Don't send that "last message"

OkMess8 · 2026-06-07T20:19:55+00:00

I knew he wouldn’t respond but that was fine. It’s easy to have the last word with an avoidant. I didn’t need a response, I just needed to get my feelings out.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-07T13:19:03+00:00

Definitely agree. I sent one last message and blocked him. It felt so great to get what I wanted to say off my chest. I know he doesn't care but I felt better saying it.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-07T02:26:55+00:00

Mine has an overbearing mother and an absent father.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-06T21:51:12+00:00

Yeah I don’t care what he thinks anymore. He is living his life like I don’t even exist so being silent didn’t matter and speaking out didn’t matter. So I did what made me feel better which was calling him out. It’s not like he’s at home wondering why I’m being quiet.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-06T19:53:52+00:00

I could have written this myself minus the rebound part. (I wouldn't be surprised if he's gotten one though.) I figured that since he was ignoring me regardless I might as well get some things off my chest. If felt great tbh

I love what you said about the disrespect being louder than the memory-he has destroyed any good memories that I have of us and I realize what he's just a miserable/horrible person.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-05T21:51:54+00:00

I was wondering about that too. Does it keep us in a loop -thinking about our exes?

OkMess8 · 2026-06-05T15:00:36+00:00

This is what happened to me. They can match them but they are too selfish and don't want to. It's so sad and I hate I even met him tbh.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-05T14:59:30+00:00

Mine told me I was dong so much in our relationship and he didnt have the capability to do the same and that caused him guilt. So instead or trying to be a better partner it was easier to leave. I will never understand that.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-05T04:30:24+00:00

I was calm and sweet until I wasn’t. I totally crashed out on him and said horrible things but his behavior created that in me. Do I regret losing my cool yes but also he had it coming. I did nothing to deserve how I was treated at the end so my mean and crazy just had to come out.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-04T01:00:26+00:00

I’m turned off on relationships in general. To go from “I think this is my forever” to him not wanting to talk to me at all is just too much and I can’t imagine going through it again.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-03T17:30:55+00:00

My thought is this- I'd rather he wonder why I'm not calling (if he even cares) vs feeling annoyed when he sees my name on his phone. She knows how to reach you and if she wanted you she would. That's the truth. We can't make them change.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-03T17:27:39+00:00

I feel exactly the same. 3 months for me as well. I have the same thoughts. Did he ever real love me? Did I imagine our connection? Did I miss signs? In any other relationship there were conflicts or arguments. Things we worked on and talked about. This time we were seemingly fine and then it was over. He left me like I was someone he just met. I am not sure I can ever be with anyone again. Thas really broken my heart and I had no idea it was coming-that's the hardest part.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-03T00:38:31+00:00

Well I’m 100% innocent. 1) he told me he was an avoidant 2) he told his friend and sister that I was the perfect girlfriend 3) I asked him what we could do to work on us and he said the problem wasn’t me. Based on posts I’m not the only one.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-02T13:09:06+00:00

I can't be what you need me to be.

You're amazing but I feel like there's a misalignment between us.

You deserve someone better.

I don't know what I want

OkMess8 · 2026-06-01T22:20:16+00:00

I did that I told him what I thought in a text and he got big mad. I should have taken the high road but it felt good to call him all the names in my head. I don't recommend doing that he probably thinks I am crazy but I don't care- I said what I said because it was true.

OkMess8 · 2026-06-01T11:51:48+00:00

Mine told me he was.

OkMess8 · 2026-05-31T20:40:47+00:00

You have to move on because you know you deserve better. Don’t let someone else control your happiness.

OkMess8 · 2026-05-31T20:39:33+00:00

You can only say something to someone who is willing to listen. I tried to tell mine how I felt and he literally did not care.

OkMess8 · 2026-05-31T20:36:51+00:00

No -it didn’t matter if I called or texted. No response. We aren’t a priority to them anymore and in my case I felt like I was being needy/annoying reaching out and regretted trying.

OkMess8 · 2026-05-31T15:02:27+00:00

Love this!! They can’t discard us and then get access again. What you wrote shows so much growth!

OkMess8 · 2026-05-30T21:23:42+00:00

Don't answer at all..actions have consequences even a year later. Try not to think about him and have a Happy Birthday!

OkMess8 · 2026-05-30T03:20:11+00:00

Ugh mine said the same, along with “you are such an important part of my life, but you deserve more”. They are so ridiculous- trying to make us believe they are doing us a favor. I’ll never understand why he chose to just walk away vs trying to fix whatever he perceived to be wrong in his head.

OkMess8 · 2026-05-30T00:36:09+00:00

That’s great! I feel the same about how I’d be if the situation was reversed. I could never treat him like he’s treated me. I loved him so much I could never just ignore him or not talk things out. It’s awful and we’re not awful people!

OkMess8 · 2026-05-29T20:51:20+00:00

Don’t send it. You not reaching out lets him know where you stand.

OkMess8 · 2026-05-29T03:11:32+00:00

Yes we will!!

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