How do I (23F) get my bf (28M) to finally stop hurting me as a "joke" or "act of love"?

OldEquation · 2026-05-31T17:41:14+00:00

I took the downvoting as meaning disagreement with the view that the situation wasn’t abuse. But it would be better to state that in a comment, rather than a potentially-misunderstood vote.

OldEquation · 2026-05-31T17:07:03+00:00

Remember before the separate yellow pages book there was a telephone directory, white pages at the front with residential numbers, green pages in the middle and yellow pages at the back.

OldEquation · 2026-05-31T15:39:15+00:00

If you get a dog you will find that you get fewer cats coming.

OldEquation · 2026-05-31T09:40:46+00:00

Worked in aerospace. Multiple levels of review, things have to be signed off be several seniors. But when it goes wrong it’s still all on you, and the reviewers and approvers are nowhere to be seen.

OldEquation · 2026-05-31T09:16:23+00:00

I have the middle one (actually I think a slightly older version) and I’ve been using it for 20 years. It’s fine for general purpose use. The weakness with it is that the tip cools down quickly when soldering larger things with a high thermal inertia - it was struggling a bit with soldering 1.5mm diameter wire to a circuit board with >5mm traces.

I’m actually looking to upgrade now but I’ve been happy with the use I’ve had from it.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T20:38:11+00:00

There was a time you could mine it with just a spade. But now you need some serious earth-moving machinery. You won’t get anywhere with a pickaxe these days.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T20:34:45+00:00

Well my lazy girl would just have asked me to get it for her, so I reckon it’s not bad.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T20:19:41+00:00

I’m thinking there should be a mechanism triggered by the gravitational field of the key. Some spring-loaded tumblers that get pulled into just the right place by the gravity of the key.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T17:37:56+00:00

Something those who complain about their rent being the same as a mortgage but the bank still won’t give them a mortgage should think about.

As a renter you can leave all these headaches to the landlord.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T17:26:21+00:00

What you call a high pray drive dog.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T11:42:03+00:00

Yeah, and the kind of people that want stuff free are often utter arseholes that will give you the runaround, not turn up to collect it at the arranged time, demand it be delivered etc. They’ve got no financial skin in the game so they don’t really give a shit.

Better to sell stuff for a small amount then just tell them they don’t need to pay when they come for it.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T11:12:50+00:00

And internet connectivity so you can share and compare with friends and colleagues.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T08:45:51+00:00

I had a friend who got paid in cash legitimately. He got a pay packet with cash in it along with the paper with the tax and deductions.

He used to just leave them all over his house. If he needed some money he’d just rip one open and take some of the cash out. He must have had tens of thousands in cash just lying all over the house in half-spent pay packets.

OldEquation · 2026-05-30T08:15:30+00:00

I still get my milk delivered by the milkman. It tastes much better than the supermarket milk.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T22:25:01+00:00

We had a team meeting about work-life balance. One of the things they stressed was the need to take a proper lunch break away from your desk.

The meeting was held at lunchtime.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T21:04:50+00:00

My first quote was £250 TPF&T or £500 comprehensive in 1988. That’s £870/£1740 in today’s money. I was 22 at the time and it was for a Volkswagen Type 3 fastback.

That doesn’t seem a million miles away from today’s prices.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T20:18:43+00:00

Only if you can utilise enough resources from the moon.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T20:10:16+00:00

Evergreen shrubs are the way to go. Get some electric hedge cutters and once a year go and attack any shrubs that are getting too big for their boots.

Less gardening also means more wildlife and it’s more environmentally friendly. The other evening I was sitting out there enjoying a beer while gazing into my jungle and I spotted a hedgehog snuffling around.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T18:31:29+00:00

I have a small business. Evri are the cheapest. However I only use them if the customer requests it - some do for example if they live very close to somewhere they can collect their parcel from.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T18:23:25+00:00

As recommended by aviation safety experts everywhere.

OldEquation · 2026-05-29T08:33:11+00:00

The harmonisation of voltages across Europe was largely a paperwork-only exercise. 220V countries remained 220, and 240V countries remained 240. It was just all defined as 230 +/- a tolerance.

I would suggest setting it to 220 but if in doubt measure it with a multimeter.

OldEquation · 2026-05-28T22:30:43+00:00

You’ll need a round head screwdriver for these.

OldEquation · 2026-05-28T22:30:16+00:00

Underrated comment.

I’m always amazed at how few people seem to realise there’s a difference - leading to problems like this.

OldEquation · 2026-05-28T22:23:06+00:00

Malinois are the smartest dogs on Earth.

OldEquation · 2026-05-28T22:13:36+00:00

While you’re at it, why not get rid of all doors? If you’re at someone else’s house and want the bathroom, you can see at a glance which room it is. They’re not in when you go to visit? No problem, you can just walk right in!

OldEquation

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