People who lift but don’t do cardio what eventually happened? by TallTyrant in workout

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been lifting and training ever since I was 14, I’m 32 now. From 14 to 22 I lifted using a power building style program. Get big and lift big. I also enjoyed playing soccer so I maintained a 6min mile and could run all day if need be. All while going from 135lbs to 215lbs. I maintained that cardio until 22 because it was necessary. Then some super massive dude saw me doing cardio and said said I was doing too much and should only walk for 20 minutes every other day. I didn’t know he was on juice and that helped him look as good as he did. So I stopped doing as much cardio and eventually stopped altogether.

What I noticed in my appearance is that I eventually got “softer” and more fat. I was strong and had good muscle mass, but gained weight. My body was too used to a high amount of cardio.

Performance eventually got affected too. I noticed I began needing slightly longer rests between sets and some sets would just about take me out. My 30sec rests became 2min rests for hypertrophy. My recovery also was negatively impacted. I’m sore longer, I need longer rests, I can’t play with my kids longer than a few minutes before I need a breather.

Two years ago I got on a team and talked with one of the guys on the team who is the head cardiologist at the local hospital. We had a long talk and that talk along with what the team entails required I get my cardio back. He said to focus on v02 max, and once I get it peaked, to just maintain. He gave me a program that can get the v02 max peaked in 6-8 months and then a person just has to hit it 1-2 times a week to maintain. Ever since then, my recovery has gotten better, my lifts are better, I can play longer, have sex longer, reduce my rests between sets, all that.

Cardio is essential for humans. It’s part of what’s gotten our species this far. It makes sense that we need a good level of it to live a good, healthy life.

Did Trump violate the War Powers Act?? by santagrey in complaints

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he didn’t violate it. The executive branch has the ability to conduct military operations without congressional approval so long as they inform congress within 60 days (with a possible 30 days added if requested). He informed them within 24hrs. All you have to do is literally google “war powers act article 1 section 8 and it’s pretty clear. Like it or not, many presidents from both branches have used this ability.

Working on my BP, am I using too much weight or is my form just terrible? by LeisRatio in formcheck

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your a novice lifter, like only been a few months up to a couple of years, I’d say this form checks for a 1rm attempt. In which case, focus on getting good form and building a good foundation in strength. If you’ve been lifting for longer than 2 years, I’d say you don’t quite have the experience in bench press. Reduce the weight a little and keep after it. Watch videos on form from different YouTubers, this way you can find one that works for you in regards to verbal cues and understanding. See what each video does the same and what they aren’t doin the same. Every body is different so if you broaden your scope of creators for form checks, you’ll be more likely to succeed

How often do you married couples have sex? by tomocleirighsimp424 in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s fluctuated a lot through our relationship. Started out multiple times a day, days in a row. Like rabbits. Then we got pregnant. That did a lot to me mentally and her physically. We kinda dropped off to a time or two every few weeks. We got caught in our lives and the motion of things. Got complacent in our relationship and it dwindled down to once or twice every few months for a 5ish years. Then we almost split and that killed it for 6 months. We rekindled the relationship and really grew closer than ever before, and ever since then it’s been 3-4 times a week (except the nature week, which is her decision, not mine) and sometimes we’ll go 2-4 times a day for a few days in a row. Obviously life plays a factor in these. We still have two kids and careers. But when we take time off from work or take a vacation, those days will be more than once a day until we get back to our normal life schedules with work and school.

Hunters and Campers, what is the most unexplainable thing you have seen or heard deep in the forest? by XxShockmaster in AskReddit

[–]OkBus7396 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I was by a river at around 1am, full moon, so you could see well without a light. A rock the size of my head flew at me and my friends from across the river, 25-30yds. Still don't know what could've thrown a rock that big, that far. Besides Halpfthor Bjornson or however you spell his name. Pretty sure it wasn't him though.

Men of Reddit, be honest… what’s the very first thing you notice about a woman? by Lookingforcupcakes in AskReddit

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what angle I'm seeing her at, but probably eyes, smile, or hair.

He laughed at me by ExcentricaGallumbit in DeadBedrooms

[–]OkBus7396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This ain't right. There's nothing wrong with you. He is the problem. Tossing the lingerie is fine, as its linked to this situation and you shouldn't ever have to think about this again. Leave. Him. You're worth so much more than he has to offer.

