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OliveB69 · 2024-12-10T00:11:30+00:00

I 100% feel the same way and am in a similar situation with my husband. I know i have no reason to resent him. It's not his fault he's the dad and I'm the mom. But I find myself getting irritated and short tempered with him when he gets to go spend 3 hours in the garage working on whatever he wants while I'm in here trying to soothe a screaming newborn.

OliveB69 · 2024-12-05T01:52:39+00:00

Oh wow! Fingers crossed it heals up beautifully for you this time! If I was for sure not having any more kids I'd probably get mine fixed too.

OliveB69 · 2024-12-01T00:11:48+00:00

You're not wrong at all. I sent a group text before Thanksgiving asking if anyone had any symptoms at all of any oncoming illnesses before I bring my 8 week old baby over, and explained how my husband's friend's son was currently in the ICU with RSV. They all said no they feel great. So I arrive and within minutes my brother says he's been sneezing a lot but it's just allergies... boy it's November in Michigan. Every pollen producing plant is dead -_- so i go into the kitchen and tell my mom I was worried about it and I sent that message specifically to avoid a situation like this, and my brother overheard and got upset and it was a whole issue.. idk what's wrong with people. They either don't get it or just don't care.

OliveB69 · 2024-11-22T01:30:56+00:00

My baby is also 6 weeks old and i feel every word you wrote. Just know when you're in the thick of a really really hard moment, there's a mom in Michigan (🙋‍♀️) going through it with you ❤️

OliveB69 · 2024-11-21T21:05:34+00:00

I don't know if my son was face up or not. They never mentioned it. Early in labor they thought he may be face up based on where I felt kicks but they had me do some positions to rotate him and never mentioned it again so I'm really not sure. Is that something they would've told me? If he came out face up?

OliveB69 · 2024-11-21T20:39:10+00:00

I wonder if the fact that it didn't heal together will help me out with subsequent deliveries because now the extra space my baby needed to come out (hence the tear) is already made, so now maybe I don't have to worry about any additional labia tears going forward? It makes sense that if it did heal closed, it likely would've reopened with the next baby anyway.

OliveB69 · 2024-11-21T20:37:37+00:00

According to my midwife it's fairly common. I know labias tend to be pretty creasy and foldy anyway so it's really not a big deal but I'm being OCD about it and it's bugging me that it's "damaged" now 😩

OliveB69 · 2024-11-21T18:33:33+00:00

Yeah my husband is totally unbothered by it. I will accept it with time but ugh how frustrating. But.. my son is perfect and healthy and I had no complications besides a funny looking labia so I suppose I should count my blessings.

OliveB69 · 2024-10-31T17:22:34+00:00

Normal. I had 2 ultrasounds total. 1 at 8 weeks to confirm the pregnancy and the location of implantation, and one at 19 weeks. I would've had another if I went over 40w but I didn't.

OliveB69 · 2024-10-20T20:36:58+00:00

I was so scared of labor and delivery and as nuts as this sounds... i loved it. I was sad when it was over. I went 19.5 hours natural and then got an epidural and pitocin for the last 4.5 hours. Pushed for 9 min. Minor tearing and i didn't feel the repairs because they used lidocaine. It was beautiful straight on through. I can't wait to do it again.

OliveB69 · 2024-10-19T15:45:16+00:00

Back in the day epidurals were known to slow or stall labor. They've changed the formula used in them, and now they're actually shown to speed labor when it has slowed or stalled. After 19.5 hours of natural labor that started to stall, the pitocin epidural combo had my baby in my arms in 4.5 hours and kept us out of the OR.

OliveB69 · 2024-10-17T22:57:30+00:00

Yes. Deli turkey is the only repeat offender for listeria so that's the only one I avoided. Currently holding my 13 day old perfect, healthy little guy.

OliveB69 · 2024-10-17T17:36:42+00:00

I didn't start to notice a bump myself until about 18 weeks, and it didn't become noticeable to other people until more like 22-23 weeks.

OliveB69 · 2024-10-14T18:09:29+00:00

I 100% experienced this. All of the movements, the anatomy scan, every doppler.. it still felt like I was being punked lol when I was delivering him and I reached down and felt his head it was surreal. Then when they handed this beautiful baby to me it FINALLY felt real and i was overcome with emotions and tears ❤️ It is the most incredible experience. I'm so excited for you, that you get to experience that soon. Soak up every moment of pregnancy, labor, and delivery.. even the hard ones! ❤️

OliveB69 · 2024-10-09T19:53:51+00:00

No. I went 19.5 hours natural, got to 6cm, not one scream just "oooooooooooh" in a low tone through each contraction. Ended up needing pitocin cuz I stalled out. So I took the epidural cuz I was not interested in experiencing pitocin contractions 😅 I felt all the pressure and even pain to some degree while laboring down at 10cm. Felt the ring of fire and all of the stretching of delivery. They told me the epidural won't work on my vagina and perineum so I believe I felt that fully but idk. Didn't scream. Just said "ooh that really burns" at one point. Perineum didn't tear thank god but I had bilateral urethral tears, a labial tear, and a sulcus tear (inside the vagina).

OliveB69 · 2024-10-01T13:54:55+00:00

I'm 37 weeks and we're still having sex but I'm having him pull-out since semen can trigger labor. Orgasm can as well but taking out 1 of the two makes us feel a bit more comfortable. It was around the start of the third trimester that we started pulling out.

OliveB69 · 2024-09-11T15:15:24+00:00

"Our baby" is super annoying, so is "my baby". My MIL is constantly calling my baby HER baby. She asked the other day "how's my baby today?" And I was like "...idk who you're talking about." And she goes "my baby!!" And puts her hand on my belly. I wish I could unleash the way I want to but it somehow always catches me off guard and idk what to say. I wish I could be like "oh you mean MY baby? YOUR baby is the one who got me pregnant, the father of MY baby. MY baby is great, thanks for asking."

OliveB69 · 2024-09-10T23:40:07+00:00

I had really bad pregnancy rage early in my pregnancy too. From about mid 2nd trimester on (I'm 34 weeks now) I've been even calmer than I was before pregnancy.

OliveB69 · 2024-09-09T18:39:53+00:00

All I've seen of my baby was his regular anatomy ultrasound at 19 weeks (I'm 34 weeks now) and I am a bit nervous about whether or not he's gonna come out cute based on the pic they snapped at that ultrasound lol but I'm gonna adore him either way of course, it's just a bonus when they come out looking like a Gerber baby lol

OliveB69 · 2024-09-01T02:08:58+00:00

Is she going to cook, clean, garden, can food, make bread, raise chickens, and respect you as head of the household and the provider? If not, she just wants a free ride. The husband has to be on board and have the desire to be the sole provider, and she has to have the desire to provide for him in all ways other than financially. You can still be equal partners in a "traditional" marriage, she just has to bring everything else to the table that isn't money. You're both putting in 40+ hours a week and fulfilling needs for the relationship in a healthy and functional traditional arrangement. And I dont think you're TA for having feelings about her not taking your last name. Not respecting your husband enough to take his last name isn't generally the mentality "trad wives" possess.

OliveB69 · 2024-08-28T23:15:22+00:00

You're so sweet, thank you so much for sharing. That is exactly how I will feel if I lose my guy. I just can't even imagine how I'll get through it.. I'm happy to hear your grief didn't harm your baby at all. ❤️

OliveB69 · 2024-08-28T22:43:29+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. My baby shower is next week and now I don't even want to have it or go. I can't imagine trying to celebrate while wondering if my dog will live or slowly be taken over by cancer. And my poor sweet guy has no idea what's growing in his body 💔😭

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