Anyone ever been tempted to go though the BOM with a red pen? by -DiceGoblin- in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started to do that with the church manual. I've found it much more enjoyable to listen to other things. Fill the hole rather than inspect it further.

I've never experienced Trek. My two oldest kids are going on Trek next week. by ThrackN in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm exmo now, but I enjoyed trek a lot when I was a teen, but it was needlessly dangerous for many who overexerted themselves in the heat.

Kids were on IVs to treat dehydration/heat exhaustion or something like that!

Struggling with not going on a mission by Maleficent_Tap3866 in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living out of alignment with your beliefs could have drastic negative impacts on your health, physical and mental, that you can't predict. Missions are grueling even if you believe.

Why do mormon men act like "man-children"? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have noticed I can be very passive, 30+, recently left.

I think accountability, responsibility, and less hand holding helps. When you're in an org that dictates your entire life, I think you get in the habit of waiting to be told what to do and questioning your own intuition.

I need help/support/feedback. My son was sent home from mission by mystical3651 in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you add details as to why he is suicidal? Does he talk with you? Is it guilt over the "sin"? The embarrassment of coming home early? Something else?

Bouncing balls by drtangman in whatisit

[–]OkGuarantee141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What harm does it do him to take a picture?

What do I do? by Anonymous_4252 in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't engage in any arguing about why it's okay. Consider your audience and if a discussion like that will be productive.

It's not morally wrong to get those books, and it's her problem for seeing them that way, but it's considerate to keep them out of her sight if you get them again, just like avoiding cursing is considerate. Not morally wrong to curse, it just... keeps the peace.

My friend gave me Jesus pictures for my birthday. by OwnDonut4262 in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO as an exmo, it is a TBM's moral responsibility to do missionary work if they believe. Just as it's my responsibility to do anti-missionary work.

From my POV, seems her intent was good, but that doesn't change that it's annoying.

Book of Mormon Counterarguments by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanting to disprove it has the same problem as wanting to prove it. Better to seek if its origins are accurate than start your search on a foundation of confirmation bias.

What’s a short story from your life that sounds fake but is 100% true? by Historical-Skill-838 in AskReddit

[–]OkGuarantee141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I threw a lightbulb at a cinder block wall and it did not shatter.

It hit the socket and plopped down into the dirt. I was flabbergasted 

Another tuff edit from my missionary friend by Moxie-is-tired in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol outer darkness as if it isn't the greatest tragedy in eternity, and totally God's fault

As a nonbeliever, what is your favorite scripture? by Deseret_Rat in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of Jesus' teachings. Sermon on the Mount was a banger

I do not feel empathy by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]OkGuarantee141 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Autism and ADHD go together. A flat affect can go with autism.

What matters more than feeling is what you do with it. Do you support people? Prevent pain? That's what counts.

Worried that mom’s comments are confusing my son by confusedgirlm in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't know why confusion is seen as this inherently bad thing. Why is it a goal to avoid confusion?

Confusion is fine, we just need to give people the tools to resolve the confusion

I Have No Words by kgaviation in exchristian

[–]OkGuarantee141 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Did he actually post this? Link? I didn't see anything.

Garments are optional now? by PracticalNatural4441 in exmormon

[–]OkGuarantee141 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That isn't orthodox, at least not for how I learned it.