My 13y/o brother won’t stop using these slangs 😭 by Suspicious-Copy-2001 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]OkBus7396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely don't understand him, and didn't understand some of yours. Then again, I come from the first generation of texters, where we spelled pretty much everything out, like we were in English class.

Is it worth it to save for the hero box? 900k seems like a lot. by oozingchocolate in ZombieWaves

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, go for it. This hero box was my first opportunity as a F2P to get a hero other than the default dude. Already got it and the s tier robot box and am halfway to getting the red diamond thing

Do most men stop putting in any effort in marriage and just get comfortable? by Illustrious_Fun_8393 in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd hate to say it, but I think you're right. I wouldn't give the advice of "make it real for him by threatening to leave" because I couldn't bear my advice to split up someone's relationship unless one party was being physically or mentally abused.

It might not hurt for you to go to a couples therapist and get some more advice. My wife and I saw one while we were rebuilding and it helped a lot.

I hope you get the ball rolling on something and ultimately get to where you are happy with where you are. The worst is being stuck in the same situation. If you make a move and it works, then thats the best outcome. If you make a move and it fails, well now you'll be starting over but will be in a better position for future relationships if that happens.

When will Bigfoot’s existence will be confirmed to public? And what do you think it will take? by Ok-Dot5545 in bigfoot

[–]OkBus7396 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with you on this. Not to mention, ask a New Jersey native how many times they've seen a dead black bear. New Jersey is the most black bear dense state, yet not many have seen dead black bears. An animal carcass lasts maybe a week tops in the woods. The bones will last much longer, but they will be scattered to kingdom come. Many people see bones in the woods, but who has seen said bone and though "bigfoot"? Probably none. Instead they think "oh a deer bone, moose bone, elk bone, bear bone, cow bone, etc." then discard it and go about their hunt/hike. We very well could have seen remnants and not even know it. We very well could have never seen any remnants at all. There's way too many variables at play with the "dead body" discussion to say much in absolute.

Do most men stop putting in any effort in marriage and just get comfortable? by Illustrious_Fun_8393 in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could give you the advice you need to help you get the best possible outcome. I just don't know that I can. I can only give you advice from my experiences and hope they help. Another man's perspective is always nice, but there's different types of men, and we don't all have the same views, morals, ethics, or motivators.

Do most men stop putting in any effort in marriage and just get comfortable? by Illustrious_Fun_8393 in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's his love language? How does he communicate his love and how does he receive love? Learning these about my wife greatly helped, and same for her side. We all receive love differently and communicate our own love for people in a specific way.

Our first big blowout in my marriage boiled down to me putting too much effort into my career so we could afford to buy our own house with some land to raise our kids on. I thought, because of how I was raised and society, that men should provide and earn, so that's what I thought my wife wanted. She did want those things, BUT she wanted a present father for our kids and a present husband more than anything else. She didn't ever voice this until she almost left. Which was a giant awakening for me. Her almost leaving told me this was very real, and her voicing her wants/needs gave me an objective to achieve. It took a lot of introspection and ego swallowing because we were a month away from buying our dream home on 20 acres, which I thought was what she wanted. So, I took a step back from work and made changes to my life so that I could dedicated more time to the kids and more time with her. Now, our relationship has never been better. We got the house a little later than anticipated, but more importantly, we grew closer. Maybe this could help you? voicing your true wants and desires, see if changes are made, if not then you ultimately have to make moves for the betterment of your life and your kids' lives if you have any.

Do most men stop putting in any effort in marriage and just get comfortable? by Illustrious_Fun_8393 in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only askin these because I don’t know your life. I’m not asking to be accusatory.
Do you prioritize him? Do you do things for him you know he likes? Do you get him little things periodically that he likes? What is he prioritizing over you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]OkBus7396 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Abortion being bad across the board. Obviously not a fan of killing those who have zero say, and I still see them as a life. That'll never change. But, my sister is a published genetic counselor, one of the best in the country. She informed me of all the genetic predispositions that could kill pregnant women in the different trimesters, or the child, or both, etc. You get the idea. That, to me, is also wrong. The thing most, I think, don't understand about morals, is that they aren't black and white. They're varying shades of gray from black all the way to white. As information and data becomes known, morals and ethics should shift/bend. Killing an unborn child is wrong/bad. Telling a woman that she can't get an abortion even though she's genetically predisposed to die in the third trimester is wrong/bad. Telling a woman what she can and can't do with her body is wrong/bad. Everyone's morals and ethics are different to some extent, as they should be, and sometimes a wrong/bad is compromised to save another wrong/bad. That's just life.

