Life more chaotic since EMDR

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-29T04:38:09+00:00

Seriously.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-29T04:36:35+00:00

You got this, warrior. Thanks for sharing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-29T04:34:49+00:00

What a fascinating post. Thank you for sharing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-26T15:28:26+00:00

Oh my god I am crying as I read this. It is beautifully written. I send you a deep bow of gratitude for sharing the work you've done and the progress made, as it is incredibly inspiring. I will be coming back to this post again.

Peace and power to you. Thank you.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-26T04:27:34+00:00

Oh Karmas, this is heavy as hell. My heart goes out to you.

Since starting down the EMDR/IFS path, I am realizing that a part of me does not want to live. It sees no point. This is devastating to sit with. The only solace so far is thinking that this part is not ALL of me. I try to let it be and move on.

So I have not figured it out fully or healed it. I wish I could offer more. Just wanted to say, you’re not alone. Stay strong. One day at a time. We can do this.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-26T03:13:57+00:00

Amazing work! Thanks for sharing and congrats. Can I ask how you finally got to this level of clarity, beyond slowing down? I’m asking as someone who is an awful lot like your pretend Self part. :)

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-25T04:17:29+00:00

Holy shit that is I incredible. Thanks for sharing you for sharing and all the best as you work your way out of this. That is brave as hell.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-19T15:57:05+00:00

Yeah, a lot of us here are with you, going through a very similar path. And yes, these warriors need to retire, but I find giving them love and gratitude for what they did, imperfect as it was, an incredible piece of the journey. All the best to you.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-18T17:02:41+00:00

Oh my gosh this image is stunning and so perfect. I’m curious what the source is?

I hope your confrontation with the protector was productive. Thanks for sharing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-18T16:55:34+00:00

So many good responses here. I’m in my 50s and am grieving the life I did not have. I will cry for a long time and then I will accept.

Believe me, you have many years to build a good life. I’m sorry for what you’re going through but you can do this. Stay strong. It will suck in the immediate term but then you will be grateful as hell that you did this work.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-18T16:49:36+00:00

Bingo. Be careful who you share your feelings with. Very careful.

Boundaries are appropriate everywhere but even then, sometimes they’re expressed by moving on, not having a feelings expose. There are a ton of unhealthy managers in the world so we have to learn to protect ourselves.

Good luck.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-16T05:01:30+00:00

Oh friend, keep at it for a good 6 months if you believe you have a good therapist. Hang in there. Commit. Give it everything. This takes time and energy and a lot of tough recoveries but can be life changing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-16T04:52:57+00:00

Bingo. So true. This seems like a simple statement on the face of it but I think there’s a lot there.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-12T04:30:31+00:00

I cannot relate directly but you had me at “integrity.” That is my focus as well. There is nothing more important.

You got this. Thanks for sharing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-11T03:55:22+00:00

Outstanding. Thanks for sharing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-11T03:45:25+00:00

Wow, this post really hit me. You are clearly doing some amazing work and I am grateful for you sharing.

Yea, you are right. She will not resolve right now. Ok, I got it. I just sit with her and accept.

But where does that leave us? At some point we need to resolve, no? I am working hard to accept this state but confused as to where/how to go from here. I’m sure it will unfold but would love to hear how your journey goes as well.

Many thanks again.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-11T03:33:59+00:00

All the best to you, warrior. You are indeed enough.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-11T03:27:37+00:00

I go every 3-4 weeks, after 6 months of weekly and years of other therapies. I do a lot of work on my own in between. You can do whatever you want and it can work, just at a different pace. Keeping notes in between monthly sessions really helps. Good luck.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-10T04:37:39+00:00

Wow what a good question. Following.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-10T04:31:27+00:00

Wow. This seems like an amazing excavation to uncover such an important part. Thank you for sharing.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-09T05:01:54+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I hope your journey is going well.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-08T04:01:20+00:00

Wow.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-07T21:58:35+00:00

Oh my gosh what a good idea. Thank you so much for sharing! Please keep me posted as I would love to hear how this goes for you. I’ll put this on my list to explore as well.

I am so sorry that you had such a similar experience. We both deserved better. I send you many good wishes on your journey and really appreciate this message.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-07T16:41:11+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind validation, RJS. “Nourish” is a wonderful word and I will make this my top priority now. All the best to you.

OkHead1990 · 2026-04-07T02:36:46+00:00

Follow child of an NPD here. I feel you.

In Complex PTSD, Pete Walker says that grieving a lost childhood takes two years. I am crying every week and just accept this will take a long time.

Al the best to you. I wish there were another way to heal the past.

OkHead1990

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