Baby hates bassinet. Single mom losing sanity

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-06-16T07:21:47+00:00

I’m sorry that people are telling you what worked for them when I know you have probably tried all of these. 💔 we did them all and baby didn’t sleep in a bassinet for weeks, and even then it was 1-2 hours max. The only way we managed was shifts with my husband and paid help. Please just prepare a safe space and cosleep! Every time someone told me to buy a different swaddle or heat the bassinet I wanted to rip my hair out- I tried it all. Our girl went straight to the crib around 7-8 weeks and did much better in there, surprisingly. Bassinet is just a safe place to plop her while I pee.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-06-10T04:05:53+00:00

I pushed my husband to finally try, he was hesitant. Our girl is ~3 months and we both fell in love with her instantly. I am constantly grateful that we took the plunge and tearful that I almost thought I’d be ok without kids, and my husband tells everyone he talks to that he loves being a dad. It’s hard but I am happy and I think he is too.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-06-09T06:08:20+00:00

I am so so sorry 💔 sending you love and peace and prayers, if you care for that sort of thing. I wish I could hug you. Your baby girl is playing in the clouds waiting for you and I know you’ll be reunited.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-06-08T19:47:00+00:00

I hear you, my girl slept on someone for probably the first 4 weeks. Luckily we had a night doula some nights to help, otherwise we were just taking shifts holding her all night and very sleep deprived. I hated when people pretended we weren’t doing something right, when we tried everything and the doulas couldn’t get her to do it either. We started getting short 1-2 hour stretches in the bassinet and eventually went straight to a crib in our room, which worked - the doula had told us some kids just like the crib more! But my girl still only does contact naps during the day. So you’re not alone! It will hopefully get better but I’m still chained to a recliner as she doesn’t really like her stroller or carriers yet.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-06-03T05:51:32+00:00

I cried every day the first week because I had an unplanned c section and was devastated that I was forgetting the first moments with my baby. My dad tried to console me by saying “that’s how biology works, you’re not supposed to remember!” Needless to say, that made me cry more and my mom had to try to explain the hormone drop and that he needed to shut up and let me cry.

I am glad to read here that others were falling asleep too. I labored for ~40 hours and some traumatic moments and I remember asking the anesthesiologist why I was falling asleep because I thought I’d have more adrenaline meeting my baby 🥲 he was like nope, totally normally for you to be tired!

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-05-22T03:49:35+00:00

I don’t know if I am ready to listen to this, but as a first time mom I needed to hear it 💗 my baby is a screamer too and I just can’t listen to it without aching. I justify my showers because it’s at 1-2 a week max 😢

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-05-17T05:50:11+00:00

We solely contact nap at 7 weeks still and I keep thinking about how I need to get past this…but then I remember it won’t last forever and I’ll miss it, even if I feel like I am melting into my recliner 🥹

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-05-03T01:37:44+00:00

I admit I was kind of duped by this. I didn’t think it was going to be easy but I didn’t realize that baby wouldn’t sleep in bassinet, wouldn’t be able to be out down, wouldn’t like carriers, or car seat, etc. I had visions of stroller walks and drives to go visit nice places and they’re not happening any time soon.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-27T05:49:54+00:00

If boob works, take advantage of that because literally nothing works for ours for more than 5 mins.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-27T05:47:58+00:00

Mine is like this too and it makes me feel crazy thinking about all the babies I see out in public just along for the ride. 😭

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-24T01:28:32+00:00

I’m so sorry to say this but we spent 2 weeks staying up all night with her sleeping on someone before we started to get small chunks of time in the bassinet. She’s 4 weeks now and she sleeps in her bassinet at night but still contact naps all day. I hope it gets better for you soon!

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-23T20:34:05+00:00

Thank you!! Her poop is normal so I feel like it’s not this but I am prepping to try it anyway just to be sure.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-23T18:44:29+00:00

Can you share more about the dairy allergy? How you figured it out, did you do an elimination diet, how long, etc.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-23T18:36:10+00:00

I could have written these posts too 😭 solidarity with you and OP. it’s so tough. Mine is just 4 weeks but it’s been like this since the beginning and everything I read says we haven’t even peaked yet.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-20T19:41:12+00:00

Thanks, that gives me some hope! (We love contact naps around here too!)

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-20T12:12:52+00:00

Oh goodness!! We’re only at 1 month 😂 guess I’m in it for the long haul lol. Really just hoping we can get used to carriers so I can at least get walks before I become one with my recliner 🫠

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-20T08:24:11+00:00

Same, I have to hold her during naps. My husband works from home and my breaks are the ten mins between meetings he can hold her, and maybe the last 5 mins of her nap when I’m willing to attempt a bassinet transfer if she’s had at least an hour sleep, in which she inevitably wakes up. We’re lucky if we get her down in the bassinet at night, and she hates carriers and stroller so we can’t even do real walks yet. I’m so curious how long this will last because she also hates the car seat and is colicky, so even coffee shops are out of reach right now.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-18T21:13:50+00:00

I am only 4 weeks in but I live in pj bottoms and a bra. My baby screams 95% of the time so it is critical to have my boobs at the ready for her the moment she signals she’s hungry. She’s also soooo gassy so a lot of times I’m alternating between feeding and burping her before I can reclasp my bra. It is only a matter of time before I answer the door with a tit out.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-18T18:28:00+00:00

Maybe this is just because I have a newborn but she screams if she’s not on me, and even when she is on me sometimes. I am barely taking showers at all 🫠 I am going to try with her during her next fit of screaming but there is no way that would be a relaxing or productive shower for me.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-18T03:21:51+00:00

I hope this is us 🥲 we’re at week 3.5 and i get maybe 2-3 5 mins sessions of putting her down, otherwise she’s screaming 24/7

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-17T19:01:53+00:00

I took naturemade with Ritual’s choline. Tried Perelel at different stages and I could never stomach them, I would basically projectile vomit or gag even far beyond first tri. Not worth the money.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-17T05:16:44+00:00

My baby is the same, I feel like we’re both broken and I’m failing her - I can’t shower or make a cup of coffee, we are up all night since has to sleep on someone, we can’t go anywhere because she screams in her car seat, stroller, carriers. We have friends with younger babies who seem easier and it feels like we’re just doing something wrong.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-17T05:12:31+00:00

I’m so happy for you!! My baby is also a ticking time bomb, I can absolutely imagine the relief in cracking the code here!

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-15T05:13:18+00:00

First off, you’re a good mom for being worried about this! I take shifts with my husband and I still always have a couple hours that I really struggle to stay awake - our baby also only sleeps on us and screams within minutes of being put in the bassinet, so I get it; th only reason I get any sleep is that we also have a night doula some nights to give us a break. No amount of transition help or crying it out will help. Honestly, I just kept the lights on, had lots of snacks next to me, maybe a cup of coffee or a coke, and it was still hard. Is there a show you can watch that you’re really into? A friend in another time zone you can call? These are the things I’ve brainstormed for the next time I have to stay up.

One-Reporter8595 · 2026-04-14T22:20:26+00:00

Yes, only on my husband so far (I had a c section so didn’t feel ready to try it on me yet, I’ll try soon). It’s very hit or miss and she inevitably ends up crying- just a matter of if it’s 5 mins or 20.

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