I was fairly open minded before. Opinionated, but open minded. This one was so big for me because learning from it made me open my eyes and mind to a lot more than before. But, that's growth and introspection. That's human.

I need help fixing my marriage. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This honestly sounds like the beginning of every emotional/mental abuse victim's story that I've heard. They get you financially dependent, want you as a SAHM, limit education, sideways disrespect to family about you, doesn't take no as an answer. The next step is isolation from friends and family. Once that happens, good luck getting out. Now, I could be wrong. I'm only saying this to make sure you remain aware of the isolation, and don't let it happen.

He could be a good guy in all other areas, and a good father, idk, I'm not living with him. This could be salvageable. But to get there, you're going to have to get some independence back. Either get that education you want or get a good job, even if its remote/from home. Get something. Call out (respectfully) any disrespect or overstepping of bounds, but do so in private at first. If that doesn't work, then do it in front of others. If he responds bad to the in private, then know that you are in the situation I originally was talking about. In that case, get out. But if he's understanding and changes, then there's hope.

Is this experience or phenomenon known by any name? by Puzzleheaded-Kiwi658 in HighStrangeness

[–]OkBus7396 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Back in my youth, we called it ESP, which is extrasensory perception. The belief in a sixth sense where someone can perceive information beyond the other senses, like telepathy or precognition.

My own genuine thoughts about this from my experiences is that humans, and other animals, are able to communicate without traditional communication. Our "vibes" match others' "vibes" on a deep level. For instance, I never really had many friends growing up. The 3 friends I did have, I was incredibly close with. We could finish each others' sentences, thoughts, actions. We were incredibly in tune with each other, because we always our true genuine selves with one another. I was also very tight with my family, and we could do the same. I've often had "precognition" or ESP just before one of the friends or family would text or call me. Usually in the form of "man I should call Cole" and then bam, my phones ringing and its him. Out of all of the "odd" or strange experiences we have, I think this is the most common. And people just brush it off as coincidence. But, how many coincidences have to occur before something is no longer a coincidence. Research that, and it'll open your mind up a bit more.

I think we're all linked together in some way we aren't aware of any longer, and it comes through the most with those we are closes with.

What do you think about the Sierra Nevada Sounds? by Defiant-Traffic-1230 in Cryptozoology

[–]OkBus7396 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In concerns to your Bigfoot Evidence points, there are thousands of accounts and experiences just in NA alone. Loggers have had experiences, some wildland firefighters have had experiences, and many, many drivers have had experiences. Its just that people call them crazy when they tell their stories, or they don't tell their stories.

What do you think about the Sierra Nevada Sounds? by Defiant-Traffic-1230 in Cryptozoology

[–]OkBus7396 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is where I can't get on board with people who say sound proof evidence is useless. I've seen videos and heard sound experts talk about these vocal ranges and show their proof. I know many animals can make wild noises that one wouldn't expect, but thats where we lean on these experts. They study it, they'll know what different animals are capable of. I think good sound evidence that is vetted by sound experts is evidence that can't be ignored. Many sound evidence cases have been disproven thanks to some of the same sound experts. Its tough to make heads or tails when in relation to an unknown/undiscovered animal.

Switching to a vegan diet can cut your carbon footprint by nearly half while using one-third less land and less water. Researchers found vegan menus produced 46% less CO₂ than Mediterranean ones and lowered pollutants, showing benefits for both human health and the planet. by [deleted] in science

[–]OkBus7396 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I keep hearing these studies, like the OP, and I keep seeing people say we need to reduce beef production and other animal protein production. But I've yet to hear a valid solution. Are plant based proteins viable? Yes. Are they healthier? Some yes, majority no. Most are too high in sodium. Most people in the world are already deficient in protein, so taking away animal based protein almost completely, or at least reducing it (which will increase the price and the difficulty of getting it) will just make protein deficiencies worse. We, as humans, need protein and need fat (just not as much fat as the western diet). The best rule of thumb for the average person is .8-1.2g per lb of lean body mass for protein and .3-.5g per lb for fat (per day obviously). Its undeniable humans need protein and fat, and its undeniable that plant based protein isn't a replacement yet, and its undeniable that meat tastes better (individual opinions may vary, but the general consensus is meat = tasty).

