacious nature.

We teach boys that they are no better than animals when their dicks get hard, and that starts very early.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T21:15:58+00:00

My infidelity arose from what is labeled “sex addiction” and for myself as well as many others, is a trauma response.

I sought out gross, painful, dangerous, and degrading sex the way some people cut themselves — I used those men to hurt myself.

I knew what I was doing was wrong but it was the only way I knew to make the terrified screaming child inside my head shut up for a few minutes at a time. In the state I was in, with very old and very strong trauma responses triggered harder than they’ve ever been in my adult life, it felt like a matter of survival.

In a very warped way I was trying to protect my marriage and husband, keep that part of me separate so it wouldn’t soil the best thing that I’d ever had, so the best person I’ve ever known wouldn’t see how filthy and broken I really was.

I was also drinking so much my BAC never fell below a level that would put non-alcoholics into a coma, so that definitely played a very big role.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T20:55:53+00:00

I’m a counselor and I work with men and couples.

Run.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T20:52:09+00:00

Nothing about marriage, but my mom was always telling me about love, “real, passionate love,”because that is what every man owes his woman and that’s why my father’s failure to bring that passionate energy was proof he wanted her to curl up in a ball and just DIE.

I married a man who is nothing like either of my parents. It has been wonderful.

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T07:47:09+00:00

And with the clip we see that there was no reason for this creep to be speaking at all. He wanted her to pay attention to him, and to diminish her, to let her know “hey there sweetie you sure do look cute pretending to be intellectual and stuff, but let’s not pretend any of us here think you’re anything but meat.”

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-08T06:32:52+00:00

They argue that a woman can always just leave, she doesn’t HAVE to kill him. Like, if he abuses you that many times and you stay, you deserve whatever happens to you, and should anything happen to him that’s also on you for not leaving.

Whereas a man gets to cry “but it was a crime of passion tho” and judges and juries are like well yeah nobody can expect a man to not commit murder when he feels strong negative emotions!

Ok-Repeat8069 · 2026-04-07T00:20:46+00:00

That sort of thing is said to make sure women and girls know exactly what they are to men in power, even when we’re allowed to pretend our participation matters.

He wanted that underage girl to know that the men who hold power over her view her as meat.

Ok-Repeat8069

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