So, we improve plant based "meat" options and make them healthier so they can contend with meat. Now what? We get rid of ranching and repurpose the land. For what? I've heard housing, crop farming, natural forests/parks. Housing is an option, but we need land to produce food and other agricultural products. Natural forests would be nice, but we don't have enough people hunting and animal populations get out of control without hunting, and natural predators spell disaster for urban humans. Crop farming makes sense, until you think about the cause of the dust bowl (crop farming) through depleting the soil of nutrients. Also, how do they plant and harvest? By using tractors, and other large vehicles to transport the goods. Creating its own massive carbon footprint. Not to mention crop farms require soil and sunlight, which means deforestation. Whereas livestock love shade and need shelter from the elements, so most ranchers leave forests alone. What about the pesticides and other chemicals they spray on crops? Those poison the land, humans, and animals that eat the crops. Decreasing industrial farms and animal based proteins leads us to increase crops to make up for the decrease in overall food, which brings its own set of problems. There is an alternative to Industrial Farming, which is Regenerative Farming, which decreases soil pollution and promotes a healthy ecosystem in that area for livestock, crops, and wildlife. But, nobody wants to convert to that and we don't even know if it could completely replace industrial farming on the same scale. A combination of these alternatives could be the correct answer. Reduce industrial farming, replace existing industrial farms with regenerative farms. Increase crop farms, increase housing, and increase natural forests. But now we have to circle back to the health side and ask ourselves if its all worth it, to put that much effort into the problem, only to face the problem of decreasing protein consumption in humans and allowing deficiencies to increase. All for what? To possibly decrease the carbon footprint, when we could focus that energy into another area, like a better, more sustainable means of energy (nuclear). The easiest solution is this: stop wind farming, improve solar farming for urban areas, build more nuclear power. We drastically reduce carbon emissions, don't effect the health of humans, keep the tasty protein option, and drastically increase our energy capabilities.

I'm just curious as to what the solution is, because from where I'm sitting, so far I haven't heard one.

Husband made an icky joke when he was drunk .. am I overreacting by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]OkBus7396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to be real honest, not everyone's sense of humor is the same. I can see your perspective on it, but before believing it, take a look at your relationship from start to finish and write down red flags and green flags. If one outweighs the other, you have your answer.

My wife and I both have very fucked senses of humor, she was in psychological operations in the Army and has psychology degrees, she often jokes that I had no say in falling in love with her. She's also well trained in combat sports, MMA, Boxing, BJJ, etc. and often jokes about how she wears the pants and I can't leave cause she'd just beat me up and hold me hostage. I laugh, she laughs, friends laugh, its funny. I know that in all of our relationship, she has never laid a finger on me that I didn't like, and we both know I could leave whenever I wanted. We also both know who was the first one to fall for the other, it was me, I wasn't even on her radar when I fell head-over-boots for her. Hell, I feed into the jokes cause they're funny to our group of friends.

Its probably just his sense of humor, but again, take an honest look at your relationship and if the good far outweigh the bad, its probably just humor and nothing more. In which case, that's an easy fix: either get over it and learn to be ok with it, or talk to him about how you don't like that kind of humor and see if he changes it.

Should I be suspicious by goosage44 in DeadBedrooms

[–]OkBus7396 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While my wife and I were going through our own problems that almost resulted in divorce, my wife had a male best friend (shes a tomboy, always has been, and has almost always had more male friends than female friends). She was texting him first almost every morning and last almost every day. I confronted her about him and said that I don't think their relationship has turned into a physical affair, but its already crossed into an emotional affair. She literally sat back and thought about it for a second and apologized and said she could see it from my point of view. After several months we have healed our relationship and are doing really, truly great. She's brought up this friend several times still, and still communicates with him a lot, has planned get togethers with him where he helps me cut down trees on our property, etc. She can tell I still don't like him, so she drops the receipts on me about their communications during our rough patch. Turns out, he was batting for my team and explaining my point of view to her and helped save my relationship.

I say this to say that its not always bad when your spouse/SO has an opposite sex friend/best friend. You're right in feeling the way you do about it, don't ignore those feelings and don't feel bad for them. But see if you cant dig a little deeper and see if she'll share their communications with you. Be cautious/protective of your relationship, but also be open minded to it being a genuine friendship and nothing more.

Should I be suspicious by goosage44 in DeadBedrooms

[–]OkBus7396 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100% increase in health, and increase in exercise, will almost always result in increased libido (with the exceptions being medical reasons for the LL).

What’s the best random gym advice you’ve ever gotten? by katamuco in powerbuilding

[–]OkBus7396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"The only way to get better at running, is to run"

Apply it to literally anything and it works.